What do the ladies really feel when they are engaged in prostitution?

The climaxes that a lady experiences when serving customers are actually fake, all pretended, otherwise she would not be able to continue working in this line of work. Many prostitutes have been depressed mentally and physically. Their work does not involve true love between men and women, but is just a biological instinct to live.

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1. The lady's numb feeling

It is almost impossible for there to be real affection between prostitutes and their clients. The client appears as a buyer of sexual desire, and in most cases the client has no interest in the prostitute as a human being. A lady said in her online confession: "I live day by day, without desire or dissatisfaction. I am like a walking corpse. Every day, I sleep, accompany guests, or go shopping to buy a lot of clothes and cosmetics. Other than that, I hardly go out."

The book "Survey of Contemporary Sex Industry" says that, in fact, when a lady is doing business, everything is pretended, and must be pretended, otherwise she will not be able to persist. A lady must completely separate her professional behavior from her personal character, and strictly separate work and after get off work. Otherwise, she couldn't do it. It's not that the ladies are cheating, but some customers are just very immature. They try to disguise the pure transaction of money and flesh as an ordinary sexual relationship between men and women. Otherwise, they may not be able to bear it psychologically. Or perhaps, such a guest is too arrogant. They not only want to buy the lady's body, but also try to buy her personality and soul. This is doomed to fail, even if you keep her as a mistress.

Whatever. The author has also not heard a single lady say that there is any happiness in such a life. Meijie expressed their most common feeling in one word: indifferent...

(1) In fact, they no longer value their own purity. Some women ask what is the value of purity? To put it bluntly, the value of a woman is her flesh.

(2) Talking about sex with women is not a taboo issue, but the difference is that even women in the entertainment industry only feel the contact and insertion of sexual organs, and there is not much difference between what is lust and sexual desire. When talking to these women who engage in prostitution, the word they cannot accept the most is sexual intercourse. These are the two words they cannot say.

(3) How much true love between men and women is there in non-marital love and sexual desire such as prostitution? Pleasure, sex, money, enjoyment, and then repeating the scene of sex, and then only biological instincts are left, so it is despised by modern civilized society.

Most people who work in the sex industry are mentally and physically depressed. In this regard, Dr. Master, an American sexologist, once conducted an experiment to study the physiological reactions of prostitutes during transactions. The expected hypothesis of the experiment was that the physiological responses of prostitutes and ordinary women were similar. The results surprised the researchers. Unlike ordinary women who do not engage in prostitution, prostitutes' sexual organs are unable to become excited during the transaction because they are in a state of congestion for a long time. In the case survey of prostitutes, when asked about their feelings during the transaction, most of the answers were "annoying", "indifferent", and "just had to endure it". Even if some of them seemed excited, they just said they were acting.

Maybe some clients would say: "Prostitutes may also experience sexual pleasure." Yes, it is possible. But it depends on the specific time and circumstances. This situation is extremely rare. However, what does it matter if a prostitute has sexual pleasure? After going through so many storms, will you still have the same tremors and shaking as before? No! Prostitutes have experienced too much, they have long been accustomed to it and have become numb and regard it as a normal thing. "Pleasure has become commonplace, like a spring dream, leaving no trace." It's gone in a blink of an eye, forgotten in a flash! The only thing they care about is: "Your money!"

2. The Client’s Feelings

A repentant prostitute wrote in his online article: "I know there are several underground red-light districts in this city. I also patronized there a few years ago. There are two kinds of women there: one you like, and the other you don't. Let's talk about the former first. When you face her numbness and mechanicalness, you feel disappointed and regretful. When you face her charming and tender feelings, you will feel even more disappointed and regretful because she is a prostitute (false things always disappoint people!!); however, the latter must still be disappointing and regretful!"

Another client said: "The feeling when you visit a prostitute is excitement at the beginning and regret at the end."

So, why do some prostitutes still become addicted? Because they have lost their conscience and sense of shame, and have become slaves to desire, indulging only in the instinctive pleasure of the flesh like low-level animals! Why would a pig feel happy lying in the mud in summer? Because it is not a human being!

1. Men are “explorers”

Many people go to prostitutes out of curiosity, excitement or their own cognitive misunderstandings. If we understand the characteristics of our own psychological activities, it may be helpful for us to overcome the temptation of prostitutes.

Many women feel a strong disgust towards men who frequent brothels. What puzzles them most is why men have no aversion to having sex with women they don't know, and are willing to spend money on it without feeling any shame.

It is difficult for women to understand or appreciate the intensity of men's sexual curiosity and desire, which is far beyond women's imagination.

Simply put, when it comes to sexual exploration, men are "explorers." "Explorers" are driven by curiosity and desire to embark on an unknown and difficult world. Men have a similar attitude towards sex. They are always curious about unknown women and are willing to take challenges even if it requires certain risks. On the contrary, they have no urge to "explore" women who are already familiar to them and who are not new to them. After a man has sex with the same woman (female third parties should be careful!) several times, he will gradually become bored and then shift his attention to a stranger of the opposite sex. Male animals are like "explorers" who have a strong desire for the female body, which is still an unknown world, and hope to explore its inner mysteries. This desire prompted him to observe and understand what he didn't know, and to touch women he had never touched before.

In short, this strong sexual curiosity and love belong to two different realms, and there is no necessary connection between the two.

