4 ruthless ways to teach you how to deal with men's "virgin complex"

I think what we should care more about is a woman's future, not whether she is a virgin. If she is not a virgin, it is caused by those shameless men. It is already a great trauma and injustice to women. Don't let women bear all the responsibility. Some time ago, a netizen started a thread to discuss the issue of virginity, which received responses from most netizens, who rushed to post comments.

Must a wife be a virgin?

Some netizens in the forum insisted that the wife must be a virgin: "Isn't it said that we should have monogamy now? If the woman is not a virgin, it is unfair to the man who loves her. The man who loves her will also feel bad... Who can tolerate the woman he loves deeply standing naked in front of another man?" Some netizens even made a fierce argument: "If I find out that my wife is not a virgin when we get married, I will kill her..."

"Even if a man treats his wife well, he will still have a shadow in his heart. After all, he will feel bad when he thinks of his wife sleeping with other men in the past. Ladies, you have to understand why men care so much about whether you are a virgin or not." "If you are not a virgin, won't you have a little shadow in your heart? I am a man! Even if I don't say it on the surface, I will always be unhappy in my heart! Do you want the person you truly love to live in the shadow all his life?"

What should female friends do for these men who have a strong virgin complex? How should we deal with men's virgin complex?

It is a tragedy to only ask women to be chaste

The female netizen fought back, saying that if true love is just for the hymen, it would definitely be a man's tragedy. "I really don't know what these men are thinking. Before they get married, they will ask their girlfriends to have sex. But they also require their wives to be virgins. Are you a virgin? If you are not, what rights do you have to demand others? Is a woman's membrane so important to you?"

"It's right to emphasize chastity, but it can't be too extreme. How can a virgin's chastity be violated? Isn't it caused by some men? Why don't you hold men accountable? And why don't you care about men's non-virginity? This is social inequality! Thousands of years of feudal traditional thinking has been bullying women!"

"How many men are willing to listen to a woman telling them that she gave her virginity to another man before they get her? Do you know a white lie? History that no one knows about is innocent. Men have a past, and so do women, so there is no need to care about the past. The present and the future are fine. Mature people don't ask about the past, smart people don't ask about the present, and open-minded people don't ask about the future."

Virginity is not important, as long as the sex life is harmonious

Another male netizen hit the nail on the head: "As a man, it's enough to have seen a virgin. I don't care if my wife is a virgin or not. In bed, there is true love, passion, and silent cooperation, which is something that neither virgins nor prostitutes can do. Giving you a virgin wife with a cold personality is inhumane. Don't forget that most men have premature ejaculation, and most women are also cold dishes. Men and women must also pay attention to matching. If the match is not right, the marriage will be unhappy. Those who are antique are better to find an antique type. Ideology is also very important."

A male netizen commented: "I am a man, and I think what matters more is a woman's future, not whether she is a virgin. If she is not a virgin, it is caused by those shameless men. It is already a great trauma and injustice to women. Don't let women bear all the responsibility. Women who have been traumatized should be the ones who know how to cherish feelings the most."

Hymen repair surgery satisfies men's vanity

In response to the "virgin complex" of many male netizens, female netizens retorted: "Sisters! Those foolish men don't want a woman's sincerity, but a layer of membrane! Then, we will give them a layer of membrane! For 300 yuan (you can bargain) most beauty salons can recreate the hymen! Let's unite and make those selfish and hateful men stupid for life! After giving them the membrane, we can even make them cuckolded! They will even think we are loyal! Hahahahaha..."

"Go ahead and look for the pure virgin in your heart! But be careful, you may find a fake one who has had a hymen repair surgery. This surgery is specifically for you men. This is really the tragedy of you men."

Few men stand on the side of women. "I am also a man of the present age. As a man, who doesn't want his wife to be a virgin? Looking at the real society, how many women are virgins on their wedding night? It's all caused by social customs. So as a man, don't be hypocritical and selfish!"

Keep yourself clean for a happy marriage

The fact that nearly 90% of men in China have a virgin complex cannot be changed in a short period of time. Requiring a wife to be a virgin is a requirement of traditional Chinese culture, and it must be acknowledged that this view is popular and unshakable in China.

The virgin complex cannot be completely judged by right or wrong. You say it is right, but in modern society, with the liberation of women's thoughts, more and more non-virgins have become an unavoidable fact. It is obviously not realistic to use old ideas to restrict them. In addition, many women lose their virginity due to non-subjective reasons such as sports. It is also unfair to judge such women with such a black-and-white standard.

You say it is wrong, but China's traditional moral concepts for thousands of years and its criticism of premarital sex are definitely correct, and this is understandable under the general environment in China. So neither of these two extreme views is entirely correct, which is why the issue of non-virginity is so hotly debated.

Since there is no way to change the virgin complex of Chinese men today, women are required to have self-respect and self-improvement. Otherwise, faced with nearly 90% of men with a virgin complex, women who have sexual experience before marriage can only find marriage partners among the remaining 10% of men. This makes their mate-hunting range very narrow, which is unfair to themselves. It is better for them to keep themselves clean in exchange for a happy marriage life.