Such "panic" is enough to kill most men in seconds

Have you ever had such an experience? You and he are enjoying the passion and tenderness of love in bed, when suddenly the phone rings. Your mother's "Hello" makes him jump from the bed to the sofa. He is so scared that he can't recover for a long time.

Although men always show off their natural quality of not being afraid of danger and not panicking in the face of anything, men are also human beings and they also tremble sometimes. Dr. Mike Schiller, a sexologist in Chicago, said: "Men will panic when something threatens their self-esteem, and sex is the foundation for men to establish and maintain their self-esteem." So during sex, if a man suddenly feels panic and overwhelmed, it must be that you did something wrong.

So, what usually triggers a man's sexual panic button, and how can you avoid these embarrassing moments?

I'm afraid you won't respond.

Sex is the most intimate emotional and physical exchange between lovers, and a dialogue between the spirit and the body at the same time. When making love, men always like to hear a few words of encouragement, or hear and see your clear response, whether in the form of sound or body movements. If you remain silent, no matter how much he sweats, as if you are leaving him in the sun, he will think that your silence is a protest, dissatisfaction or carelessness.

Peter, a 30-year-old writer, said: "Sometimes my girlfriend and I suddenly stop making any noise when we have sex, and I think it must be because I'm not doing it well. So I start to have all sorts of random thoughts and don't understand what I did wrong, and I lose all mood." Some men say that when a woman's body no longer sways with their rhythm, they feel terrified, like swimming desperately in a sea of ​​unknown depth. Mike, a 27-year-old teacher, said: "Sometimes we choose a very good posture and feel completely integrated with each other without reservation, but she suddenly stops moving. I feel very strange and just want to call it a day."

Believe it or not, sometimes it is your neglect that makes your man lose interest in you in an instant. Dr. Schiller said: "Deep down in the heart of a man, he is always worried that he can't satisfy his woman. If he can't understand your reaction in time, he will immediately doubt himself. The best way is to express your feelings truthfully. If you like, just make a happy low moan or gently pat his shoulder. If shouting is not your style, then sway your body to his rhythm, just like dancing a waltz with his steps, and your rotation will be the source of his motivation."

Why prepare so many contraceptives?

Buying dozens of groceries and toilet paper from the supermarket proves that you know how to live, but don't carry so many contraceptives home. At least put them in a safer place.

Jack, 24, said: "Everything was going well when we first met. Until one day I asked her if she had any condoms. She pulled out several dozen condoms of various brands from the drawer of her bedside table and asked me what texture, smell and size I liked. I almost fainted. Having a few condoms on hand is not a big deal, but she has enough to open a brothel."

It's not that only men should prepare these things, but you should be careful to control your inventory. From a man's perspective, "If I see she has a small box with some protection in it, I'll think she's taking care of herself. Whereas if I see she has a big box, I'll wonder how many other guys she's been with?"

Menstrual fear

No matter what the men say, they lose their senses at the sight of blood. Mark, a 25-year-old welder, said: "One time when I was having sex with her I found she was bleeding. She had just had her period and it was like a big shock to me. I couldn't stand it any longer."

Dr. Schiller said: "Many men think that blood is unclean and harmful. If you don't know how he will react, it's best to find out in advance.

I heard about your past

There are so many things you can share in bed: telling stories, getting a massage, eating ice cream.

But don't tell him how great your ex-boyfriend was in bed. Jerry, a 30-year-old scientist, said: "I was with my girlfriend once, and she told me about her ex-boyfriend who was very sexy. She even described where he had a hemorrhoid. Why should I know this? After that, every time I had sex with her, another shadow would appear in my mind. I always felt that other men seemed to be stronger than me and could please her better."

You should talk to him like a good friend or a parent. It's enough to let him know that you have been in a relationship before, and keep the details to yourself.

Procrastinate

Do you always find excuses to hide in the bathroom to touch up your makeup when you're on a date? Do you know what men think about this? Mitch, a 29-year-old graduate student, said: "On our first date, she went to the bathroom. I waited outside for a long time, even finished reading a magazine, but she didn't come out. I started to wonder what she was doing in there. Did she fall? After another 15 minutes, she came back and it was as if nothing had happened. From then on, everything felt wrong for me."

There's only one way to avoid making him wonder: whether you're in the bathroom, getting dressed or getting ready, don't take too long. And better yet tell him what you are doing.