Doing these six things will hurt your orgasm

"Going straight to the point" or pushing too hard without adequate foreplay can delay a woman's orgasm. Hirschman, a famous sex expert in New York, said: "Men mistakenly believe that skipping foreplay will make women orgasm quickly, but in fact it takes longer and the effect is worse." Experts suggest that slowing down the pace and increasing verbal communication and hugging can help both parties achieve orgasm at the same time.

Always ask about feelings.

During sex, appropriately asking the other person about their feelings can help you control the rhythm, but if you frequently ask the other person "how do you feel?", "are you comfortable?", etc., it will create psychological pressure on your partner and make him (her) become insecure. Hirschman suggests that you should give feedback to the other person through body movements and facial expressions, such as rapid breathing and forceful movements.

Don't turn off the TV.

Orgasm requires a certain amount of concentration, so you must not be distracted. Sexologist Dr. Daniel Arel says to make sure the TV, computer and mobile phone in the room are turned off so that both parties are in a completely private space. Also, don't expect to orgasm at the same time, everyone should focus on their own pleasure. If one party reaches orgasm first, then next time more attention should be paid to the other party.

Always want to imitate porn movies.

Some men watch porn and get "inspiration" from it, thinking that sex should be as intense, dramatic, and skillful as in porn. But Hirschman said that always trying to imitate porn and treating sex as a performance will backfire. What really opens the door to female orgasm is intimate language and behavior, not those clumsy and stupid techniques.

Sudden changes in frequency.

Dr. Daniel Arel says that as the woman approaches orgasm, the man should maintain the same force and rhythm. If the man suddenly increases his strength or speed, the woman's accumulated sensation will be wasted. So when a woman says “don’t stop,” just keep going instead of going even crazier.

Talk about a spoilsport.

During sex, appropriate affirmation and praise can increase interest, but if some spoiling topics are mentioned, it may interrupt sex and affect climax. For example, suddenly asking the other person if they have brushed their teeth, or mentioning that there is food in the kitchen that has not been put in the refrigerator, will immediately make people lose interest.