Why the mistress becomes the defender of marriage

Cheating and having an affair has become a major killer of marriage life. In people's minds, men are always fickle and always have their eyes on the pot while having their fill. In a man's emotional life, there will always be countless women of all kinds flashing by: the first love girlfriend when he first fell in love, the campus beauty in his youth, the ambiguous colleague in the workplace, the strange woman he met by chance... All these romantic encounters will become beautiful yearnings in a man's heart.

After marriage, it is thought that a man will be devoted to maintaining a stable marriage. However, you will find that there will be a mistress in a man's heart, and married life does not seem to affect the addition of another woman to his emotional history. A man pursues love throughout his life. No matter whether his marriage is happy or not, he will always reserve a place in his heart for his mistress. Why do men get entangled with mistresses in this life?

This mistress is not that mistress

When talking about mistresses, people will definitely think of those women who destroy their marriage life and have improper relationships with their husbands. However, the mistress mentioned here is not the kind of mistress we usually think of.

The mistress living in every man’s heart may not have had sex with the man. This mistress may have only met the man once, or had a preliminary relationship with him. She may be in the past tense, may be in the present tense, but may also be far away... She may be a man’s first love, a colleague with whom he has an ambiguous relationship in the workplace, a beautiful woman he meets by chance on the street, or a confidante... Everything is possible.

Therefore, we cannot say that the husband is cheating or having an affair, because these mistresses only exist in the man’s heart and do not necessarily exist in your real life.

Psychological sustenance

Marriage life may seem happy and perfect, but trivial matters affect the relationship between husband and wife every day, which is why there is the seven-year itch. Women will become more and more nagging, men will become less and less romantic, life will become more and more dull, troubles will increase, and many men will begin to get tired of married life.

The biggest difference between women and men is women's strong sense of responsibility towards the family. When women get married, no matter how dull or difficult their lives are, they will experience the extraordinary in the dullness and see hope in the difficulties, because they have a strong sense of responsibility for the family and will not easily talk about divorce. Men, on the other hand, are mostly influenced by their physical desires, which blinds them and makes them do wrong things.

The mistress living in a man’s heart is his psychological sustenance. The mistress only lived in his heart and did not appear in real life. Men place all their dissatisfaction and longing for life on the mistress in their hearts. She has all the advantages of their wife, minus all her shortcomings, and is a perfect goddess. It is because of this mistress in a man's heart that he will not have affairs in real life. This mistress is the bond between your marriage.

Object of fantasy

All humans have sexual fantasies, and men's sexual fantasies appear very early. When they are babies, sucking breast milk is a manifestation. Generally, babies will touch their mother's breasts with their hands after feeding on breast milk, seeking psychological satisfaction. This is a manifestation of male sexual fantasy.

Men like to seek excitement and novelty, but wives are rarely willing to try new things in their married life, unable to give men new feelings, making men increasingly bored. Therefore, men will hide a mistress in their hearts. This mistress is like the sexy actress in porn movies, who has a graceful figure and can perform various difficult actions, giving men a flying feeling and making men never get tired of it. When a man is having sex with his wife, the mistress will suddenly appear in the man's heart and make their life more harmonious and happy.

There is no right or wrong in sexual fantasies themselves, because they are innate in human beings, and women also have sexual fantasies. Therefore, we don’t need to care too much about the mistress in men’s hearts.

Although the mistress in a man's heart rarely affects his marriage, even the most well-educated women are jealous. If you knew this secret of a man, you would definitely make a fuss about it and would not give the man a good life. Therefore, men will not easily tell women all of this, especially the women around them.