10 criteria for whether a man and a woman are suitable to be a couple

There are many people in this world who love each other, but not all of them can eventually walk into the marriage hall hand in hand. Some people are only suitable for dating but not for marriage, because to be suitable as a couple, some basic requirements must be met. Otherwise, even if they are forced to become a couple, it will be difficult for them to have a happy life.

1. Two people must first be friends who can get along well.

As a couple, the most basic thing you should be is friends, and good friends or confidants. Unless you are just a couple in the purely physiological sense of continuing the family line, otherwise how can you be a couple if you can't even be friends? Even if you force yourself to be a couple, it will not last.

2. At least have roughly the same life values

Birds of a feather flock together. Friends should have basically the same understanding of the world view on life and values, or at least be able to tacitly accept each other's values ​​in life. Otherwise, how can they be friends? This is true for friends. If couples want to live together for a long time, of course they must have common values ​​in life. How can the marriage continue if the couple's pursuit of life and life goals are inconsistent and there are serious differences in their views on things?

3. Mutual understanding and trust

Understanding each other is the basic prerequisite for interpersonal communication, and if you want to be a husband and wife, understanding each other is of course the most basic thing to do. You don't know the other person well, but you should have a full understanding of their family background, education, character, temperament, personality traits, living habits, etc. At least you should have a basic understanding of them. Understanding is certainly not enough. After understanding, if you can accept what you have understood, you must also fully trust the other person. Without trust, there is no communication, especially between couples.

4. When there is a conflict, it is easy for the two to communicate

Of course, problems and conflicts are bound to arise between people, and the same is true for couples. Moreover, because they are together every day, the possibility of friction and conflict is even greater. It is not terrible to have conflicts. What is terrible is that the two parties fail to communicate with each other and the conflicts escalate to an uncontrollable level. Therefore, an important and basic requirement for being a couple is that they can communicate with each other easily when encountering problems.

5. Both parties have a basic spirit of sacrifice and "suffering losses"

The relationship between husband and wife is a combination of rights and obligations, but what you get and what you give are not always proportional, and it is impossible to be completely equal. One spouse will always give more while the other will give less. As a couple, of course you cannot be petty and must have a spirit of dedication and sacrifice. In marriage, no one owes anyone anything, and there is no distinction between high and low. Willingness to sacrifice and give is also one of the basic requirements of being a husband and wife.

6. Be tolerant and generous to each other

Everyone makes mistakes and has shortcomings. Because couples are in close contact, they are more able to discover mistakes and shortcomings. Therefore, as couples, they should be more tolerant and generous, and be able to look at each other's shortcomings and mistakes correctly and rationally, neither being nitpicking nor indulging without principles. Be tolerant of small and insignificant shortcomings and mistakes, help each other correct major mistakes and shortcomings, and couples should progress together.

7. Interests and hobbies should be basically similar

Everyone has their own aspirations, but as a couple, they should maintain basic consistency in their aspirations and have roughly the same views and opinions on interests, hobbies, and tastes. Only in this way can they keep in step with each other instead of drifting further and further apart or even becoming estranged. Only those who have similar interests can live together for a long time. A couple who are physically together but spiritually apart cannot be happy.

8. Able to withstand the test and support each other

An important difference between marriage and love is that marriage has to face more real-life pressures and problems. Marriage is also more tedious and even boring, and therefore encounters many more difficulties and problems. Whether it is a wife or a husband, whether in life or work, they will encounter some unexpected difficulties. This is not terrible. The key is to get the firm support of each other. If you retreat when you encounter a problem, you are not even as good as a friend, and your future marriage life will not be able to continue.

9. Family members who can accept each other

Many young lovers tend to overlook this point, thinking that marriage is a private matter between two people and that nothing else needs to be considered. This is of course a naive romanticism. Marriage is a matter between two young people, as well as a matter between the parents and two families. In addition to loving each other, the couple must also be able to accept each other's families. If you simply cannot tolerate some of the actions of the other's parents and family, and they are unable to refrain from interfering in your affairs, then your future marriage life will be full of troubles.

10. Have a basic material economy as a foundation

Being suitable for dating does not mean being suitable for marriage, because marriage, apart from romance, is more about the real life of firewood, rice, oil, salt, vinegar. Without a certain material and economic foundation, marriage life cannot continue. Therefore, two people who are too artistic may not be suitable to be husband and wife, because they are very likely to be immersed in the romantic artistic life and do not know how to live and make money to support a family.

Fate is a kind of beauty that can allow two people from different corners of the world to enter each other's hearts. As long as you have feelings and she is willing, what can stop you from loving each other? Here are 10 criteria to determine whether a man and a woman are suitable to be husband and wife. It is not easy to grow old together. If you understand these, your love will become sweeter and sweeter.