7 kinds of selfish desires of women make it even more difficult to "take off all clothes"

Introduction: The mate selection psychology of men and women is diverse, and everyone can have a mate selection psychology that is different from others. The following are just a few basic mate selection psychology. It is said that: Friendship based on profit will end when the profit is gone, friends based on beauty will become distant when the beauty fades, and only friends based on the heart can last forever. Let’s look at the seven selfish reasons why unmarried “leftover women” choose their spouses.

1. The career-oriented mate selection mentality

In fact, everyone is willing to pay attention to this point and hopes that their partner can become a pillar of society and excel in work and career. However, due to various restrictions, there are not many people who have this mentality in choosing a spouse. However, there are still many people among the intellectual group.

They regard work achievements and career progress as the greatest happiness in life. Consider the other person's ambition and fighting spirit as an important factor in choosing a spouse, and pin the happiness of love on the struggle of career. This kind of love is eternal because of the eternity of the cause.

(II) The psychology of choosing a spouse for the pursuit of spiritual satisfaction

With the progress of social civilization and the improvement of people's cultural quality, more and more people have this kind of mate selection psychology. They focus on the other party's thoughts and feelings, moral qualities, personality and hobbies, and pursue spiritual communication and emotional harmony with each other.

As long as one can feel happy and satisfied spiritually, it doesn’t matter even if the other person’s financial conditions, physical condition, etc. are poor. This kind of love based on the spirit is noble. Many of the love stories that are passed down as beautiful stories belong to the pursuit of this kind of love psychology.

3. The psychology of choosing a spouse based on money

This kind of mate selection psychology is quite common, especially in economically backward areas. They put the other party's financial situation first, and their marriage is to get a comfortable home that can satisfy their food, clothing, shelter, and entertainment, or a support for survival.

This kind of marriage based on material and money is not reliable, because economic conditions can change. It often loses the attraction that unites the hearts of two people when the other party loses favorable material conditions, and thus they are forced to go their separate ways.

4. Political marriage

This kind of mate selection psychology was quite common in feudal society. They used marriage to pave the way for their official careers or consolidate nepotism in official circles, which was the so-called political marriage.

Although this kind of mate selection mentality is not common nowadays, there are still many people who use it for other purposes. They do not pay attention to the emotional and psychological compatibility between the two people, let alone finding a soulmate, but put the ulterior motives behind marriage at the top of love. This kind of love is also unreliable.

(V) The psychology of choosing a spouse based on appearance

This mentality occupies a very important position among young people. Everyone wants their partner to be more beautiful and handsome. This is human nature, but if one blindly pursues this kind of external beauty, one will often go astray. Love that relies on the other person's good looks is short-lived.

As time goes by, love will disappear along with the aging of appearance. As Goethe said, "Outer beauty pleases only for a moment, inner beauty lasts forever."

(VI) The psychology of choosing a spouse with too many standards

Some people set a series of standards in advance when choosing a partner, with a lot of rules and regulations. Anyone who does not meet one or two of these points will not be considered, even if they are satisfied in other aspects. Although most people who have this kind of mate selection mentality are young people in their first love, they often become older youth.

(VII) Mate selection psychology in game love

Only a minority of people have this mentality. In the name of love, they play with other people's feelings, are fickle, and seek women for pleasure. Their outlook on life and love is corrupt. As a result, they live their whole lives in a muddle and cannot enjoy true love.