Analysis of six common psychological problems of older leftover women

Women are generally more thoughtful, sentimental, anxious... This phenomenon becomes more obvious as they get older.

First: Special gossip

Every single woman must have a few close friends who are like the nagging women in the movie "Infinite Motion". They all have sharp tongues and whenever they get together, they criticize every man around them and enjoy it.

From major entertainment events around the world, including the measurements of the latest Mou Girl; to minor emotional realities of the grassroots, such as the fact that the owner of the clothing store downstairs seems to have several lovers... But after all, the topic will ultimately focus on men. Anyway, the men around us are either unhuman or unlovable. Finally, I came to the conclusion that given the general background of globalization, it’s no wonder that you are single.

It's sad that even if you can find a boyfriend, he will be drowned by the saliva of your besties. Since you are not a paparazzi and do not have a professional need to spread gossip and embarrassing stories of acquaintances, why don't you shut up and seriously think about the good qualities of the men around you?

Second: Get used to being ordered around by your boss

"Career-oriented", "workaholic", "strong woman"...all these titles used to describe older single women are just tragic excuses, although you also know that "girlfriend" or "wife" are titles that can make you feel happier. Who made you single? Your boss thinks you have no family burden and repeatedly calls you to urge you to come to the company for meetings within half an hour, and you pretend to be very cooperative.

You may comfort yourself like this: the company's new plan has just started, the first half of the year will be busier, and the second half may slow down a little - forget it, you said this to yourself as early as last year's work planning period. What can arouse your interest is no longer the man, but the male customer.

You have dedicated your youth to the company, leaving home early and returning late, treating your workplace as your home. After three years, you finally become a middle-level cadre such as department manager. Who will be responsible for your singleness? I have been depressed many times, but when I take stock of the men around me, I feel deeply disappointed. I have to give up this fantasy as I am neither high nor low.

3. Holiday Panic Disorder

You're exhausted from work, but oddly enough you still dread the holidays, especially ones like Valentine's Day.

If you are single, either no one will send you roses, or you will receive more than one bouquet of roses. The former is rather desolate, as it means that you have to return to your lonely little home alone, and before that you have to endure the stimulation of couples holding hands intimately with roses in their hands on the streets. Your ex-boyfriend may feel guilty and give you a comforting call, but I'm afraid this will only add to your resentment. Finally, you have no choice but to fall asleep early in loneliness, hugging the stuffed toy beside your pillow, hoping that the next day will be sunny so you can dry your pillow in the sun.

The latter may seem glamorous, but in fact it is excessive and full of dangers. The relationship between you and the men who show their affection to you on this day will not take a qualitative leap just because of the arrival of the festival. The most likely result is that in a western restaurant surrounded by sweet couples, you and this man finish this absent-minded dinner in a seemingly harmonious but spiritually distant relationship, and then return to your lonely nest alone with a rose in your hand.

Gradually, your holiday panic disorder becomes more and more serious, with anxiety, confusion, and doing nothing as common symptoms during every holiday. By the way, your birthday wish has always been to get married, and you have made this wish for many years.

Fourth: Get into some bad habits

At first, you were like every other girl, pure, innocent, graceful like a virgin, and detached from the world. After repeated heartbreaks, you either smoke or sip wine to comfort your lonely heart.

Anyway, no one will take care of you, and there is no need to raise children or take care of your body for the time being, so you just numb every nerve that may cause pain.

Perhaps it cannot be called a hobby. You are not addicted to things like cigarettes and alcohol. At best, you just use cigarettes to wake yourself up and alcohol to relieve your sorrow. In your opinion, even though you know that smoking harms your lungs and drinking harms your stomach, it is better than having no cigarettes or alcohol and being sad, so it is difficult to really quit.

Fifth: Fear of wedding occasions

On the surface, in front of your classmates and friends, you still show some carefreeness as a single person, but deep down you are eager to end your single status as soon as possible - the most obvious thing is that you are very afraid to hear that another classmate is getting married. It would be fine if you just heard that, but if someone formally invited you to a wedding banquet, you would be in trouble.

First of all, you have to face the embarrassment of attending a banquet alone while others are in pairs holding hands and hugging each other's backs; then, you have to cheer up and appreciate the grand occasion of the wedding alone - when you see the sweet and intoxicated expressions of the bride and groom, you feel a little envious, a little happy, and some lonely sadness, and deep in your heart you really have mixed feelings. When you hear the groom talking to the bride about their love, do you remember the vows they made in a certain year and month? When you see the bride and groom holding hands and kissing, do you remember some memorable moments?

Let’s not talk about the most fatal news for single women, which is the marriage of your ex-boyfriend. In short, other people’s weddings are bitter wine for you.

6. Passion for blogging

With the advent of the Internet web2.0 era, single people like you have finally found a good space to release your narcissism, self-admiration and self-harm - blogs. Although you often laugh, fight and quarrel with your bad friends, deep down in your heart, you still lack deep communication with each other.

When you can't find the right person to communicate with your emotions, you have no choice but to write a blog to talk to yourself - it can be a few random sighs or a diary of trivial matters. It seems like an extension of a daydream and a continuation of a youthful dream. Between the lines, there is a strong desire to express oneself. Although it seems that you are talking to yourself, in fact, there are always imaginary readers and readerships.

Women with harmonious and happy relationships rarely write blogs, and if they do, they write about their happy lives with their husbands and children. On the contrary, articles on sentimental topics account for a large proportion of your blog.

By the way, your blog must have a high hit rate: single women are popular on the Internet, and single women’s blogs are particularly popular.