What are the eight “first times” that girls should remember most?

What is the most important thing in a woman's life? This may be something every woman will ask herself. In fact, whether it is the first job or the first love, these seemingly ordinary things are another starting point in life for everyone. So, what are the things that women should know? Let's take a look!

What is the most important thing in a woman's life?

There are many "first times" in a woman's life, but which ones do you remember most? Here are eight "first times" that women should remember, which record a woman's growth and transformation into independence.

1. Receive your own salary for the first time

Girls who receive their first salary are often very excited and buy cosmetics, new clothes or gifts for their parents to declare that they have grown up. Sociologists have always regarded participation in social work and economic independence as the first threshold to women's independence. As the saying goes, "A man who eats someone's food should be grateful, and a man who takes someone's money should be grateful." Now more and more girls have learned from various social realities that only when they can make money to support themselves can they have real initiative in choosing their life, love, and social roles.

2. Buying a bra for the first time

The girl who went to the mall to buy a bra for the first time was too shy to answer the series of questions from the salesperson: What size is it? What color do you like? But the bras on the shelves with lace edges, thin ribbons, deep V and U shapes, and seamless designs, opened up the girl's first awareness of her unique attribute of "sexiness". Buying a bra for the first time alone means that we begin to recognize our identity as "women". Only a woman who recognizes the energy and beauty in her own body that is different from that of a man can exist as an independent person in a relationship between men and women.

3. Taking birth control pills for the first time

The first sexual intercourse is a recognized rite of passage, but having sexual experience does not necessarily make a woman a mature and independent woman. The patients coming and going in the obstetrics and gynecology department of the hospital are always those faces that think they are grown up but still cannot hide their immaturity and panic. When you fall in love with someone and are willing to share that sacred moment with him, then please take your first birth control pill. This will prove that you are a mature and independent woman better than your first night. The use of condoms depends on the man's mood, and the safe period depends on time and luck, so more and more girls are starting to choose one contraceptive pill a day. In the ups and downs of urban love tragedy and comedy, the new generation of women have deeply understood the principle of self-protection.

4. Traveling alone for the first time

Standing on the top of a mountain and shouting in the sunrise, riding a horse on the grassland, and reminiscing about the past while looking at historical relics, these are not romantic scenes in movies, nor are they exclusive to men. For a girl, traveling far away alone is a great thing. Planning your route, reading relevant materials, preparing various accompanying items, and facing various difficulties during the journey are all tests of your mind. Without the nagging concern of parents along the way, without the sweet and romantic mood with boyfriend and even forgetting to enjoy the scenery, there will be some loneliness, but it is the most direct communication and the purest dialogue between a woman and the world as an independent self.

5. Cooking for parents for the first time

In the eyes of their mothers, girls are always children who never grow up. Mothers do not want their little ones to become "independent" one day. One day, the daughter suddenly cooked a nice meal and placed it in front of her parents. At this time, they would definitely say in their hearts: Our daughter has finally grown up. Cooking your first meal for your parents marks your independence in family relationships. This means that you have learned basic survival skills and can take care of yourself if you leave them.

6. Living independently for the first time

After being used to the care and protection in a greenhouse, when you live independently for the first time, you will miss your parents, miss your home, feel lonely and scared. When night falls, you feel a little bit at a loss. You dare not turn off the lights to sleep, and you will become suspicious when you hear the toilet dripping. There are also some cunning neighbors, such as boys who pretend to come to your house to borrow books but actually have bad intentions. That’s right, the trivial life is not as easy to deal with as imagined. Women's independence is not just about being successful in the workplace and taking good care of themselves in life;

Learning to deal with problems such as water, electricity, repairs, and theft prevention; knowing how to enjoy freedom while resisting temptation, respecting oneself, these are all indispensable chapters for a woman to declare independence in life.

7. Going to the hospital alone for the first time

My parents and boyfriend are not around, and I don’t want to trouble my sisters when I have common illnesses like fever. Going to the hospital alone may sound like a somewhat sad scene, but it may be unavoidable if you are studying abroad or starting a business. Registering, seeing a doctor, picking up medicine, getting injections; it’s so painful to have to take care of these details while enduring the pain. But there is no need to be discouraged, such training will make you strong and brave. For a woman, independence also means lonely but tenacious persistence in the face of difficulties.

8. The first time I got over the hurt of love

The sweetness of first love is unforgettable, but the 99% failure rate of first love also means that there must be a bitter core in this sweetness. He fell in love with another girl, he is not as honest as you thought, he cheated on you, and the feeling of disappointment in love for the first time will always remain in your heart. On the road ahead, that feeling will always remind you to distinguish between dreams and reality, and become a footnote to your interpretation of love. And when you have experienced insomnia, tears, and finally come out of this hurt, you will transform into a truly emotionally independent woman.