What is this “spiritual affair” that everyone yearns for?

Li Ting, 32, has been married for eight years. She works as a sales director in a company. Whenever she has a quarrel with her husband or is in a bad mood, she will ask Zhang Dong to go out for tea or a walk. Zhang Dong, a lawyer, often helps her analyze problems from a man's perspective, and he quotes extensively and speaks humorously. The content of their conversations is also taboo-free, and often touches on the most private areas of their hearts. This is something that Li Ting's good girlfriend and other male friends cannot do.

However, she and Zhang Dong have been together for many years and there has been no emotional misalignment. They just have more warm concern and mutual trust than ordinary friends. Li Ting knew in her heart that if she were given another chance to choose, she would still choose her current husband. What makes Li Ting particularly proud is that her husband is very confident in her extroverted sociability and he encourages his wife not to lose her independence and self after marriage.

Emotional Comprehension

Many people have this experience: after entering into marriage, when the mystery between husband and wife disappears, those heart-pounding actions, telepathic eyes, and sweet and romantic words are gradually sealed in memory. You slowly get used to such a life and let reality take its course. But don't forget that both men and women need the nourishment of love. If the love between you is still burning and you are unwilling to take the arm of a "third party", "spiritual affair" will naturally become the choice of most people.

"Spiritual affair" easily occurs among those who hope to find romance and release themselves. When they feel the dullness of life and the contradictions in their hearts, they find a vent in this way. When the passion and impulse are over, they still ensure the calmness of the water of life. Therefore, spiritual affair has become a red prescription that some people prescribe for themselves.

How to view the controversial "spiritual encounter"

1. A spiritual affair can satisfy temporary pleasure. A virtual affair is a mysterious garden deeply rooted in the heart. Those who fall into it simply use it to add more romance to their marriage, absorb the joyful fruits of the spiritual affair, and graft its fragrance into real life, thereby allowing the intimate relationship between you and your significant other to regain new vitality.

2. Spiritual affairs are beneficial to physical and mental health. A spiritual affair can satisfy the temporary lack of emotion in a marriage, has a psychotherapeutic effect, and is a remedy for maintaining a happy marriage.

3. Spiritual affairs can make the intimate relationship between the two sexes more dynamic. If there is a feeling that is beyond the love between a man and a woman that suddenly breaks into your heart, you might as well ask yourself: Why did it happen? Is the problem with yourself or is there a red light on your marriage?

4. It can alert the other spouse to launch a strong "marriage defense war". My marriage is "threatened" and my lover is about to "betray" me. It will stir up a strong sense of crisis in the other party between the couple, so that they can consciously do a good job in marriage management.

Of course, the dangers of "spiritual affair" do exist. The huge driving force behind "spiritual love" is the conflict between sexual energy and psychology, but at the same time marriage is an art of reconciliation, and the important thing is to grasp the scale of saltiness and sweetness. Once a spiritual affair occurs in a happy marriage, you are not actually tired of the ordinary life. On the contrary, it is a spice that interprets healthy emotions!