7 common emotional blind spots that make passionate women vulnerable

When it comes to emotions, fate is always unfair to women. The more women value emotions and the more they regard emotions as the whole of their life, the more likely they are to suffer emotional abuse. Looking at many realities around us, it is often difficult for women's passion to blossom and bear fruit in our lives. Many women have to complain in their hearts, hiding their passion deep in their boudoirs, and become unhappy all their lives.

Blind spot 1: Foolish man, I already belong to you

In fact, when a woman is really in love, it is very scary. This kind of scary is not only for men, but also for herself. She will be willing to do it thoroughly, hysterically, without reservation, and without hesitation, without leaving any way out for herself. She will tell you in detail how many times she has been in love and how many times she has broken up. She will also tell you how much savings she has, how much of it she gave to her parents, and how much she lent to friends. All of the above can be described by a phrase they often say: Foolish boy, I already belong to you.

My analysis is: most men are animals that cannot afford to be spoiled. Your amorous intention is good and true, but it will often backfire and accelerate his pace of leaving you. In love and marriage, it is best to be one step apart from each other, and the temperature should be 36.5 degrees. Women should remember that you must have a certain amount of privacy at all times, because this privacy will turn into mystery and be used to solidify your marriage and love.

Blind spot 2: Oh my god, he is so manly even when he gets angry

Once a woman came to me for help. She said: I have never understood why he wanted to divorce me. I take care of my husband and children and never let him do housework... I love him so much, even when he scolded me, I felt he was so manly... I really don’t know what I did wrong.

My answer: If love is too deep, it is not love. Love can make a person happy for a lifetime, but it can also make a person completely lose himself in a short period of time. If a person loses himself, will the other person still love you?

Blind spot 3: Baby, you should be all mine

There are many ways to be amorous, one of which is to be domineering and possessive. But from the Chinese perspective, it might be better if a man is the one doing the domineering love. But if a woman does it, it always seems a little unreasonable, and she may even be regarded as a lunatic.

The reason is simple: not to mention the man’s own problems, a woman who makes this mistake is at least likely to be condemned by the man’s entire family, because she has unknowingly challenged his entire family. His parents carried him for ten months and raised him with great difficulty for more than ten years. Why should he belong to her alone when he grows up? It would be strange if she was not hated to death by everyone. Going further, if all his family members dislike her, do you think he can still belong to her completely? I'm afraid he will even lose his initial love.

Blind spot 4: No matter what, you have to love me forever

The biggest difference between being affectionate, being heartless and being sentimental is that only those who are affectionate believe that love can last a lifetime. Many passionate women tend to think and act this way. So when their feelings are met with setbacks, they will cry because of the huge psychological contrast. Unconsciously, I added the word "no matter what" before "you have to love me forever", and then the crisis of marriage and relationship came. Think about it, marriage and love should be a matter between two people. Can you solve the problem by just "not caring"?

Blind spot 5: It’s okay, he won’t lie to me

Also, passionate women are more likely to be superstitious about a man than ordinary women. She believes that as long as the person is loved, she should believe everything about him/her. Even if there are loopholes in front of her, she is unwilling to believe and face it. She always measures the other person based on her own sentimentality, thinking that since I love him so much and never lie to him, he will definitely not lie to me.

However, in reality, marriage is not like this. No matter how good and loving a couple is, there is always cheating. Maybe cheating is helpless, or maybe it is well-intentioned.

Blind spot six: Hold on, he’s just testing me

Let me tell you another story: There was a senior girl named Xiao who had been in love with her boyfriend for three years in college. When she graduated, she received a text message from her boyfriend who was doing an internship away from home. This text message was actually sent to her phone by her boyfriend accidentally. He originally wanted to send it to another girl who was introduced by his family and whom he was planning to marry. Perhaps if it were another girl, a text message like this would definitely cause an uproar or become a reason for her to go directly to her boyfriend's house. However, the sentimental Xiao, who was in great happiness and contentment, did not draw attention to it, but selfishly thought that "he is just testing me", and as a result missed the best opportunity to save love and compete with others.

No matter what, there is absolutely no way that marriage can be free of deception. Anyone who has a little understanding of marriage will take precautions against this early on.

Blind spot seven: Don’t worry, I don’t need anything as long as I have you

In real life, some girls are young and naive and think that love is pure and romantic. They mistakenly believe that love is about pursuing purity and abandoning all worldly distractions to be together, so they constantly tell their boyfriends with words and actions: "Don't worry, I don't want anything else as long as I have you!" Of course, the men are deeply moved and want it very much.

But it won't be long before they understand: How painful it is to fall in love on an empty stomach? How tiring it is to move from place to place and rent a house? But when they wake up, it seems too late, because they missed the opportunity to choose. When they had the most say, because of their ignorance and sentimentality, they gave up a crucial power in their lives. This power is the power to choose the love survival index.