More than 90% of couples have made this mistake.

Marital sex is not only a spice of the relationship between husband and wife, but also a physiological need for both parties. In other words, it is an indispensable and important part of life.

However, in real life, many couples either feel that they have lost their passion or that their partner cannot arouse their sexual interest. Even if we sometimes go Dutch, we just do it in a perfunctory manner, as if we are just completing a task. Not to mention the foreplay and afterplay.

But in fact, a complete sexual intercourse includes three parts: foreplay, sex and afterplay, and the best time ratio is 2:3:2. However, according to surveys, most couples violate this principle and thus cannot have high-quality sex.

Foreplay mainly involves hugging and kissing

What behaviors do you have before entering into real love? The survey shows that hugging and kissing (lips, tongue, earlobes, neck, back, etc.) account for 70%. Dr. Kurt, a psychologist and sex therapist from Michigan, pointed out that the best "sexual foreplay" should satisfy people's four major needs: vision, touch, smell, and hearing. Use music and lights to create the atmosphere, say some teasing words, breathe contact... Couples don't have to be too rigid about formalities, you can change up the style and add more formalities every time.

Half of the people have foreplay for less than 3 minutes

The survey shows that 12.7% of people do not have foreplay and go straight to the point; 41.31% of people have foreplay time of less than 3 minutes. That is to say, more than half of the people have foreplay time of less than 3 minutes. Yang Dazhong, chief physician of the Department of Sexual Medicine at Tsinghua University Yuquan Hospital, said that complete sex should include three parts: foreplay, actual sex and afterplay, and the time allocation of the three parts should follow the principle of 2:3:2.

Generally speaking, both parties can be satisfied with sex within 20 minutes, so foreplay should take about 6 minutes. He suggests that the older you get, the more you should increase foreplay time so that your body is fully prepared for higher quality sex.

Sixty percent of people are dissatisfied with the amount of time they spend having sex

In terms of actual sex time, 26.28% of people spend less than 5 minutes, and 37.96% spend 6-15 minutes. At the same time, more than 60% of people feel "unsatisfied" or "average" with their sex time. In this regard, Professor Ma Xiaonian of the Department of Sexual Medicine at Tsinghua University Yuquan Hospital pointed out that people always care too much about the duration of sex, especially men.

In fact, the actual sex time of couples in different countries is not as long as people imagine. A survey released by the United States shows that the average sexual intercourse time for people in many countries is 4 minutes and 24 seconds, with the longest record being 44 minutes and the shortest being only 30 seconds. Experts at Utrecht University in the Netherlands believe that 3-7 minutes from insertion to ejaculation is enough to meet the needs of both parties.

For many women, prolonged actual sex not only fails to bring pleasure, but may also affect orgasm. Appropriate tenderness after sex is better than a long "marathon".

40% of people don't have any after-show

A survey shows that in Asian countries, 40% of men do not show any affection to their wives after having sex. Ma Xiaonian pointed out that the lack of afterplay will make women think "he only cares about venting himself and doesn't care about me at all", while hugging and chatting for a while after sex can play a good role in emotional lubrication.