If a couple wants to live a harmonious life, they must have this fantasy

There is no absolutely fixed standard or unchanging pattern for female orgasm. To achieve the perfect combination of spirit and flesh and to get the sexual enjoyment that women pursue in their hearts is actually not difficult. The methods are around us. The key lies in the diversity of methods and their proper use.

Over the years, my sex life with my husband has been very harmonious. But in the early days of our marriage, we took some detours and had some disagreements, which made me feel quite secretive. Therefore, during each sexual intercourse we had, I mostly did it to be worthy of my husband and treated it as a special task to be completed. As for what kind of climax I had never experienced, I could be said to be a layman. But this situation is relatively short-lived. Gradually, they change from passive to active, from reluctant to frequent pursuit, and the quality of life of the couple is greatly improved. It was not my husband's credit that I was able to complete this transformation and make this leap, but I myself overcame the shyness of my girlhood, abandoned the habit of being keen on feudal ideas, and gradually reversed this passive situation, even though my husband was a doctor.

Recalling this change, I feel that the biggest gain, the biggest realization and experience is sexual fantasy, which is based on the dreamy and longing sexual fantasy that all women yearn for.

In daily life, many fantasies can be regarded as the beginning of inventions and creations, and fantasy is also the basis of inspiration. Sexual fantasies can help us gradually overcome our wrong ideas, allow us to feel things from the bottom of our hearts, activate our true sexual interests in life from our eager anticipation, and realize in practice that sexual life is a normal need of human sexual physiology, an important part of married life, and an important prerequisite for a happy and harmonious family. In my sexual experience, I can say that during the period of sexual disharmony between husband and wife, sexual fantasy is an important step for me to reach orgasm and a good way for me to get rid of the passive situation.

When I just got married, maybe it was because of the busy work or because I was a new wife, I lacked special feelings and experiences in matters between the sexes, and there were no obvious ups and downs. Especially when we had sex on our wedding night, it was very different from the "how and how" that some sisters discussed in private, because my mind was almost completely in a contradiction of embarrassment, extreme excitement, and confusion. Maybe it was because it was the first time, both parties just felt that it was just that, and they didn’t really feel the sexual feeling or sexual pleasure. My husband only had some medical theoretical understanding but lacked “practical” experience. At that time, I was like a docile lamb, my body leaning against my husband's body, my face leaning against my husband's face, and I felt that this was the happiest and most enjoyable thing.

Or maybe my husband is more "sensitive" than me. He got into the role soon after we got married and tasted the sweetness. Despite this, he still needs my close cooperation, otherwise he will be dissatisfied and feel that he has not fully enjoyed himself. In order to "sync" with him, I cooperated with him as much as I could, even though it was not spontaneous and I was not fully committed. As time went by, I no longer felt bored with the heavy work, and gradually I began to experience some good feelings that could not be replaced by any other means.

Although I have achieved certain results, there are still many unsatisfactory aspects, because I do not have the orgasm mentioned in many medical popular science magazines, let alone the question of whether I am addicted or not.

Work is indeed too busy. I work as a secretary, and my mind is full of documents, materials, reports, etc. My husband is the boss of the emergency department. He has been a great help to me in imparting medical knowledge and can be regarded as my enlightenment teacher. Although they were husband and wife, in the early days of their marriage, she just listened to his guidance on sex and was mostly skeptical. If he talked too much, she even felt a little impatient. I am embarrassed to ask about sexual matters that I don't understand, such as how to improve the quality of my sex life, how to reach orgasm, and other difficult questions.

An accidental moment of reverie gave me great help, that is, early sexual fantasy. That day, I had just finished drafting a work summary and I took out a medical popular science magazine from the drawer. I saw an article about sex and after reading a few lines, I felt that the article was talking about how stupid I was. Unconsciously, I got into the role and imagined myself being like the wife in the article, from not knowing her to knowing her, from being unhappy to being happy, accompanied by rare joy and excitement. My face couldn't help but get hot and my whole body was in an excited state. It was even more meaningful than my previous sex life... Of course, all of this was based on my wild imagination.

That evening, the husband came home from get off work. I was very excited and didn't feel the slightest bit sleepy. The fantasies I had while at work kept churning in my mind. I seemed very diligent, very excited, and very beautiful. I began to have active, heartfelt, and irrepressible desires. My husband looked particularly handsome, particularly cool, and particularly lovable. After a short while, I couldn't help but pull his hand, kiss his face, and then hug his neck and body. I couldn't bear it any longer and went to bed early...

The story of that night left the deepest impression in my mind. It was the first time that I adjusted myself to the best state and the first time that I felt that it was an incomparable and irreplaceable enjoyment that fully combined the soul and the body. No wonder some people say that orgasm is so mysterious and so hard to pursue.

Afterwards, I discovered a secret: anyone who has ever missed her husband deeply and had sexual fantasies, and has "planned" first, will have a high-quality sex life afterwards, will be more proactive, and will have unexpected gains. Sexual fantasies have almost become the starting switch and prelude to my sexual life with my husband.

Over time, our sexual relationship has become more harmonious. We can talk about everything and are open about sex. The atmosphere of democracy is becoming increasingly strong, and it seems that no one can live without the other. Only the two of us understand how much progress I, a woman who used to have no interest in such things, have made, and only I can truly experience it.

Before every sexual intercourse thereafter, I was naturally still keen on sexual fantasies. Whenever my sex life with my husband is not harmonious, whenever I have free time at work, or whenever I have a problem with my husband, I always have a lot of thoughts. Always recalling our "good moments"... This trick really works and often produces unexpected results.

Knowing this rule, I noticed that a high-quality sex life for couples also requires "a combination of work and thinking", and one must also be careful to determine the extent so that the arrangement of this "heart" does not conflict with work. One should combine work and rest, and alternate relaxation and tension as much as possible, so that sex can become a special regulating lever for the blending of yin and yang and the exchange of feelings between couples.

I put a lot of thought into how to make the best use of my sexual fantasies. Because of the initial experience, even if something unsatisfactory happens, I will never blame myself for having wild thoughts. As long as it is conducive to enhancing the relationship between husband and wife, family happiness, and improving the quality of sex life and love between husband and wife, I will feel fulfilled and satisfied.