5 ways to make your partner closer

It’s called a game, but it’s actually very simple. At the beginning, we often borrowed some props, such as miniature billiard tables, darts, Monopoly and so on. While playing the game, based on the winning and losing rules of the game, you would ask the other person to tell you an embarrassing story that they absolutely cannot tell anyone, or assign them to do a housework. Later, we could add game elements to any place, such as when we go shopping, we would ask each other to guess which pair of shoes we like best in front of a row of shoes; when we walk on the street, we would randomly make up a story about any shocking situation we see and involve each other - it even seems a bit boring, doesn't it?

5 cores

1. Games can create pleasure and are also a tool for two people to enhance their understanding;

2. The key to the game is to become a "shared time-making machine" exclusively for two people, allowing two people to truly fit in closely both mentally and physically. Shopping and watching movies are actually fine, but we often treat them as "formalities" in love. At this time, the novelty of the game can allow two people to refocus on the experience;

3. Billiards, darts, reversi... are just carriers. A partner with a playful spirit can have fun even without toys;

4. When it comes to being serious, games cannot be used as a substitute. For example, when he/she feels wronged, you who stop laughing and joking will make him/her feel especially cared for;

5. In addition to adding points to the sweet relationship between two people, the game can also invite more people, such as friends and family. The happy time spent with everyone is actually a wonderful emotional environment for two people.

Creativity 1: Verbal "personal attacks"

Rules of the game: When the other person is doing something, imagine in your mind that it is a silly and cute little animal doing it, and then find the most appropriate word to describe his or her state.

For example: I was folding the quilt while he was lying on the bed smoking leisurely. When I was alone and immersed in a sea of ​​quilts, he suddenly said, "He Xiaohong is struggling to fold the quilts!" (I later learned that in his eyes, I was just a short-armed raccoon.)

Feeling: You are being noticed, and your "hard work" is not only seen by the other person, but also looks very cute. There is a tough saying that goes like this: Your brain is not a soap bar, use it as little as possible. I don’t know about other situations, but when we “attack” the other party, we never spare our brainpower and our mouth. For example, "You were hiding over there crunching the cucumbers I bought!" (There's a rat in the house!) "You're snitching on me on your blog again!" (Where did this rascal come from?) These words that turn the ordinary into something interesting are essentially the same, which is - "I'm watching you! I love you."

Creative 2: Role Playing Sleepover

Rules of the game: You can be his/her college roommate, or a stranger he/she lured home from the bar, but you can never be his/her partner who spends every day with him/her. Temporarily put aside the idea of ​​"I know everything about him/her", as well as the desire for exclusivity and jealousy... Start talking to him/her as a stranger!

For example: When we went to KTV, I found that he sang many songs that I had never heard before... I have to admit that I was more surprised than happy - when did he secretly listen to so many songs! We had a dorm chat at home - "I haven't been by your side for these years, who has been crying in your ears until dawn?" We talked about everything from listening to songs to how we take time out from our busy schedules at work and how we kill time. I just realized that your work rhythm has become like this...

Feeling: Even if two people live together every day, after a long time, they will inevitably become strangers who they think they are familiar with each other. I thought you knew it all and that I didn't need to tell you... In fact, every once in a while, it becomes a strange treasure. Go and discover it! It will be too late when it becomes a shipwreck in the Bermuda Triangle.

The lesson is that you can’t be like a friend sharing “historical love affairs” with your partner one second, and then the next second your conversation turns into “evidence in court” to go over old stuff. The spirit of "bedside chat" is "I am very interested in you", not "Give me evidence and I will punish you on behalf of the moon."

Creative 3: Minesweeper

Rules of the game: Find something expected and create an unexpected look. For example: When eating watermelon, people often cut it in half and eat it. When the watermelon was handed to me, sometimes it was shaped like Pandora from "Avatar", and sometimes it was shaped like the mole hole in "Whack-A-Mole". They were meticulously carved and arranged in an orderly manner... The only thing that was the same was that the sweetest part in the middle was left untouched.

Feeling: It’s really sweet! The little dolls at home are also important tools for shocking people. He is the big lion and I am the little lion. I often make the big lion pose in all kinds of obscene poses, such as tucking its tail between its legs and making it look like a traitor with a middle-parted hairstyle... If the little lion is not paying attention, the big lion will sit on its butt with its legs crossed, and if it doesn't notice, it will maintain this pose for several days. At this time, the home becomes a minefield full of excitement and surprises. The other party's smirk is a combat signal. If you secretly smile at yourself, you know that nothing good is going to happen, and then you start to clear mines at home.

Creativity 4: All-Star Small Theater

Game rules: When the whole family is together, find a way to make everyone happy!

For example: It was the first time for me to spend the Spring Festival at my mother-in-law’s house after marriage. I was the most junior daughter-in-law. What should I do? We started planning on New Year’s Day. After thinking of many ways, I finally decided to tap into my artistic talent and create a small theater. He began to practice singing "Fire at Me" on the guitar, thinking that he could just get his brothers and sisters together to dance with him. As a result, that night, all the elders were eager to try it out after seeing us jumping and dancing, and quickly invited us in! We changed everyone's style with scarves, pillowcases, curtains, sunglasses, small brooms and bath towels, and even recorded a video. Afterwards, we had a lot of fun. The whole family turned on Youku and danced to "Tension" with Tuzki. It was a really happy New Year...

Feeling: It was very easy to integrate into his big family, which was the biggest New Year gift he gave me. Now, the regular activities when I go back to my house are playing table tennis and playing pig-playing, while when I go back to his house, I hoe the land and play with plasticine. When there are a lot of people around, they often eat a grapefruit and put the grapefruit peel on everyone’s head and take a photo to make a family album. A red tablecloth at grandma's house can be used to take three sets of family photos: "Pigsy Gets Married", "The Cardinal" and "The Visitor from Outer Space", and the more serious the people are, the more exciting the effect. What’s important is that no matter whose family it is, that person must bravely step forward to be the “leader” of the game. Some friends often regard visiting their mother-in-law's house as an obligation, hoping that time will pass as quickly as possible. In fact, if you use your brain, you can always find some programs to bring everyone together. When the time spent together becomes joyful, you will find that those who have made an effort to be invited in are the strongest support for the emotional world of two people.

Idea 5: Room Service

Rules of the game: When the other person brings work home, you can automatically turn your home into hotel mode. In addition to doing your own things, you can provide the other person with some Room Service from time to time, such as making a cup of Baileys coffee or a fried egg sandwich. If the service is good, the other party needs to pay a generous tip as a reward.

Feeling: It would be even better if he could provide service in a suit... (Voiceover: I also hope you can serve me coffee in a maid outfit!)

When I entered into this marriage, I did not expect that home, in addition to being a place where I can relax, can also be a zoo, a Happy Valley, a CS battlefield, a hotel suite, and a small theater. Creativity turns home into a place with infinite extension. In the future, it may be a kindergarten, an unplugged live bar, or a Happy Farm...but the connotation has not changed - that is love. And Love is not for fuck. It's for fun