9 ways women can't stand men's torture in bed

As the saying goes, one should have good character in life, good drinking habits, good card playing habits... In fact, sex also requires "bed quality". What is "bedding quality"? It refers to the personal qualities displayed when making love in bed, which can reflect the degree of love and consideration for the partner.

Whether it is love or an affair, a man's "bed quality" cannot be ignored. Not doing foreplay, poor personal hygiene, unwilling to take contraceptive measures, going straight to the point in bed without caring about the woman's feelings, criticizing and bragging about others in bed, etc., are all manifestations of a man's lack of "bed quality" -

Performance of no quality:

Smoking in bed, not brushing teeth or taking a shower before going to bed

How does it feel to kiss a man with a mouth full of smoke-stained teeth? He doesn't brush his teeth or take a shower before going to bed, and his whole body reeks of sweat and feet. Having sex with a man like this is not enjoyable at all, it's simply torture.

Zhang Bin, director of the hospital's sexual medicine department, said that sexual life emphasizes the willingness and mutual respect of both parties, and that each party should leave each other with good memories. Personal hygiene is the minimum respect and a manifestation of self-respect. Men who are clean and have no odor will undoubtedly be more popular with women. Unpleasant odors can seriously interfere with sexual enjoyment. Therefore, for men, keeping themselves clean can help them win the favor of women in bed.

Performance of no quality 2:

Frequent phone calls or text messages in bed

Originally, both husband and wife were busy with work and did not have much time to have sex. Unexpectedly, the husband was concerned about too many things, such as stocks, current affairs, and work. He would make phone calls and send text messages every time he went to bed. As a result, he would receive a call at the critical moment and had to interrupt, which made the woman around him feel ignored.

Marital sex emphasizes mutual enjoyment. The sexual process goes through the processes of flirting, excitement, maintaining excitement, and climax. If there is an interruption in the middle, you have to start over again. It is not so easy to get both parties to synchronize and start again. Therefore, before sexual intercourse, both parties should deal with other matters first to avoid affecting their mood. Cai Liuhong said that answering phone calls and sending text messages in bed is absolutely taboo. Sex is very delicate and requires a lot of concentration. If you are always absent-minded, the other person will feel unappreciated. How long does sex take? It's not like they're putting out a fire. Even firefighters are off duty sometimes. What consequences would it have if they muted their phones?

Performance of no quality three:

No foreplay, just do it

Some men are just too impatient. Once they get into bed, they go straight to the point, making women feel uncomfortable because they are not physically ready. As a result, it is over in two or three minutes, making women feel like they are just a tool for sexual gratification.

Lovemaking is sexual communication between two people who are in love with each other, so the latter emphasizes the willingness of both parties, the enjoyment of both parties, the benefits of sexual stimulation and the sublimation of love, and the natural feeling of the flirting process. However, if a man’s main goal is to have sex, then he subjectively or objectively ignores the woman’s feelings, which results in hurtful consequences.

Cai Liuhong said that some men are "repeat offenders" and foreplay is simply not a thing in their minds. There was once a patient whose husband and wife lived apart and met once a week. Her husband was always impatient, which made her very hurt. Every time she met, she felt pain in her lower body and felt uncomfortable. This impatient husband not only did not understand, but even suspected that she had vaginitis and that was why she felt the pain, and asked her to go to the hospital herself. Without foreplay, where is the lubrication and feeling?

Performance of no quality 4:

He is a rookie, but he thinks he is a superman.

When talking about their sex skills, men generally like to brag about how many times they can do it a night. It is normal for men to care about their reputation, but if in bed, even though he is obviously a novice, he still insists on saying how powerful he is, women will think he is hypocritical and even feel cheated.

Zhang Bin said that if a man brags about how capable he is, he is actually very weak. Think about it, in hand-to-hand combat in bed, whether a woman is strong or fierce is something that everyone knows very well, but they still brag about it. It can only be said that this is just a man trying to cover up his own mistakes. Don't brag about your sexual prowess, being able to make her climax is the real deal!

