Why do cheating men like to act on their own?

In real life, we often hear that after some men have cheated, their wives’ earnest attempts to keep them, as well as the kind reminders from their relatives and friends, are all in vain. Sometimes, the more you advise him, the more rebellious he becomes, and the more he feels that others are "blocking" his good fortune. This cheating man is like a drug addict. He is obsessed with his extramarital affair, insists on his own way and becomes addicted to it. Stories like this happen around us every day, and it seems that once a man cheats, ten cows can't pull him back. It seems that a man’s mentality and psychological behavior after cheating are worth exploring. So, why do men like to go their own way after cheating? When will they wake up from this cheating dream? When will they realize the truth?

As we all know, no matter it is a man or a woman, when faced with one party cheating, there are actually not many options available to them. Either the relationship hits a wall and they come to their senses and go home; or the relationship breaks down and they stop entangled and break up. However, in real marriage life, generally speaking, there are not many men who cheat and actually break up and leave home. Most men are torn between the emotions of family and extramarital affairs, and become addicted to them and insist on their own way, and do not leave home even after cheating. One gets the impression that this man wants "the red flag to fly high at home" and also hopes for "colorful flags to flutter outside." Involved in extramarital affairs causes couples to torture each other in pain and live a painful life in torture.

So, why do men persist in having affairs after cheating? The reason is probably because he usually does not spend much time with the woman he is having the affair with, and while he is in "passionate love", he believes that there is true love between him and his lover. Everyone who has been in love knows this: its IQ will drop to zero, so they insist on their own way and refuse to give up. Even if outsiders think his lover is not even as good as his original wife, it cannot affect the judgment of a man who is in the whirlpool of love. Even if he sees that his lover has certain problems in life and is indeed worse than his original wife, he will refuse to believe it. Because in his opinion, denying a lover is denying himself. Therefore, the cheating man uses persistence to give himself an "explanation" for his feelings.

Just think about it, at this moment, a man immersed in "passionate love" has no room for this woman in his heart, and no willingness to listen to other people's "good advice". So, when will a man wake up from his dream of cheating? In my opinion, only when the lover sees that the man is no longer worth using and has a new love, or when he is tired of this game and plans to return to the family, and when he kicks the man hard in the heart with his leaving steps, his self-esteem will be hurt and he will have to wake up. I believe that men who have cheated will understand this point, because in many cases, it is not that men do not know, but that men are too confident and deceive themselves into thinking that they can handle it all! It is for this reason that many men insist on having extramarital affairs.

This reminds me of a story I once saw: An ascetic said to a monk, "I can't let go of some things, and I can't let go of some people." The monk said, "There is nothing that you can't let go of." The ascetic said stubbornly, "But I just can't let go." The monk asked him to hold a teacup, and then poured hot water into it, pouring until the water overflowed. The ascetic was scalded and immediately let go of his hand. The monk said: "There is nothing in this world that you cannot let go of. When it hurts, you will naturally let it go." I quoted this story just to say that only when a person has experienced the pain of denying himself can he achieve enlightenment, and the "enlightenment" at this time has real value and profound connotation.

Of course, there is an old Chinese saying, "Don't give up until you reach the Yellow River," which seems to be very appropriate for cheating men. Perhaps only this kind of "not giving up" reflection can allow a person to get rid of this kind of cheating relationship from now on. In other words, only when a man cheats can he "wake up in pain" and understand all the secrets involved, stop acting on his own and put an end to it. However, in real marriages, men’s extramarital affairs usually do not get to the point where they are out of control. Unless this man's heart has already left you when he first cheated. And this is not a question of being stubborn after cheating, but a question of when will this man leave you?

But then again. Life is like a play, full of ironies. We always forget to cherish what we have, and long for it again when we lose it. No one can truly achieve enlightenment. No wonder in real life, there are so many men who are obsessed and stubborn after cheating. No way, this is real life. After all, a happy marriage is not made in heaven, but requires both husband and wife to constantly accept the test of reality.