10 psychological reasons why men and women cannot resist having affairs

When a man has an affair with a woman other than his girlfriend or wife, it is a betrayal of the relationship. The following are 10 psychological reasons why men and women cannot resist cheating.

1. Compensation Psychology

Some people develop extramarital affairs because they feel lonely due to separation, or because one spouse has a physical defect and cannot be satisfied physically, or because the relationship between the spouses is not harmonious, so they actively look for a third party or are willing to accept compensation from a third party. In fact, sex life is not the whole content of married life. As long as the couple strengthens their connection, communicates more emotionally, and misses each other in their hearts, their life will still be fulfilling. Why should they need compensation?

2. The psychology of lack of affection

Some lovers fail to get married in the end and both start their own families, or one party gets married but the other does not want to but still has a crush on the other. When one party has difficulties in life or the couple has a disagreement, the other party feels that he or she still owes the other party love and so takes the initiative to throw himself or herself into the arms of the old lover, and the old love is rekindled, resulting in an extramarital affair. In fact, lovers may not always get married. Since both parties have started a family or the other party has started a family, they should face reality and cherish their relationship. When the other party has difficulties in life or the couple is in discord, repaying the other party's love with an extramarital affair is more like harming the other party than helping him or her, which is of no help.

3. Greed for money

Some people, because they covet the other party's money, disregard their own personality and take the initiative to commit themselves to the other party in exchange for a few coins, thus forming an extramarital affair. In fact, personality is a priceless treasure, and money is something outside of the body. The more you have, the more you use it, and the less you have, the less you spend. So why bother to exchange a priceless treasure for a few coins? In addition, those who have money should also be careful. Since the other party is coveting your money, why bother to give your true love to the other party and develop a love relationship.

4. Picture Psychology

Some people develop extramarital affairs because they are attracted by the beauty of the woman or the muscular body of the man and take the initiative to express their love. In fact, physical beauty will naturally disappear with age. Only inner beauty is eternal, like fine wine, which becomes more mellow with time. Therefore, the most important thing is to be good at discovering the shining points of your spouse and to give your true love to him/her. In this way, Xi Shi will naturally appear in the eyes of your lover.

5. Gratitude

Some people get help from their partners because they have difficulties in life, or because their husbands are away for a long time and the family is taken care of by the other party, they have no way to repay the other party and have to offer their bodies, thus developing an extramarital affair. In fact, since the other party is sincerely helping you, he or she will not ask for anything in return from you. You should just remember that the other party has done you a favor. Why should you sacrifice yourself? If this affects the other party's family, wouldn't it be doing good with bad intentions?

6. Revenge

Some couples have extramarital affairs because one spouse has an affair and refuses to listen to advice, and the other spouse actively seeks a third party in order to retaliate against the other spouse. In fact, since you know that it is wrong for the other party to have an affair, why do you look for a third party? Isn't that knowingly making a mistake? Besides, marriage is free, and divorce is also free. If the relationship has indeed broken down and there is no possibility of reconciliation, you might as well just get a divorce. It is better to part ways amicably and be friends than to retaliate against the other party.

7. Curiosity

Some couples live an ordinary and dull life, while the male and female protagonists in movies and TV shows are deeply in love with their lovers, living a fulfilling and free life. I also want to experience this kind of life, so, driven by curiosity, I develop an extramarital affair. In fact, peace and safety is a blessing. Don’t compare yourself to other people and think that the grass is greener on the other side. Don’t be ungrateful for what you have.

8. Hedonism

Some people, influenced by bourgeois ideas of sexual liberation or pornographic films, television shows, books and magazines, believe that life is all about eating, drinking and having fun, and that they should enjoy themselves while they are young. As a result, they have promiscuous relationships with the opposite sex and engage in extramarital affairs. In fact, sexual liberation and pornographic films, television shows, books and magazines are harmful toxins. Each of us should consciously resist them, establish correct morals and outlook on life, and not mistake arsenic for sugar.

9. Mutual Appeal

Some men and women help and support each other at work. Over time, they develop feelings for each other and fall in love with each other, which leads to extramarital affairs. In fact, good helpers at work may not necessarily become good couples in life. Since both parties help and support each other at work, why don't they get along like brothers and sisters?

10. Mutual Benefit Psychology

Some people take advantage of each other, collude with each other, and commit crimes together because of work constraints, becoming two ants on the same string. Neither side can live without the other, thus developing extramarital affairs. In fact, as the saying goes, "Don't stretch your hand, or you will be caught." Once the truth is revealed and the couple is thrown into prison, this kind of extramarital affair can only be ended in prison.