10 ways men can't stand women's torture

Women tend to ask their husbands whether they love them or not, and even regard hearing their husbands say "I love you" as a natural tonic. Of course, there is nothing wrong with women liking to hear men say "I love you", and men should also say "I love you" to their wives more often from the bottom of their hearts. However, saying such affectionate words requires scenes and atmosphere. It is meaningless if you force your husband to sing like a folk song, especially when he comes home exhausted after a day of work, without having a hot meal or a hot bath. You want your husband to say "I love you" with a bright face. Maybe, your husband will say "I love you" against his will to cope with it, but deep down in his heart, I believe he will complain, and even say "I hate you" or "You really tired me to death!"

2. Spy on your husband’s privacy anytime and anywhere.

Everyone wants to retain their privacy, even couples. Sometimes, a person's privacy may just be a spiritual sustenance. However, some women always feel insecure or seriously lack self-confidence after getting married. They always suspect that their husbands are doing something shameful behind their backs, or even suspect that their husbands are keeping mistresses and third parties outside. So, like spies, they will try every possible means to spy on their husbands' privacy, secretly check their husbands' mobile phones and emails, and often peek into their husbands' QQ chat records. If they find any suspicious clues, they will pursue them relentlessly. Not only do they add a lot of troubles to themselves, but also make their husbands feel that their wives are unreasonable and that the family is increasingly lacking in warmth.

3. Treat your husband as your own private property.

It is natural for a wife to love her husband like "a mouse loves rice", and loving couples will also show more delicacy in their love. However, many women will develop a desire for emotional control after marriage, and simply treat their husbands as their own private property, which makes their husbands unbearable. In fact, a man marrying a woman does not mean that both of them lose their freedom. On the contrary, men have always longed for their family to be a harbor where they can rest and relax during their career struggles, where they can have a soft pillow when they are exhausted, and where a light can be left on for them when they come home late. It is a man's nature to venture into the world and create better and happier living conditions for his family while conquering the world. After marriage, many women like to give orders to men or even interfere with them, making it difficult for men to move forward.

4. Always believe that men become bad when they have money.

Women have a natural interest in money. They regard money as the main lubricant to dominate marriage and family, and also as the main tool for men to learn bad things. Therefore, most mothers-in-law will teach their daughters how to control the family's finances. What women fear most is that men will spend their money on wine and women outside, so they regard controlling a man’s money as the best way to control his unfaithfulness. In fact, this is just a simple fantasy of women. If a man wants to be unfaithful, it cannot be easily suppressed just because his wife does not give him money. The reason is simple. It is very easy for a man to hide his private money. If a woman does not know how to control it, and just simply and roughly makes her husband's pocket cleaner than his face, it will only increase the man's disgust and make him rebellious.

5. Use your husband as a channel to vent your anger.

Some women behave gently and kindly when they are in love, and they can be smiling and obedient to their boyfriends. However, after being married for a long time, the two people get tired of being together, and they no longer need to hide their attitude towards their husbands. When they encounter something that makes them unhappy, or when they are wronged by the unit, they will take their husbands as a punching bag and a channel to vent their anger. You know, the pressure men face at work is definitely no less than that of women. Most men will not take out their dissatisfaction at work at home. This kind of unscrupulousness of women often makes their husbands disgusted, and it is also the main cause of quarrels between couples. There are also many cheating men who just don’t like being scolded like a son by their wives at home all day long. They always want to find a gentle, considerate and obedient woman deep in their hearts, and find the feeling of being a real man.

6. Think that building a family is only the responsibility of men.

Due to the living environment, more and more women in modern society are becoming more and more realistic in choosing marriages. They hope that they can find a "rich second generation" or "official second generation" who can allow them to marry into a wealthy family and become a young lady who has everything provided for them, has no worries about food and clothing, and lives comfortably. In fact, not every woman will be so lucky to meet such a man at her most beautiful and attractive age. For most women who are highly dependent and financially unable to support themselves, as their youth and beauty slowly fade away, if they do not have other charms to attract their husbands, men are likely to become more and more aesthetically tired of you. However, if the wife can share the responsibility of building their own small home with her husband, such a woman will definitely be her husband's lifelong love.

7. Love your husband but don’t like his family.

A woman marries a man because of love, but after marriage, it is rare for a woman to love her husband as well as his family. Although a woman enters the wedding hall with the blessings of both parents and becomes husband and wife under the witness of both relatives, it is very difficult for her to love her husband while also loving his parents and siblings, and to love his relatives and friends without interfering with his personal hobbies. However, it is impossible for a man to forget the woman who gave birth to him and raised him just because he got married and had a family. In the hearts of most men, his mother is the only woman who deserves his deep love in his life. Many women think that once they marry a man, this man should belong to them completely. In fact, that is a big mistake. Competing for favor with your sister-in-law or having a fight with your mother-in-law will often make a man feel at a loss.

8. Lack of health knowledge and neglect of healthy diet.

If you want to keep a man's heart, you must first keep his stomach. Men not only like beautiful women, but also like delicious food. However, not all foods can be eaten casually. For the sake of health, there are also some rules to eating. However, nowadays more and more young couples are not willing to cook at home. They either order takeout or eat out. Not to mention the use of gutter oil, let alone the hygiene of the food. If there is no cooking at home, won’t the husband lose a sense of belonging? Will he lose his spiritual haven? If a man has to think about how to deal with three meals a day, such a marriage will sooner or later have problems. The most common thing is that if a man meets a woman who can give him the feeling of home, it is easy for him to cheat, and if things go wrong, the man may even file for divorce.

9. You want to respect yourself but don’t know how to respect your husband.

Another mistake women make after marriage is that they like to do whatever they want at home, while men tend to prefer to keep things quiet and are not willing to argue with their wives. Another characteristic of such a wife is that she demands that her husband must obey her in everything, otherwise she will be regarded as disrespecting her and will make trouble. In the mind of such a woman, a man must never be nice to her, so she does not have the basic concept of mutual respect and respect for her husband. When a man meets a woman like this, he can only sigh that he is unlucky for having met a strong wife. However, many wives who can call the shots at home do not actually know that where there is oppression there is resistance, and this resistance is mostly manifested in extramarital affairs or having extramarital sexual partners. Believe it or not!

10. Treat your husband like your son and discipline him strictly.

In the world of love, men and women are relatively equal and relatively free. However, some women are born control freaks and will interfere with their husbands in many ways. Sometimes they even control their husbands as if they were their sons, and apply the same expectations they have for their sons to their husbands, making them unbearable. You have to know that what men need is care, respect, and the motivation to work hard. After marriage, some women regard keeping an eye on their husbands as their primary task, and hope for their husbands’ success in their careers as their only expectation. However, they forget that men who are too closely watched and controlled by their wives rarely become successful in their careers. However, they don’t know that there has been a saying since ancient times that “loyalty and filial piety cannot be achieved at the same time”. If they want their husbands to spend more time with them, their careers will definitely be affected.

Men like to live a free and easy life without any constraints. They like the unrestrained comfort of being able to throw smelly socks and dirty clothes around as they please. However, many men will become their wives' first education objects after marriage and have to often accept their wives' compulsory house rules education. For this reason, many men will lament that they have been in love for too short a time and regret why they got married so early. They will feel helpless that they have to accept the pain of the happiness of being "ruled" before they can fully enjoy the sweetness of love.