Performance of no quality 5:

Complaining about women's body or not knowing how to have sex

In bed, when both of them are naked, the man will start to ask the woman questions like "Why is your belly so fat?", etc. This is a nightmare for women.

Commenting on a woman's figure in bed is a big taboo in gender relations, and it is a big blow to women. A woman may suddenly lose confidence. During sex, when the other party feels uncomfortable or embarrassed, that is the moment of sexual failure. For women of any body shape, she is not wrong, it is just a matter of whether the man agrees. If you comment on a woman's body in bed, she will not only feel uncomfortable, but also feel inferior, and will never want to be naked in front of you again. Moreover, it is very impolite for men to make all kinds of comments about women's figures, and it makes people feel disrespected.

Performance of no quality 6:

Not willing to wear a condom or take contraceptive measures

For couples who do not want children, if the man never thinks about contraception when going to bed, he is most likely a man who never wants to take responsibility. He is either childish or does not want to be responsible.

Cai Liuhong, deputy chief physician of the Department of Sexual Medicine at the Third Affiliated Hospital of Sun Yat-sen University, said that there are two reasons why men are reluctant to wear condoms: one is that they feel that wearing condoms is like "scratching an itch through a shoe"; the other is that they subconsciously think that contraception is a woman's business. They don't even care about accidentally "creating a life" and don't care about the risks of abortion for women, or the possibility that taking birth control pills may lead to irregular menstruation. He once encountered a patient who became pregnant again in the second month after an abortion even though her menstruation had not yet resumed. Her husband felt very regretful and ashamed, as he thought she would not get pregnant after having the abortion. As a result, the wife was left to endure the physical pain alone once again.

Both parties who go to bed should tacitly take corresponding contraceptive measures, otherwise it will bring unnecessary trouble to both parties, especially the chance of women getting hurt. Therefore, in sexual life, women should take the initiative to control the process and method of sexual intercourse, and should not be submissive. As a man, you must have a strong sense of responsibility to take care of the other person. This is the minimum "bedding quality".

Performance of no quality seven:

Make excessive demands

Most women like a normal sexual lifestyle, but some men always want women to give them oral sex, or they will ejaculate on the woman's body for no reason, etc. This approach will always make women difficult to accept, or even disgusted.

Cai Liuhong said that one of the principles of love is voluntary and harmless, with both parties being willing and causing no harm to either party. If you are truly in love, you must understand each other's desires and habits in advance. During foreplay, you can ask for each other's opinion, negotiate step by step, and adjust your composure. If the woman is unprepared and makes excessive sexual demands, it will make both parties embarrassed and end up parting on bad terms.

Performance of no quality eight:

Too lazy to work, always ask women to work

Originally, men are supposed to be in the dominant position in bed. If they are too lazy to do anything and women have to do it every time, it can be very frustrating.

The sexual intercourse process is usually an active behavior by the man, and the woman is in a passive position. This is a general rule. During certain special stages, when the woman takes the initiative, it's okay for the man to be lazy occasionally, but if the woman has to do the hard work every time while the man just waits to enjoy, it seems very selfish. If a man really does not have good physical strength but cannot bear to see a woman suffer alone, there is nothing wrong with the woman taking the initiative. However, the “if you want it, you work hard” approach is annoying.

Performance of No Quality Nine:

Taking photos and recording videos in bed, posting them online after breaking up

Too many women have had sex videos or photos exposed by their nasty ex-boyfriends, who either threaten them for money or retaliate against them. Forced by human self-esteem, this act of exposure often drives women crazy.

Cai Liuhong believes this is extremely vulgar behavior. Because this kind of person cannot get the person he wants, he resorts to selling out the details of other people's private lives to achieve other goals. He has a dark side psychologically, and also has selfish and vicious tendencies. Therefore, women should not let others take bed photos or sex videos of them casually, because one day they may meet a very scumbag and it would be useless.