7 Secrets Men Have About Being Unsure About Their Relationships

Does the person you like meet the following points? He never says things like "date me" or "I want to date you". He clearly has feelings for you but won't confess. Even after having sex, he still won't readily admit that you are in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. So are you wondering why the other person is reluctant to say "date me"? On April 29, the Japanese website Lourie published an article introducing the thoughts of men who don't want to say or can't say "I want to date you". Let’s take a look together!

1. Because I hope to find a better

Men who never say "Let's have a good relationship" no matter how much money and time they spend on girls have their reasons for being men. It may be because they are married, but it may also be because they have improper relationships with other women, or they feel that there will be better women appearing, which leads them to have expectations and thus prevents men from making up their minds to establish a relationship. Maybe it is very easy for men to play two women at the same time. The reason why they don’t say “I want to date you” may be because they reflect the mentality of “I don’t want to stop here”.

2. Don’t want to say it casually

Contrary to the above reasons, men who don’t say “Let’s date” are not necessarily men who are unwilling to take responsibility. Some people are reluctant to say "let's date" because they think, "Although I like her very much and want to have sex with her, and I also want to make her happy, but if we date, the feeling of love in me won't be as strong as before."

These guys are the ones who are too serious or thinking too much to express themselves, but they make great boyfriends once they decide to be serious about it.

3. Fear of being rejected or never meeting again

Some men don't want to be rejected by the woman with whom they have just become close, thus complicating the relationship. Men are always worried that their confession will be rejected and they won’t even be able to be friends. This type of men thinks that "the current relationship is pretty good and I don't want to destroy it easily", but because they don't say it out loud, they have no way of knowing what the person they like is thinking.

Rather than being rejected by the other party and never meeting again, some men would rather choose an ambiguous relationship without breaking it up. They hope to maintain the friendships and interpersonal relationships they have established instead of taking the relationship any further.

4. Think that ambiguous relationships are better

Basically, many men hate being bound, so even if they are nominally dating, they will not make it clear and may even just say it is a "sexual partnership." This type of man feels that it is better to keep things ambiguous without saying anything, but if the relationship is made clear and recognized, he will not be able to approach a woman who is more to his liking at a party or other occasions. Therefore, if you want a man to express his desire to date you, you have to make him feel that there is a future for him to be with you. Therefore, men sometimes do not marry women with whom they have a long-term relationship, but instead marry women they have just met.

5. Hate relationships that are difficult to get out of

Sometimes, men will use the line "date me" as a means to exchange for physical relations and then disappear without a trace. However, with the advent of mobile phones, SNS and other communication tools, it is easy for men to be caught by their girlfriends, so it may be difficult to get rid of them after they have established a romantic relationship. Nowadays, those who casually say things like "Come date me" or "I want to marry you" are generally older men. On the contrary, young men who are accustomed to continuing to date people at a long distance will be afraid of not being able to get out of the relationship, so they will think carefully and will not casually say things like "I want to get married" or "I want to date you."

Men themselves hate trouble. Even if they decide to have a serious relationship, they will still worry about breaking up or being dumped. Is this kind of love surrounded by various communication tools good or bad?

6. The way men take responsibility has changed

In the past, when men and women had an intimate relationship, most men would feel that they had to take responsibility for women. And this idea of ​​being responsible also has the feeling of wanting to be exclusive to women. They would say "you are mine", "we will live together if we get married", "quit your job for me", etc. However, in today's era, men's power has weakened and they can no longer monopolize women. Men's sense of responsibility has also gradually become blurred, so the number of "ambiguous men" who are struggling with whether to establish a romantic relationship is also increasing. At the same time, such thoughts as "I can't say it frankly" and "I don't like to say it too clearly" may also be related to economic factors and the social background.

7. When you reach a certain age, the word "dating" seems too much of a responsibility

There are indeed men who fall in love without thinking about anything, but for men who have reached a certain age, the word "relationship" seems to have too much responsibility. And the older a woman gets, the more urgently she will consider the future, and the meaning of "dating" will become heavier. For men, liking someone does not mean wanting to be together. Men of a certain age are reluctant to say that they are dating because they care about the other person's age. If the woman is older, the man will generally feel scared and retreat as soon as he imagines how serious she is, so he won't be able to say things like "go out with me". Perhaps relatively speaking, young women are more likely to say such things.

There are various reasons mentioned above why men are reluctant to say "date me" and establish a relationship. Is the man you like this type? What are his reasons? You may want to think about it carefully with reference to the article.