Is it wrong for a man to have virgin emotions?

There is nothing wrong in liking virgins, and there is nothing right or wrong in having such sexual psychological requirements. However, if both parties know that the other person is not a virgin before they fall in love and you cannot give up the idea of ​​​​virginity in your heart, you should not waste other people's youth and feelings. Because sex is everyone's right. A virgin can only be her virgin once. Once she has sex, she is no longer a virgin. If you cannot accept that your woman is not a virgin, please don't mess with others.

Why do men have such a virgin complex? Emotional experts analyze:

The most common reason behind the virgin complex is patriarchal anxiety. From time to time, I see some men angrily scolding non-virgins, saying that they are not worthy of getting married, that they have no right to complain about their husbands cheating on them, and that they deserve domestic violence...

This is a typical case of anxiety about male chauvinism, and the logic behind this is "find a reason for men to continue to rule over women" - why are they so angry? Of course, it is because male chauvinism has been challenged in modern times, and women's emphasis on control over their own bodies has made them increasingly panicked.

Another type of men do not belittle women, but just keep asking me "Will non-virgins forget the first one they had?" There are also those who firmly believe that the first man will change a woman's body structure, causing the offspring she bears with other men to have the characteristics of her ex. This type of man is afraid of being compared with the same sex, and the underlying reason is the ultimate anxiety about sexual performance. When facing experienced women, they worry about their performance; only when facing a virgin can they let go of the pressure and not be afraid of being defeated by another man - winning or losing is just a game they play with themselves.

Virginity is an age-old topic that readers often talk about to me. But times are changing after all: more than a decade ago, men talked about their virginity complex with confidence; but now, many people will add a sentence "I know I am feudal and outdated, but..." Society's acceptance of non-virgins is no longer the same.

Liking virgins is not outdated, because "worshiping first times" is a basic element and pioneering power of human culture: the first ear of rice in autumn, the first human footprint on the moon, the first time a woman became head of state, the first time a female astronaut went to space, the first time women's rights were written into the law...all are given profound significance. If humans gave up the pursuit of "first", many great civilizations would not have been born. Women are also beneficiaries of "worshiping the first time". The revival of the "chastity movement" in the West in recent years has attracted many women to participate. Virgins are always proud of their "purity".

It’s not wrong to “like” virgins, but being “obsessed” with them is another matter. In the cases I have come across, the parties involved, both men and women, were always anxious, frustrated and disappointed. The superficial reason was the "virgin complex", but there were more complex psychological motivations underneath, which had nothing to do with "worshiping the first time".

There is another type of man who is quite contradictory. When he finds out his girlfriend is not a virgin, he emphasizes that he "doesn't care". But when they have a fight, he uses this as a threat, "I tolerate you, why do you treat me like this?" If his girlfriend is sad and breaks up with him, he will try to keep her.

Once again, I emphasize that I "don't care, I just brought it up on impulse" - what this kind of man really wants is not a virgin, but a non-virgin. He needs a "tainted lover" so that he can catch her.

Use it to restrain the opponent when necessary. This kind of person is hostile to the world, lacks self-confidence, and always has to seize the weaknesses of others to feel safe.

Being obsessed with the virgin complex needs to be resolved through growth. Growing up means that men accept the truth that "there is no perfection in the world" and accept women as an equal gender.

Accept your inner contradictions and reconcile the conflicts in your personality...Obviously, this is not just a simple gender war. Therefore, the topic of virginity will continue.