Men can't stand this seductive posture of women

Many men have fantasies about the women they like. In fact, men also have emotional needs, and they have their own ideas in the world of love. So, what kind of women do men like? What do men want in love? Let's take a look at it from the perspective of men's psychology!

What Men Want

Did you know that the women a man appreciates are different when he is 20, 30, 40 or 50 years old? This is because a person's cognition changes with age, experience and environment, and this is also reflected in his appreciation and needs for women.

Women always feel the difference between men before and after marriage, but they may not know what men want behind these differences. Before marriage, he hopes to have a beautiful, knowledgeable, gentle and lovely woman to accompany him. What about him after marriage?

Before marriage: pretty and gentle

Before marriage, a man hopes to have a beautiful, well-educated, gentle and charming woman to accompany him.

Because they are beautiful, they are "attractive to the eye", pleasing to the eye and "a feast to the eyes"; because they are well-educated, they must be well-educated, cultured, graceful, and charming, just like Ziwei in the TV series "My Fair Princess", which makes men feel proud and balanced in their hearts; and gentle women are favored by masculine men because the feminine beauty of women can harmonize a man's overly "rigid" character, making them "complementary to each other in yin and yang" and "combining hardness and softness". No wonder our mentor Marx most admired the quality of women as "gentleness". It can be seen that "gentleness" is a woman's secret weapon and the "trump card" of a man's emotions. As a result, countless men have become "captives" of women.

After marriage: Good wife and loving mother

After marriage, men not only depend on women, but also obey them. Because of the love and care of a virtuous wife at home, a man can deeply feel how good it is to have a home. Home thus becomes a "resting haven" and a "warm paradise" for men... In order not to disappoint their wives' expectations, men often work harder, make more progress and have more prospects in their careers.

As time goes by, the man becomes successful in his career and the "honeymoon" between husband and wife is no longer a "honeymoon". As they spend time together day and night, what is new is no longer new, and what they know is known, thus entering the "running-in period" of the husband-wife relationship. As the years go by, there is a saying about men that there is a "seven-year itch".

At this time, due to frequent social interactions and increased temptations, when men face the women they like, their state and performance are unusual, regardless of their purpose. First, it shows that the ideals are lofty and not that of an ordinary person, and wins with outstanding professional level; second, it shows that the person is extremely talented or well-read, knowing astronomy and geography, as well as music, chess, calligraphy and painting, and can be said to know everything, as if he is well-versed in history and can predict the future; third, it shows that the language is witty and humorous. No matter what kind of people or the ancient "art of sex", the topic can be integrated and told in a leisurely manner. It is called noble science and advocates civilization. He can even talk about topics that women consider sensitive without any hesitation, and his words sound like pearls and powerful. It can be said that it is in the perfect state of "When emotions are deep, there will be poetry; when ideas are strong, there will be rhyme."

Extramarital affair: outstanding style

Of course, words are words and performance is performance. Whenever a man faces an extramarital affair, there are only two situations.

First, as a female writer described it: "Men are just like dogs. Due to their different structures, it is not a big deal if they go out to pee a few times in their lives. They still have to go home and are loyal. Dogs are loyal." This statement confirms the secular evaluation of men: "They love new things but do not dislike old ones." Some people compare the feelings of such men to "sesame cakes", which can be divided into several pieces and can fall in love with several women at the same time.

Secondly, men are purely lustful. When faced with a woman of their dreams who has a different style, temperament, and appearance, they will always express their envy in different ways and with different expressions, with a kind of greedy attitude of "eating from the bowl and looking at the pot". To be honest, most men just stay at the "lustful" stage, but have not become "lechers". They treat the women around them with "respect like guests", "close but not too close" and a certain distance, and will not easily offend her or possess her. If you ask this man who "all talks and no action" why he likes to appreciate "beautiful women", he will give a nice name for it: "keeping a young mindset." It seems that female beauty has added another value. For most men, even if it has no "use value", it still has "appreciation value"...

The woman who can make him feel warm is his favorite

To put it bluntly, men need warm women the most, and are most afraid of women who are sarcastic and intolerant. A mother's nagging, a lover's entanglement, a wife's control, a daughter's pampering, a girlfriend's tyranny, and a female colleague's pickyness may all be a man's nightmare. Therefore, men expect warm and soft tolerance from women. With this kind of tolerance, men will certainly be complacent, but it is also easy for them to settle down and enjoy the so-called sense of accomplishment and innate childishness. Men don't always need motivation.

A wild girl is fresh and exciting for dating, but 99% of men would rather refuse to marry her. After all, everyone has to live their lives. Imagine sleeping in the same bed with a woman who is prone to violence. That would be more terrifying than playing cards with the Empress Dowager Cixi! When men are emotionally smuggling, they always like to use the excuse that they have a shrew at home. But I have never heard of a man saying to his lover with resentment that his wife is too gentle, unless he is really sick or deserves a beating.

Yang Guifei's dance and her words on the dragon bed are the most full of warmth; when Kangxi was troubled by government affairs, he most wanted to talk to the woman named Rongfei and drink a bowl of rock sugar lotus seed soup... The Chinese emperor who had hundreds of women was the most qualified to talk about what kind of woman was the best. If one word must be used to summarize it, it would be "warm woman".

What kind of women do men like?

