The things women like to pretend in bed

A woman is a book. But this book is not easy to understand, especially when it comes to sexual issues. However, it is a positive effort for men to study women's minds and understand what they are thinking. This may be the first step towards happy and harmonious sexual relationships. To this end, a German sexology research institute specially invited 200 young and middle-aged men and women, asking the men to raise the sexual issues that they are most concerned about and the women to answer them.

Now, let's uncover the sexual secrets of women that may be confusing you.

Don't like having sex under the lights

A woman's body usually makes a man extremely excited, but before having sex, women often turn off the lights. Is it shyness? It’s not that simple. Most women believe that in the dark they can feel a wider sexual space, can better think about many pleasant and exciting things, and thus be more excited. The eyes can't see - women are used to having sex with their eyes closed. Everything will be left to the body's senses, allowing them to focus more on sex. Another important reason is that most women are worried that their faces will become ugly due to excitement, and they may even make some ecstatic moans. In the darkness, these will be concealed. In fact, women do not completely hate light. If the space for sex is lit with a dim and blurry light, it can even help create an ambiguous atmosphere.

I don't like strong and brave men.

For women, what kind of man is the sexiest and most attractive? Mighty and brave, or rough and tough? Sorry, that is old news from the medieval knight era, or it is just a story in martial arts and gunfight movies. Women in today's society prefer men who are gentle, kind, proactive, successful in their careers and responsible, because such men can give them more sense of security, dependence and trust. Most women also admit that such men are truly sexy, charming and lovable. Of course, if they had a bit more courage in them, women wouldn't reject them. As for sex life, bravery and roughness are two completely different things.

Thinking about celebrities during sex

Most of the women who answered the question admitted that if it was a sexual intimacy that was neither happy nor successful, they would usually wonder: Why did it end like this? Otherwise, they might indulge in their own sexual fantasies. If they think of other men at this time, they are often not ordinary men they know, but men or male celebrities they like. Sometimes this imagination makes them very excited, and sometimes nothing happens. More than 30% of women firmly choose their husbands as their "sexual fantasy object", which shows that for women, love always comes first.

Does not reject change

Men are always not satisfied with the sexual positions and caressing methods they are used to, and always want to try new things in order to pursue greater stimulation and pleasure, such as changing sexual positions or trying new sexual behaviors. In fact, modern women are generally no longer averse to this in their cognition and actions, because they also have the need to pursue freshness and excitement. But one premise must be adhered to, that is, they believe that this sexual posture and caressing method is healthy, hygienic, safe, and can make themselves happier, and will never cause any harm to their physical and mental health. Therefore, if men want to try new sexual positions and caressing methods, the most important thing is to respect the wishes of women and obtain their consent, rather than impose their will on others, making women feel exploited, insulted or even raped!

Fake orgasm

If you think that a woman's excited screams during sex are a sign of orgasm, you may be fooled. In fact, most women, especially young women, have the tendency and behavior to fake orgasm. In their opinion, only women who are easily sexually excited can be more attractive to men and are the partners that men like. Therefore, every woman hopes that she can appear to be very aroused, or appear to be so. You know, which woman is willing to admit that they are indifferent and like a piece of wood in bed? Another important reason is that most women know that men are both passionate and very fragile, so they can't bear to make them feel disappointed and unhappy. Of course, if they want to get rid of the man as quickly as possible, or don't feel like having sex at the moment, what better way is there than to fake an orgasm?

Condoms do not affect pleasure

Men often don't like to have sex with condoms, as they think it will reduce the pleasure. This may be a psychological effect. But for women, they don’t have any special feelings whether men wear condoms during sex. There is no need to worry about scratching an itch through a layer of rubber film, because it will not affect women's pleasure, and of course, it will not bring more pleasure. However, sometimes women will wonder: Has the condom slipped off or been torn? This is entirely for the purpose of contraception and prevention of sexually transmitted diseases. Of course, there would be no pleasure in having sex if there was a risk of an unwanted pregnancy or a sexually transmitted disease.

Passivity is an illusion

Although people's concepts have become much more open, in people's minds, a good woman is one who is gracious, dignified and gentle, especially one who is calm, steady and restrained in sexual life. This makes most women unwilling to be so ostentatious and open about their sexuality. In fact, whether women are sexually active or not is different from whether they are sexually positive and proactive. Women are by no means passive when it comes to sex. However, women can only express it in a more obscure and implicit way. For example, carefully preparing his favorite dinner for a man, and being particularly attentive and intimate to him after dinner; washing up early in the evening and getting ready for bed, and asking her husband to come to bed as soon as possible; putting on a very sexy underwear that he particularly likes before going to bed with her husband, and showing it to him intentionally or unintentionally... These may all be saying: "Dear, please follow me!" In addition, what else do you expect a woman to do?