What to do when a man refuses to make love to a woman

Topics related to gender issues, sexual cultivation between couples, and how to deal with sexual confusion. The topic we are going to talk about today is what a wife should do when a man refuses a woman’s request for sexual intercourse?

"Not tonight, honey. I have a headache." This is a common reason given by a wife to refuse her husband's request. The reality is that low sexual interest is not exclusive to women; men also suffer from low sexual desire. Once a man loses his sexual desire, the situation may become more complicated and the couple will face greater challenges.

A man’s sexual rejection can easily lead to various speculations on the woman’s part, such as, “Is my husband cheating on me?” “Have I gained weight?” “I’m not attractive anymore?” Over time, the couple’s sense of intimacy decreases, and even leads to a rift in their relationship. In fact, like women, men's low sexual desire also includes many physiological and emotional reasons, such as decreased testosterone (androgen) levels, chronic diseases such as diabetes, busy life and work, etc. When a husband's sexual desire is low, his wife may wish to take the following measures to help him arouse his love.

Understand medication factors. Taking antidepressants, anti-hair loss drugs, beta blockers and anti-anxiety drugs can all lead to a decrease in sexual desire. If this is the case, you may want to discuss with your doctor about switching to other medications that do not affect sex.

Exercise Together For good health (including sexual health), plenty of exercise is the first choice. Take a walk with my husband after dinner every day, and participate in sports together. Maintain a certain amount of physical exercise every day and develop an exercise habit.

Encourage him to see a doctor . Erectile dysfunction (ED) may be a major reason why he is not interested in sex. ED can usually be easily managed with medical intervention. Once they discover erectile dysfunction, most men will avoid sexual intercourse. Once this problem is solved, sexual desire will return to normal. The doctor can also test the testosterone (androgen) level and take appropriate measures. This hormone gradually declines with age and plays a key role in sexual function and sexual desire.

Help him relieve stress. If your husband is under too much pressure at work or in life, you might as well provide him with the necessary help. For example, the support of relatives and friends encouraged him to receive relevant treatment. Studies have found that the best way to treat male ED is for couples to participate in treatment together.

Talk to him about the problem and don't ignore it. Talk openly and honestly with your husband about his low libido, being careful to avoid a confrontational communication style and never use accusatory or insulting language. Say something like, "Honey, I've noticed that we've been having sex less and less, and I want to be with you. Honey, what can I do to help us regain the passion and intimacy we once had?"

Take the initiative instead of waiting for him to make the first move sexually. It is more beneficial for the couple to promote sex and romance if the woman takes the initiative. For example, kiss him passionately in the morning before leaving for work. Give him a surprise while he's taking a bath, etc. If he is made to feel sexy and attractive, he will be more motivated to have sex.

Help him make healthy choices. After a hard day's work, having a hearty dinner and a few glasses of wine seems to be the ideal choice. However, this may put sexual intercourse on the sidelines due to overeating. The right thing to do is to eat light, nutritious food and limit your alcohol intake. Couples should avoid sitting for long periods of time, do more outdoor activities, and participate in outdoor recreation and heart-healthy (sexual-enhancing) activities together.