Why does my brother-in-law always like to have an affair with his sister-in-law?

Yesterday, a friend posted a funny video of "brother-in-law and sister-in-law going to bed" in a WeChat group. After watching it, I still felt that I needed to say a few words. This video simply tells the world that there is always something inexplicable between brother-in-law and sister-in-law. After all, for thousands of years, there have been many rumors about the relationship between brothers-in-law and sisters-in-law circulating in the community. From royal relatives to ordinary people, each one has interpreted the delicate relationship between brothers-in-law and sisters-in-law in a bizarre way. In addition, in literary works and film and television dramas, the stories of sisters-in-law seducing brothers-in-law and brothers-in-law flirting with their sisters-in-law are even more colorful. So, in life, why do brothers-in-law always like to have an affair with their sisters-in-law?

In order to clarify the delicate relationship between brother-in-law and sister-in-law, Gu Yue thinks we need to understand some proverbs that have been circulating among the people since ancient times: sister-in-law is brother-in-law's little cotton-padded jacket; sister-in-law's butt is half as big as brother-in-law's, etc., why they are so popular. That's because, in ancient times, "sisters-in-law" were generally kept in seclusion, unknown to the world, never going out of the front door or the back door. When they began to feel "missing each other and feeling lonely", their brother-in-law was undoubtedly the best candidate. Now that women are integrating into society, why are there still many sisters-in-law and brothers-in-law who have unclear and inexplicable relationships? Are men born with a sister-in-law complex, or is it due to people's sexual fantasies? Are the sisters-in-law taking the initiative to throw themselves into the arms of the men, or are the brothers-in-law distracted? It seems that the background of this subtle relationship is worth exploring.

The author noticed on the Internet that the reason why brothers-in-law like to have affairs with their younger sisters-in-law is that they are young and beautiful, simple and easy to deceive, have no blood relationship, and the risk cost is relatively low.

. This statement may seem reasonable at first, but upon closer inspection it seems a little unrealistic. Think about it, there are plenty of young and beautiful girls out there, and it's not hard to find innocent, naive and gullible women, not to mention any blood relationship. As for the low risk cost, that's even more ridiculous. You know, nowadays the risk of having an affair with your sister-in-law is much higher than having an affair outside, because you cannot ignore the cost of family affection and trust between husband and wife, which cannot be bought with money. But outside, you just need to pay for the bed and the bill will be settled. Is it still a problem if money can solve it?

Therefore, in Gu Yue's opinion, there was another reason why the brother-in-law fell in love with his sister-in-law's bed. This is because when a man becomes aesthetically fatigued with his wife, at the beginning, although he has the desire to cheat on his wife, most of them do not have the courage to do so. In addition, most of them have just gotten married and have not formed their own entertainment circle outside, so it is difficult for them to find someone they want to cheat with. Therefore, although it is risky to attack the sister-in-law who is a close relative, it is still not easy to be noticed. First, you can try out your skills and build up your courage; second, you can satisfy your desire to cheat; third, you can also feel the pleasure of having an affair.

Is this true? We can explore this from a psychological perspective. Studies have shown that the direct driving force behind a person's behavior is motivation. Motivation guides behavior. When motivation directs an individual's behavior toward a certain goal, corresponding behavior will occur under the drive of this motivation. The brother-in-law likes to take action against his sister-in-law, and in fact, there are certain motives at work. In other words, the man's motivation is obvious. Because of possessiveness, he begins to desire another romance and excitement. In other words, when the brother-in-law has the motivation to cheat but cannot find someone to "practice" with, the sister-in-law is undoubtedly the best candidate.

Furthermore, when the brother-in-law spends every day with his wife, he has many opportunities to please his sister-in-law and bring them closer. In fact, the sister-in-law's initial motive towards her brother-in-law was very pure. It was because of the affection between sisters and the care and concern of her brother-in-law that made her admire and respect her brother-in-law. Besides, in general, the brother-in-law is several years older than the sister-in-law. Age means maturity, which means experience and knowledge. What's more, the sister-in-law is also a woman, and she also likes experienced and successful men. In addition, the care of the brother-in-law also includes family affection, which makes the brother-in-law enter her heart unknowingly. This may also be the reason why the brother-in-law has a special liking for his sister-in-law.

Of course, times are changing, and the term "sister-in-law" has gradually come out of people's sight, especially among the "brother-in-laws" of the post-80s generation. Because this generation are almost all only children, there is basically no such thing as sister-in-law. Even if there is, it is a title between sisters in the elders' family, but each family has its own family, so "brothers-in-law" don't have much opportunity to come into contact with their sisters-in-law. No wonder there seem to be fewer and fewer stories about brothers-in-law and sisters-in-law nowadays. However, nowadays, more and more men have begun to have a special liking for their girlfriends' "best friends". Perhaps this is also a transformation of the sister-in-law's plot? Who is the best friend? Let's not talk about it! From this, it is not difficult to see that the so-called brother-in-law likes to have an affair with the sister-in-law, which is nothing more than a scene of "the one who is close to the water gets the moon first" performed by men and women under the cover of family affection!