Men's strong sexual desire has long been stored in their genes as an instinct. This is a kind of ignorant greed and karma that has existed for countless eons.

On the other hand, Freud said: "With respect to women, sexual behavior is always threatened. Only with lower-level sexual objects can he act freely and do whatever he wants; of course, there is another half factor involved in this phenomenon, that is, he is unwilling to demand unreasonable and conventional (promiscuous) sexual satisfaction from the women he respects. Only when he indulges himself wholeheartedly can his sexual desire be fully satisfied. But, for example, he looks for some less noble sexual objects, a less moral woman, for whom she will not have moral anxiety, and she knows nothing about his life and cannot criticize him. Although all his tenderness and thoughts are all attached to others, he can only devote his sexual ability to such a woman. Men of high social status often keep a woman of low class as a permanent mistress, or even marry her as a wife. It is very likely that this is also based on the need for a low-class sexual object so that he can get complete satisfaction from a psychological point of view."

Therefore, there is no logic or reason for the lustful thoughts that are only the impulse of strong karma, because they are the fundamental karma of greed and ignorance from many lifetimes. There is no reason, only power. When your heart follows lust, it has already filled your heart. When you come to your senses (awake), you have often committed a sexual offense, or molested or defiled the other person. This is the terrible thing about lust. Therefore, we must pay attention to the small details in our daily lives! In inconspicuous places, we should be more careful about our words and deeds and be "cautious and cautious".

2. Man, your "adventure" is a misunderstanding!

When you see a beautiful woman, you think of entering and "exploring", which may be due to two misunderstandings:

(1) You think that there are always different special "delicacies" in the beautiful food packaging, tempting you to "taste" it. In fact, the taste is the same (the feeling of contact between the genital skin nerve cells is the same), or at least it is similar! You have been deceived by your imagination.

Sogyal Khenpo said: "There is no difference between good and bad in the impure bodies and dense intercourse of all women, and their appearance and beauty are also shared by others, so why do you covet beautiful women?"

If you can stop your lust for ugly women, you should also stop your lust for beautiful women. Fools think it is natural to develop lust for beautiful women, but upon analysis, this is merely a delusion arising from discriminatory attachment. No matter what kind of noble or humble, beautiful or ugly, good or bad women are in the world, their body structure from the outside to the inside is the same. Their skin, flesh, and bones are filled with blood, pus, and feces, and impurities are flowing out of the pores all over their bodies. When a man with a confused and deluded mind has close intercourse with a woman's impure body, he does not feel any difference based on whether the woman is beautiful or ugly, good or bad, and the tactile satisfaction he gets from the impure intercourse is also the same. So why would he love beautiful women and hate ugly women? If you say that it is because the beauty is so beautiful that you become greedy when you see her, then you should be able to get satisfaction and happiness just by appreciating her with your eyes. The beauty of a beautiful woman can be appreciated by any sentient being with eyes. There is no need to be greedy for it, and there is nothing to be greedy about. If these external beauties are really worthy of greed, then why don’t pigs and dogs develop greed when they enjoy these beauties? Or when those beauties have just died and their beauty is still the same, why don’t people develop greed?!

(2) Beautiful women arouse your primitive sexual desire, which can be understood as: desire for contact, desire for exploration, desire for conquest and desire for possession. The most secret place is like the peak in mountain climbing, and it has the most exploration value.

Desire for contact: You think you have possessed someone by having physical contact, but this is just your wishful thinking. Actually, you are wrong. The prostitute does not feel that you are possessing her. Don't deceive yourself! If you have held the hand of a beautiful woman, why don't you think that you have possessed her hand?!

Desire for adventure: What kind of place is this? You actually want to "explore"? There are viruses such as gonorrhea, herpes, syphilis, and even HIV here. The so-called "public toilet" is the most filthy, cheap, and obscene place, full of stench and mess. What's more, many clients have already been involved in this business, so why should you get involved in this muddy water? An honest gentleman will never do such a dirty thing.

Desire to conquer and desire to possess: Have you "conquered"? People often ask mountaineering enthusiasts if they feel they have "conquered" the mountain after reaching the top. The answer is: after reaching the top of the mountain, you cannot stay there forever (possess it). After you go down the mountain, the wind and snow will quickly cover up all your traces of climbing, leaving nothing. At the foot of the mountain, you still have to look up at its top! Can this be called "conquering"?!

In fact, with beautiful women, what you once had was just a short pleasure process that has disappeared, nothing more! And this process is impermanent and empty. You can't see it or touch it, and you can't even recall it in detail. How can you possess it?! Mountain climbing is an upright thing, and successful climbers will certainly have a sense of happiness of defeating themselves! And such a dirty thing as prostitution will not make you feel happy and conquered, but only emptiness and regret.

As one client said: I suddenly feel so lost. What did I get, love? Bullshit ~ body? Tomorrow she will lie in the arms of another man, did I get it? I don’t know. The next day, I paid the money with extremely mixed feelings and walked out the door. Walking on the street, I couldn't seem to believe what happened yesterday. I didn’t feel very satisfied. On the contrary, I felt more confused and empty. I suddenly realized that I wanted to use physical catharsis to erase the memories of yesterday and use primitive pleasure to drive away the loneliness of my soul, but I was wrong. I didn’t get what I really needed. What have I done? I want to give myself a slap in the face!