Women are more likely to be in touch than men

The topic was also brought up by a letter from a female friend. This friend wrote in the letter: "My husband has a strange habit. Every time we make love, he turns on the light and asks me to take off all my clothes to show him. He can quickly get excited while touching and watching. I feel very reluctant and embarrassed about this, but I have never refused him. I think this practice is likely to be good for his sexual feelings... What I want to know is, will there be any danger if it continues to develop like this? Can he get rid of this habit?"

Visual stimulation can cause the excitement of the sexual nerve center

After reading this woman's letter, I wanted to write to her immediately and tell her not to destroy her husband's hobby. Just as she guessed, visual stimulation can help arouse men's emotions. There are several pairs of nerves in the human brain that are connected to the eyes, and visual stimulation can cause excitement in the sexual nerve center. This reaction mechanism is originally the same for men and women, but because women have a stronger desire for contact than men, they are more inclined to accept caresses, while men rely more on visual perception.

Since this makes sense, women should not regard this preference of men as a "problem" but as a normal practice and then be prepared to accept it. The problem here lies mainly with women, who are unwilling to let men "enjoy the sight" for various reasons: some people are ashamed and think that doing such things is "shameful", so they hate visual involvement during sex. Under the cover of darkness, they can let their husbands do whatever they want, but will never allow themselves to be exposed in front of their husbands; some women are fat, thin, have a bad body shape, ugly skin, or have wounds, so they don't want their husbands to see their naked bodies, for fear that seeing them will affect his sexual desire and his feelings about themselves. Some women even have abnormal reproductive organs, such as enlarged labia or clitoris. They are highly wary of nudity and strictly follow the principle of "sex behind closed doors" and never cross the line.

I think there must be such a situation, that is, some wives dare not face their husbands naked for fear of exposing some defects, and it is difficult for them to change their behavior because of the persuasion of others.

This is of course a rather special situation. If a man finds that his wife has such concerns, it is best not to ask too many questions, but to try to understand her difficulties. Husbands may wish to put themselves in their shoes. If you had a strange-looking fleshy growth on your sexual organ, and even you would feel uncomfortable looking at it, would you have the courage to let your wife see it? It is human nature to protect privacy, and anyone who encounters this should understand it. As for women, they should seriously reflect on their concerns, because some of them may be necessary, while some may be unnecessary. For example, some women worry about their ugly body shape, but they forget that their husbands are not here to enjoy the beauty but to get physical stimulation. Surveys have shown that it is not the female body shape that stimulates men's sexual feelings, but their sexual organs, female characteristics, and skin color.

What advice should we give in this regard?

If a wife can relieve herself of unnecessary worries and openly show her body to her husband, this will certainly bring joy to her husband. If the wife, after self-reflection, believes that it is necessary to maintain her privacy, her wishes should be respected. But as a wife, you should know that your husband initially wants to peek at your body like a curious child. The more you don't let him do as he wishes, the stronger his curiosity will be, and it will be difficult for you to resist his attack. Therefore, you'd better tell your husband about your difficulties and don't let him doubt you. After gaining the understanding of her husband, the wife can also think of some ways to make up for this shortcoming. For example, a wife can show part of her body and hide the part that she thinks is problematic. Of course, you can also guide your husband to focus his attention on the best part of your body, and turn off the lights in time after his vision is satisfied. The most difficult to deal with are women who have psychological problems in this regard. Their aversion to their husband's gaze is actually a superficial phenomenon. In fact, they have a wrong understanding of sexual life. These wives are willing to accept sexual life due to their physiological feelings, but reject it due to their moral concepts. Every time I have sex, I struggle in this contradictory state, enduring the torture of saying one thing and thinking another. For these people, the first problem is to completely clear the wrong ideas from their minds.

We should also note another situation. Some women refuse to let their husbands see their naked bodies simply because of shame. This situation is especially common among newlyweds. This problem generally does not require special effort. As time goes by and the number of sexual contacts increases, women will gradually get used to it. Men should be careful not to act too hastily or force the other party during this process, so as not to destroy the pleasant experience that their newlywed wives are gradually accumulating.