How to deal with the mistress when your husband cheats on you? That's what smart women do!

With the continuous improvement of living standards, people's thinking has also changed to a certain extent. There are more and more cases of male friends cheating. Faced with this situation, female friends must remain calm and never make a fuss. The first thing to change is yourself. Only by learning from your strengths and overcoming your weaknesses can you truly defeat the mistress.

1. My husband has an affair. How should I deal with the mistress and win back my husband?

1. How to deal with a mistress

When they find out their husbands are having an affair, some strong women will go confront the mistress face to face or bring a group of relatives and friends to beat and humiliate the mistress. In fact, this behavior is disadvantageous to themselves. This will only make you look tough, while the injured look of the mistress will turn her into the image of a weak person. Men are born with a desire to protect and like to lead women, so direct conflict with the mistress will deepen your husband's sense of denial of you and make him closer to the mistress.

Are you going to be so patient? No, what you should do is treat the mistress as a mirror. You can first secretly investigate how your husband and the mistress got together, and then observe what advantages the mistress has and which advantages of the mistress your husband likes. Treat the mistress as your mirror, compare your strengths and weaknesses with hers, find out your own shortcomings, and learn from her strengths to overcome your weaknesses. This will make it easier for you to defeat the mistress. When your husband sees your changes and discovers that you are less dependent on him than before, he will begin to care about your changes.

2. What should I do to win back my husband?

What men need is to be needed. When you find out your husband is having an affair, there is no need to say harsh words just because your self-esteem is hurt. There is no need to blame him loudly and complain about how you have given so much to the family but have been betrayed. All you need to do is simply express your most straightforward feelings: you know the truth and you feel extremely sad. Because the more you attack him, the stronger his rebound psychology will be. When he can personally understand how his wife has been hurt because of his relationship, he will begin to reflect on himself.

At the same time, you should start to change yourself, learn to enjoy life, shift your focus from previously being placed on your husband, spend more time dressing yourself up, cultivate your own interests and hobbies, make more friends, and let your husband see your beautiful changes. This will create your secondary attraction and make him fall in love with you again.

2. Marriage Defense: How to defeat the mistress and maintain the marriage

1. Adjust your emotions

Many times, when a wife finds out that her husband is having an affair, she becomes easily emotional and complains and blames her husband all day long. Some even cannot contain their anger and spread the husband's scandal, ultimately forcing the husband to divorce. In fact, it is understandable that you are angry at this time, but the problem still needs to be solved. Irrational behavior will only push your husband towards the mistress. You should adjust your emotions. Only by stabilizing your emotions first can you make correct judgments, get along with your husband calmly, and avoid the relationship between husband and wife developing in a vicious direction.

2. Understand your husband’s needs

Connor, a famous relationship expert, once said, "If you want to maintain a long-term relationship, the most important thing is to grasp the needs of the other person." So, think carefully about whether there are any shortcomings in your life.

Your husband's infidelity is largely because you cannot satisfy his inner needs, so he can only find women outside to satisfy himself. For example: Men generally need to be understood, needed, and admired. If you are too strong, men cannot reflect their needs in you, and they will look for a mistress outside. Therefore, understanding your husband's needs clearly and prescribing the right medicine can better solve the problem.

3. Improve self-construction

Many women think that they don’t need to pay attention to their image after marriage. In fact, this idea is wrong. If you ignore your appearance after marriage, you will slowly become a "yellow-faced woman" over time. This is the time when men’s careers develop and there is no shortage of temptations around them. In contrast, men are easily tempted by mistresses. Therefore, if you want to win back your husband, you need to change yourself and improve yourself. You should know that a woman's appearance is a great weapon at all times. If you change your appearance appropriately, your husband will be attracted to you again. At the same time, learn to care and understand your husband more. When he realizes your tenderness, he will be easily moved by you.

3. Smart women should learn how to outsmart the mistress

When you are sure that your husband is cheating on you, are you busy arguing with him or arguing with the mistress? Such behavior will not only fail to make your husband come back to you, but will make him feel like he has a tigress at home who will go out and make a scene, making him lose face. Therefore, you must learn to be a smart woman so that you can better fight against the mistress.