How would you respond if a married man flirts with you?

Where have all the good unmarried men gone? The married ones are flirting again, what kind of world is this! Many sisters have encountered such situations: married male friends occasionally ask you out alone for dinner, to play ball, to soak in hot springs, and there is always unnecessary physical contact between them when they go in and out of the door, get in the car, and get out of the car, as if they are "Lady first"...but there is nothing specific to talk about.

Some sisters feel awkward and anxious. What does he want to do? What kind of relationship is this? Should I take the initiative to refuse, or talk to him clearly, or...

1. If this ambiguity makes you happy...

Yes, it is quite possible. In fact, most women feel a certain pleasure in their hearts when men show their courtesy to them - this is an affirmation and recognition of their own feminine charm. So, if this kind of ambiguity makes you feel happy, there is nothing to be embarrassed about. The reason why this relationship is ambiguous is because it is uncertain - it is neither like ordinary friends, nor to the level of lovers. This uncertain and ambiguous state makes people anxious but also enjoyable.

2. Why reject another possibility?

Anxiety about ambiguity comes largely from the worry about the relationship developing further. The discussion about the so-called confidante, confidante and the fourth kind of emotion has been going on for decades. Do you still think you have no right to have one or more confidantes?

If you let go of the traditional definition of how a relationship “should be,” would this relationship still make you anxious?

3. Should we talk about it openly?

If you are not interested in this man and feel uncomfortable or even annoyed by this ambiguous approach, and he is not your boss, you might as well make it clear and give him a blow to keep your life quiet. If you feel happy about this ambiguous relationship but are troubled by the anxiety of uncertainty, you may hesitate about whether to make it clear - if you can really express your thoughts clearly, you might as well talk about it; however, if you can't explain it clearly yourself, it is recommended that you figure yourself out first, otherwise the conversation will only increase the troubles of both parties.

4. Do you want this man?

It's one thing to feel pleasure from being courted, but it's another to truly accept a man. It is easy for people to develop a sour grapes mentality that "everything else is good" and think that "all good men are married". Calm down and think about this man. If you are sure that you do not want to develop a further relationship with him, you will not be so anxious.

5. If you want this man?

This is a bit troublesome. In an ambiguous relationship, whoever gets serious first loses first. Of course, there is no winning or losing in true love. If you are serious, will he be serious too? Are you willing to be his mistress? Also, don't forget that he has a "principal wife" at home. If that woman is a shrew, you will have even more to bear.

6. Who is whose backup?

In this era when the divorce rate is so high, some insecure people not only think about finding a backup when they are single, but also think about having several backups when they are married. This kind of ambiguous relationship makes people feel that there is a "possibility" of being together - if the current relationship goes wrong, there are other possibilities - and they seem to feel more secure. But you have to know that this "spare tire mentality" will definitely affect your current relationship life, even if you are single now. So, no matter whether the other person treats you as a backup or not, you should not treat the other person as a backup.

7. If you have a husband or boyfriend

Will this ambiguous relationship affect your most important emotional relationship now? This often depends on what your husband or boyfriend thinks. If he is more secure and has a carefree personality, and has become oblivious to your good qualities out of habit after the two of you have been together for a long time, you might as well cleverly use this relationship to increase your own "sense of rarity" and enhance the relationship between you and your husband or boyfriend. If he is the type who is jealous and can't afford to play, then forget it.