10 bad habits of women become the "fuse" for men to cheat

This is not to excuse those cheating husbands, but the unhappiness of marriage is not the responsibility of one party alone. Sometimes a wife’s bad habits are the fuse that causes her husband to cheat.

Force the husband to become a "dragon"

Obviously, women who have this idea often have a strong vanity, the so-called "the husband's honor and the wife's honor"; in addition, they often have a strong dependence mentality, the so-called "only vines entwine trees, but no trees entwine vines". In order to satisfy their vanity and dependence, they do not hesitate to put all kinds of pressure on their husbands. Of course, there is nothing wrong with encouraging your husband to work hard, but if you create pressure without considering the actual situation, it may backfire.

Untidy

There are many such women in China, especially after giving birth and gradually entering middle age. Such women often have the following psychological state: First, the "safe box" mentality, thinking that the "revolution" is over and they can relax and relax, so they dress casually and no longer pay attention to their appearance. The second is the mentality of laziness. It means no longer "strictly demanding oneself", and doing everything carelessly and just getting by. Everyone loves beauty. Do you think such a woman will not disappoint her husband ? The husband may not say it, but he knows it in his heart. This is where the real danger lies. In a word: A woman who is unkempt and willing to be a shrew is too careless.

Suspicious, arrogant

Suspicious women often lack confidence in their marriage and themselves. Because she is not confident in her marriage, she is always worried that her husband will be emotionally distracted or cheat on her; because she is not confident in herself, she is afraid that her husband will abandon her one day. The fundamental reason for lack of self-confidence lies in the lack of independence and the lack of understanding of the nature of marriage. As for an arrogant wife, she often makes her husband frustrated and speechless, which directly affects the harmony between the couple. In a word : Suspicious and arrogant women are so pitiful.

Disregarding her husband's dignity

You can ridicule a man for his ugly appearance, but you can never laugh at a man's incompetence. Ability, the ability to make money and sexual ability, are the two major aspects of a man's dignity. Men who don't feel their dignity often give up on themselves and feel inferior. Therefore, a smart wife always tries her best to maintain her husband's dignity and encourages her husband to sail through the waves and regain his strength through all kinds of "sweet words" and "technical means". In a word: A woman who doesn’t know how to maintain her husband’s dignity is too ignorant.

Love to compare and be vain

Some people describe women as a landscape of the city. Therefore, if women do not compete with each other and compete with each other for beauty, how can the scenery be "beautiful"? However, if you blindly compare with others without considering your own economic conditions, it would be too vain. This excessive vanity often causes mental tension and even overwhelm to men who are not "rich". In a word: Women who love to compare and are vain are too "horrible".

Thoughtful

Lack of consideration is a common problem among those who consider themselves "good wives". Some wives complain about their husbands: I care about him and take good care of him, but why is he still not satisfied? But she may not know that she has intentionally or unintentionally, consciously or unconsciously, neglected or belittled her husband's relatives and friends, causing her husband's disgust. The union of a man and a woman is not just the interaction between two people, but also involves the interaction between different social relationships between the two people (such as relatives and friends). Ignoring this kind of social relationship will often deepen the feeling of being trapped in the "besieged city" of marriage and breed the desire to break out of the "besieged city". In a word: A woman who is not considerate is very pathetic.

Ignore sex

Due to the influence of thousands of years of feudal ideology, most Chinese people are afraid to talk about sex, especially women whose sexual desires are suppressed. If they actively express sexual demands, they are regarded as "improper" and "whores." Correspondingly, they also see sex in marriage as something that they have to do in order to continue the family line and have children. This deviation in sexual concepts keeps them away from sexual pleasure and enjoyment, and results in a de facto separation of sex and love. Modern marriage should be a harmonious unity of sex and love. A harmonious sex life not only helps to deepen the love between couples, but also contributes to their physical and mental health.

Lack of housewife awareness

Housewife consciousness and housewife ability are closely related. Both ultimately involve how women play their family roles well, mainly referring to the roles of wife and mother.

There is a saying: "To win your husband's heart, you must first win his stomach." Of course, this statement is too traditional, but it does reveal some truth. The impact of women with poor housekeeping skills on marriage and family life is self-evident. "Being able to be both a lady and a housewife" should be a pursuit for modern women.

Disclosing privacy at will

The family is the most private place and marriage is the most private relationship. Some women do not understand this and like to discuss family "secrets" among their female companions, or even private events that happen between couples, and compare and evaluate each other in order to gain some psychological satisfaction. In fact, this is highly undesirable. It "betrays" not only the husband, but also "betrays" herself and the entire family. People often say that family is a warm harbor. If personal privacy and security cannot be guaranteed, can marriage and family life still be warm?

Excessive desire to control husband

Excessive desire to control the husband is actually a "common disease" in modern marriages. There are many reasons for this "symptom": the wife is suspicious due to lack of self-confidence, she worries about everything because she "cares" about her husband, she is always on guard because she is afraid that her husband will "go bad", and so on. If a woman has an excessive desire to control her husband, it is not only her husband who is hurt, but also herself. She is always in a state of anxiety and tension and cannot control herself. There is a saying: "The higher the virtue , the higher the devil." "Control" and "anti-control" will never stop, so why not be a good "husband controller" and let your husband happily become a "free man" and be willing to be within your sight?