Do you really feel happier as time goes by?

The purpose of sexual intercourse, simply put, is to procreate and achieve the unity of the soul and the body. However, due to incorrect sexual concepts and excessive emphasis on the durability of sexual ability, people often mistakenly believe that durability is the key to a "sexually happy" and happy marriage life. This has also led to the emergence of various secrets, tricks, pills, wines, and medicines for prolonged sexual intercourse. However, is durability really the only secret to "sexual happiness"?

According to research, both at home and abroad, the duration of a sexual intercourse ranges from a few minutes to ten or twenty minutes, with a few minutes accounting for the majority. In fact, as early as the ancient times, people knew that during sexual intercourse, people’s defense ability is often the weakest, so most people would just end it hastily as long as it could pass on the family line. Today, people talk a lot about sex, and many people boast about their super-long and super-powerful sex as one of their prides. Some people even ridicule those who are in a hurry because they can have several battles a day and kill women forcing them to beg for mercy. However, is long-lasting sex really the happiness of "sexual happiness"?

The union of spirit and flesh, to be honest, is the strengthening of emotional harmony through sexual intercourse. Both men and women feel satisfied and reach a state of happiness and pleasure. To put it more directly, it is the so-called orgasm.

Of course, men and women differ in sexual desire, physiology and psychology, and the time of orgasm also varies.

Generally speaking, men's sexual impulses come and go quickly. On the contrary, women's reactions are slower. Therefore, some men believe that only longer-lasting sexual intercourse can make women reach orgasm. Of course, longer-lasting sexual ability also means that one is superior in physical strength and ability.

However, the time difference cannot be solved by "persistence". Men's sexual impulse and sexual intercourse are more about desire than or equal to emotion, while women are in a passive position, and their psychological cognition is often more about emotion than desire. In any case, emotion is the most important factor. Because if there is only the release of sexual desire but no emotion, it is no different from the so-called sexual transaction. With emotion as the foundation and as a mediator, women's desire can also be stimulated. For example, the cultivation of atmosphere before sexual intercourse, a clean and comfortable space, an accessible and noisy environment, gentle and appropriate flirting and caressing, and even harmless actions and videos can all accumulate women's sexual impulses. Through non-rough sexual behavior, both parties can achieve the unity of spirit and flesh and produce orgasm in a short time. In fact, although the vagina is elastic, repeated collisions and frictions back and forth do not necessarily make the female body feel happy. Sometimes it is even a burden or unpleasantness. Therefore, persistence in time is by no means the only secret to "sexual happiness".

Of course, if some men often have sex when the woman is just about to be aroused or hanging in mid-air, it is very disappointing and may even lead to so-called premature ejaculation, which often makes men unable to hold their heads up. Do not take so-called drugs indiscriminately. In addition to your wife's encouragement, do not forget to consult a urologist and let him solve the problem for you to avoid financial and physical loss.

These solutions include both psychological and physiological levels. Psychologically, one should first overcome tension, anxiety and over-excitement in response to the outside world. Physiologically, after entering the vagina, if one feels like ejaculating soon, one can pull out first. Repeating this several times can reduce the urge to get excited. Alternatively, one can press the glans with one's hand to produce a slight pain to block the excitement, or use a condom to block the sensitivity of the glans and frenulum. If one really cannot achieve the goal, one can also use local anesthetics. In addition, certain antidepressants, such as Prozac, can also achieve a therapeutic effect. Finally, one can surgically selectively cut off the nerves of the penis so that the excitement cannot be effectively transmitted. This is also a treatment method. Through these treatments, one can overcome premature ejaculation and fully enjoy sexual intercourse.