Only by lighting yourself up can you regain the feeling of "stealing joy"

The key to achieving sexual happiness is to know how to "ignite" yourself.

Know how to "ignite" yourself

The key to achieving sexual happiness is to know how to "ignite" yourself. Maybe you and your husband already know what turns you on, but if you haven't tried anything new in a while, take advantage of the long vacation to explore some new areas.

You can listen to your own heart at the quietest time, and you will get the most secretive but truest thoughts. Knowing how to "ignite" yourself is the best gift you can give to yourself and him.

Make yourself full of sexy taste

A survey shows that women need foreplay more than men, otherwise it is difficult to get into a passionate state. So, create a sexy atmosphere for yourself and him.

Maintain close contact frequently

To ensure that leisure time is "triggerable", there must be some intimate contact every day, such as an arm around his shoulders or holding hands while watching TV, or a big hug when he walks in the door. Feel loved and cared for every day, and your body will feel the same way.

Concentrate on enjoying the "sexual" happy moment

Work, family, friends, maybe you have too many things to worry about in a day, even when you are enjoying that wonderful moment. This happens more easily to women because they tend to be more easily distracted than men and cannot be as intermittent as men. Women's feelings at this moment fluctuate greatly and will quickly drop to the bottom, from which it is difficult to recover. This means that if you start, you won't be able to continue if you get distracted, and you will completely ruin the wonderful moment.

If you want to be able to enjoy the moment without interruption, eliminate all sources of distraction before you begin. Before you dive into your passion, make a list of everything you haven't done, and then do them one by one. This way, you can focus on enjoying the wonderful moments with your partner without any distractions.

Learn to "cheat"

When you have children, the focus of your life shifts. But don’t forget that the relationship between husband and wife still needs to be maintained, so be a smart parent and try to have a secret affair behind your child’s back.

Maybe no one would suggest you to leave your child in front of the TV for a long time, but if you really can't spare more time alone, you might as well try to avoid your baby's sight at an appropriate time (such as one morning during a long vacation) and let him watch his favorite TV shows alone, while you can do whatever you want in the bedroom. Of course, remember to lock the door. Don't worry that this will be bad for your children. You also need your own private space without being disturbed by anyone.

Confess your dissatisfaction

Whether you admit it or not, most women have had this experience: your husband is enthusiastically trying what he thinks is the best method, but you lie there helplessly, counting in your mind and hoping that he will finish soon.

Many women also often pretend to be happy because they feel that if they criticize their partners in this regard, it will embarrass or hurt them.

Instead of considering his face and enduring or being disappointed again and again, it is better to find a good time and tell him your thoughts tactfully. But be sure to pay attention to the method and don't say to him rudely, "You never do this" or "I don't like you doing this at all."

Praise the other person generously

Many women are embarrassed to communicate with their husbands about sex. But if the other person is doing a great job and you are enjoying it, why not tell him? It is just as important to tell your husband what he does well as it is to tell him what he does not do well.

When giving compliments, don't forget to mention the details, as this is a kind of affirmation to the other person. The more praise he gets, the prouder he will be and the better he will do.

Learn to get into the state

Men and women's needs are not usually in sync. Maybe most of the time you just want to be intimate with your husband before going to bed at night, and then you can sleep soundly for 8 hours. But your husband always makes demands anytime and anywhere. reject? It's a bit disappointing; should I agree? A bit reluctant. Then let's just make the best of it. You have to know how to get into the state and learn to enjoy it to the fullest.

A foreign study shows that sexual pleasure accounts for a large part of a person's sense of happiness. So, don’t think that this is a compromise with your husband. It is actually a compromise with your happiness. Who would refuse happiness?