Don't forget this before getting intimate

Some time ago, I saw a cartoon like this: a couple was lying on the bed, covering their naked bodies with a quilt in fear, under the bed stood the policeman who had just broken into the room, and next to the policeman was a little boy about five or six years old. The policeman in the cartoon angrily said to the little boy, "If you encounter this kind of situation again, don't call the police!"

In fact, in real life, many lovers or spouses have experienced their sex life being accidentally interrupted. This sudden shock is a relatively serious adverse stimulus for most people.

Especially for men, cases of erectile dysfunction (ED) caused by this are not uncommon in clinical practice. For example, a nonlocal graduate student couple from a certain scientific research institution moved into the unit’s dormitory. Their normal married life stopped and they could only get together in the dormitory on weekends when the local students returned home. But the man had no reaction at all. It turned out that he was always worried that there were ears on the other side of the wall or that a classmate would suddenly break in. It wasn't until they had their own cabin that his sexual function returned to normal. In addition, parents' attitudes and behaviors also play a big role. For example, some elderly people are influenced by traditional ideas and believe that sex is harmful to the body. They often persuade or hint to their children to be moderate in their sex life. This practice becomes even worse after they have children. Other parents always treat their children as children and often tuck them in at night for fear that they will catch a cold. Little do they know that the "children" would rather catch a cold than be frightened! And it is even more common for parents to enter their children's room without knocking. Of course, after having children, this kind of interference is even more difficult to prevent, just like the situation in the cartoon. So, it’s best to lock the door when having sex.

It is not difficult to see that improving living conditions is an effective way to solve the problem. It is said that Japan has the so-called "two-generation house" building, which can maintain the privacy of two generations while ensuring mutual care between them. But for now, it is difficult for ordinary people to change in the short term. There are several suggestions for reference: learn to gradually adapt to the environment and adjust yourself psychologically, don't be impatient for success, and have the courage to engage in emotional exchanges between couples and parents; correctly treat sexual dysfunction that occasionally occurs due to interference, don't worry and develop fear and potential anxiety, and seek help from a specialist when necessary; appropriately change the way of sexual life to adapt to the new environment; change the time (to create a time difference with the elderly and children) and place of sexual life; use existing conditions to create a warmer and more private bedroom environment (reasonable use of curtains, lights, decorations), etc.