What are men afraid of in bed?

1. Fear of women being fussy about things

Men worry about the size of their genitals as much as women worry about the size of their breasts.

By ignoring the issue - that is, not talking about it at all - you have helped him overcome his fear. When making love, just tell him that you feel good. His sexual confidence will be enhanced and he will be grateful for your consideration.

2. Fear of not knowing when women need more stimulation

"My wife usually caresses herself with her hands during sex. Sometimes, I use my hands to caress her, but she pushes my hands away. It really puzzles me."

In fact, most men don’t know much about women’s physiological structure. Therefore, you have to give him guidance: as little as possible, not with words, but with your hands. Just hold his hand and guide him to make movements that give you pleasure.

3. Fear of not being strong enough during sex

Men over 30 usually have this fear. Because men's sexual excitement decreases after the age of 30. If he really does encounter a situation where he is not "tough" enough, the problem will become more serious once you say it. The best solution is to caress him fully with your hands.

4. Afraid that she would fake an orgasm

Some women may equate faking an orgasm with saying something nice to someone else. In fact, the two are different. It's not that you shouldn't fake an orgasm. You can say, "I'm sorry, I was just too tired. But just being in close contact with you is satisfying."

5. Fear doesn’t last long

If a man's sex time only lasts for a few minutes, not only will he be dissatisfied, but he is also more afraid that his partner will be dissatisfied. Both men and women know that women take longer to become excited, take longer to reach orgasm, and need a certain amount of time for afterplay.

If he can't last that long, then increase the time of foreplay and afterplay, or add some new elements to sex, sex will not be fun.

6. Fear that your partner won’t want to add new ingredients

"I love my wife very much. The only thing I don't like about her is that she is too conservative in sex and doesn't want to try new things."

Indeed, the characteristics of sex vary. Some women are open and bold, while others are very conservative. In fact, as long as both parties truly love each other, sexual orientation is actually not important. But then again, if women were a little more open-minded and added some new elements to sex, it would be beneficial to the relationship between the two parties rather than harmful.