A warm woman is not the traditional woman with bound feet who only knows how to sacrifice. She is healthy, she enjoys life, she can act coquettishly, and she has everything. At the same time, she will not stand with her hands on her hips and curse, will not complain about everything, will not nag, will not guard against her husband like a thief, and will not belittle her husband in front of outsiders...Warmth is not "obedience" without an opinion, but a beautiful temperament. Warmth makes men comfortable, and even more so makes women comfortable.

A warm woman may confiscate the cigarette from your hand, but she will also get up in the middle of the night to watch Beckham play football with you. "Sacrifice" is not her Bible, being a "beautiful self" is her first priority. She has a small purse like a feminine woman, high heels like a strong woman, and a noble forehead like a middle-class lady... She touches you with her body temperature and supports you with her soul.

Our past education seemed to lack such a lesson - how to be a charming and warm woman? We once taught them how to be virtuous and introverted, but this was too oppressive for them; later we encouraged them on how to divide the territory of success and career cake with men, but this made them tired again...but we never reminded them to be a sexy woman with warm oriental charm, pleasing themselves and others.

Knowing what a man wants, what can you do? Try to become the person he likes? NO. To love others you must first love yourself. No matter what you do, the most important thing is not to lose yourself. You know, making him like you the way you are is the manifestation of your charm.

Men's psychology: Why don't men like "good girls"?

1. Marry a chicken and follow the chicken, the charm is reduced

In ancient China, the education for women on marriage has always been: marry a chicken, follow the chicken; marry a dog, follow the dog. In modern society, many women are still trying to practice this view. Unlike in ancient times, most modern women have received higher education, and many of them will achieve their personal pursuits in their careers and life through continuous efforts.

Having one's own pursuits is actually a unique charm of women in modern society. However, women who are too virtuous and devote themselves entirely to their families often neglect their personal pursuits. For example, there are many cases of women who give up their jobs after getting married and go home to become full-time housewives, and are eventually abandoned by their husbands. Without personal pursuits, women’s charm will be greatly reduced.

In this way, even though women devote their whole heart to the family, as time goes by, men will feel that their wives are pale and boring and no longer attractive.

2. Nanny-like wives are unattractive

It can be said that the most "destructive" thing in the world is household chores. Once a woman becomes a "three-dimensional" woman who revolves around the stove, her husband and her children, it is difficult for her not to be degraded from an elegant housewife to a busy nanny. Due to the busy work of housework, it is easy for women to lose their feminine abilities and charm at the forefront of fashion. In this way, when the husband who "keeps up with the times" comes home and sees his wife covered in dust and dirt, even if he still has passion, it will slowly fade away.

Xiao Liu, who works in IT, has a wife who loves him very much. Every time they go shopping in the mall, his wife would buy expensive brand-name clothes for Xiao Liu and some discounted low-priced clothes for herself. One day, Xiao Liu's company held an annual meeting. Among the many women, he found that his wife was neither fashionable nor beautiful, and her clothes were a bit rustic. From that day on, Xiao Liu became much colder towards his wife. Whenever the company organized activities for family members, Xiao Liu always lied that his wife had something to do and could not attend.

As for Xiao Liu's wife, the colder her husband was to her, the harder she tried to be nice to him. Because she hopes that through her own efforts, her husband will see her contribution to the family. However, in fact, the harder Xiao Liu's wife tried, the further she was from the beautiful and fashionable wife in her husband's mind. Therefore, it is natural for the husband to feel annoyed with his wife.

3. A mommy-like wife is not feminine

The reason why "good housewife syndrome" makes men run away and find new love is that women's tolerance, kindness, hard work and other behaviors in front of men directly equate themselves with the role of mother. When a woman's maternal nature is endlessly magnified, the relationship between husband and wife becomes a mother-child relationship.

In front of a wife with strong maternal instinct, a man is like a spoiled son. The worst thing is that the man's sexual desire is also stifled in the process. Once a man meets a woman who can arouse his sexual desire, he will frequently cheat on his wife and even file for divorce.

Men nowadays will no longer demand you to abide by the Three Obediences and Four Virtues, the Three Bonds and Five Constant Virtues as they did in the past. You'd better learn some grappling techniques to loosen his bones when he's itching for sex. Don't worry, many modern men have more or less masochistic tendencies. The more creatively you torture him, the more lasting and passionate his love for you may be.

A woman can contribute to the family, but she must have her own principles and bottom line. Even if you are a full-time housewife, you should learn to enjoy the time spent shopping and chatting with your girlfriends. When you have free time, remember to get your hair done and have a sauna. A best friend with taste and ideals will influence you to become more tasteful and more beautiful. Another very important point is that housework is not just for women, men also have responsibilities to share. Even if it's just asking him to wipe the table and wash the dishes.

This is not selfish, it is a tactic women use after understanding men's psychology. Even if you have already suffered from the good housewife syndrome, it is not too late to change yourself from now on!

Men are just so hypocritical. Before marriage, he hoped to find a free bed warmer and nanny after marriage, so he asked women to revolve around him. When he got her, he felt that such a woman was not feminine and asked for a divorce. We must know how to identify men's demands and not rush into them foolishly. The basis for loving others is to know how to love yourself.

Conclusion : After reading the above article, I believe that everyone will have a better understanding of men's psychology! Of course, everything is not absolute, and everyone has their own views on love, but how to manage love well and gain more happiness may be something everyone should think about.