What do women who come home late do outside?

1. The nature of the work determines the working method and time

Ms. Zhao, 39 years old, is a well-known domestic home appliance agent. What she always likes to say is: People in our line of work feel really guilty when talking about our husbands and children.

Ms. Zhao said that she could only eat a few dinners at home a year. Not only did she have to entertain clients with food and drinks, but sometimes in order to win over big clients, she had to please them by accompanying them to bars, bowling, mahjong, karaoke, and bathing. Sometimes she would be there all night long, and when she got home in the morning, her husband, who was a clerk, was at work and her children were at school. Sometimes we only see each other once a day. My husband and children are used to it now and understand it. There is nothing we can do if they don’t understand. The nature of the job determines the working style and hours. Occasionally I would go back early to have dinner with them, and they would be so happy and seem to be extremely excited.

She said, this made me both moved and sad. Although I provided them with good material conditions, I also knew that what they needed more was a "wife" and "mother". There's no way. I'll make up for it after I quit this job. In fact, her husband was also worried. "You didn't come home all night, could it be that you were tripped by some man?" He often asked her this question half-truthfully, and she could only explain it with a very good attitude. After all, it is impossible for any husband to be free of doubts and thoughts in this situation. This shows that he cares about her and is concerned about her. As for the good and bad of this, she said that she knows it in her heart and cannot and dare not complain. And with his reminders, I can reduce the chances of making mistakes. There are too many temptations in today's society, and it is better for wives to be strictly controlled. Ms. Zhao is a sensible woman if she says so.

2. The world outside is wonderful, but the nights at home are monotonous

Ms. Chen, 37 years old, clothing store manager. She admitted that she often came home late, sometimes because of necessary social engagements, and sometimes because she was looking for excuses not to go home. Why? To sum it up in one sentence: the world outside is wonderful, but the nights at home are monotonous.

Ms. Chen said that at night, maybe it was the "seven-year itch", the two of them felt that the other was redundant no matter how they looked at each other. The children are usually left in the care of the nanny, so she finds an excuse, such as working overtime or having a party with friends. Anyway, it seems that when night comes, he either hangs out on the Internet, plays mahjong, or hangs out with his bunch of drinking buddies, and he has no time to take care of me.

When Ms. Chen goes out, she usually gets together with her girlfriends, drinks, plays cards, and chats. Sometimes she also goes to karaoke bars to have fun, and sometimes she comes home drunk. Sometimes her husband gets angry because she often comes home late, and he calls her and scolds her. She has no choice but to use a few sweet words to coax him into calming down.

She said: Sometimes I really miss the time when I was dating my husband and just got married. It was so wonderful to be in our world as two people back then. After work in the evening, we either come home to cook together, or stroll around the street, and watch a movie together after dinner. It is so colorful. But now, a sigh!

3. Just to achieve some results

Ms. Li, 32 years old, said that as a civil servant, she often comes home late for seemingly no reason. In everyone's mind, civil servants are "office workers", they come to work and leave work, and should go home on time unless there are special circumstances. But like many people, in order to achieve some results and be valued, she needs to come home late often. Sometimes she has to accompany her leaders and guests for dinner, sometimes she works overtime to write materials for her leaders, and sometimes she just reads books in the office to recharge herself. She is currently studying for a postgraduate degree while working, and has many books to read and papers to write, so she can only work overtime at night.

Ms. Li is very career-oriented. Nowadays, the competition in society is very fierce and the pressure is very high. She has to work hard. Besides, I have a heavy family responsibility on my shoulders. Her husband is her college classmate and she is very supportive. Their child is still young and attends kindergarten, and is usually picked up and dropped off by their parents. In order to allow her to concentrate on work, her husband takes on all the housework. Ms. Li is very grateful to him. She said: When the child goes to school and she has some success in her career, she can relieve his stress. At that time, he might be the one coming home late.

4. Having an affair and indulging in pleasure outside and forgetting about home

Ms. Liu, 40 years old, is the owner of a small trading food store. Ms. Liu's business is getting more and more prosperous, and she admits that she is probably the kind of person who "wants sex when she has enough food and clothing." With money and status, she has become accustomed to going to nightclubs for revelry after dark and to "high gambling" at the mahjong table. Moreover, she has a "male best friend". Anyway, everyone is used to having lovers, and everyone, including her husband, knows it well. For this reason, she rarely returned home before midnight except for the banquets she had to attend for company business. Like many men, she has become accustomed to the days of "red flags flying at home and colorful flags fluttering outside". Her husband is also happy to see that she ignores him, and he probably has a lover outside.

She said: The world outside is wonderful and full of temptations. With the improvement of material life, the monotonous life of couples has also made some people think of "living somewhere else". Many people look for lovers not necessarily because they are separated or have a disagreement in their relationship, but just want to "change their way of life" and try something new.

"Food, clothing, housing, transportation and sex" are the most basic needs of human beings. However, how much sex and love can be done recklessly? It is an indisputable fact that "instant sexual pleasure" will never bring long-term stability and "sexual happiness" to human society. Now, the usually reserved middle-aged people are ready to move, humming "Confused Love" and holding "old tickets", looking for the emotions anchored by Maple Bridge, wondering if they can board the old passenger ship. Many people are eager to find a lover as a sexual partner. A friend said: At the very least, you should have a "one-night stand or multiple-night stand" as a supplement to your relationship!

There are more and more women like Ms. Liu who spend their nights drinking and partying outside, indulge in excessive sex with their lovers, and never get tired of it, and are happy not to go home.

5. A group of special women

There is another type of women who linger in bars, nightclubs, hotels and private residences every night. They use their smiles, drinking capacity and bodies to provide services to "guests" to win the happiness of men and earn money. Their life and work hours are to stay up at night and hide during the day.

Human life is very short. Such a nightlife is time-consuming and laborious. It is better to go home early to accompany parents, children and husband, live a simple and clean life, and make some emotional investment. When I said this, Ms. Zhang didn't dare to say it anymore. She said to me, "How many of your men go home early now?" I was speechless due to this question. But, no matter what, like tens of thousands of people, I still envy the good old days when women stayed at home, took care of their husbands and children. Unfortunately, such women and days are gone forever!