Six details prove that men are 100% cheating

If the man you love is having a hot affair with another girl behind your back and has not broken up with you, then he will have no choice but to cover it up again and again and lie again and again. But no matter how perfectly he does it, there will always be clues. You don't have to be vigilant. With a little wisdom, you can find out whether he is really cheating on you.

Derailment phenomenon 1: Sudden increase in expenses

After cheating, in order to please the woman, having a candlelight dinner, sending roses and drinking coffee are necessary, which can reflect a man's gentlemanly demeanor and romance.

What is romance? It is to slowly waste the numbers on your credit card with a girl, and make them go from more to less.

This is a compulsory course for men in the love field. It's a piece of cake. If you can't even afford this little expense, how can a girl be willing to be romantic with you? Why would she play a love game with you, a married man, which has no ending and no status? If you meet a girl who has high material requirements, a house and a sports car are both indispensable.

In order to keep this romantic relationship, the man had to work hard to save some money. Even if he were to give all the money he generously gave to his wife in the past to her now, how reluctant he was in his heart? Only he himself knew. If a man does not have extra income, he will usually find various excuses not to give his entire salary to his wife; if he has extra income, a man will not be as stupid as before - giving it all to his wife without keeping a penny. Some men even go so far as to quit smoking and drinking.

Derailment Phenomenon 2: Frequent overtime work

A man who has an affair has to take time out of work to be with his lover, experiencing the ecstasy and beauty of love. Naturally, he cannot go home on time to be with his wife. Of course the wife will call and send text messages, asking her husband why he is not home so late and who he is with.

Men usually answer shamelessly: Working overtime.

At first, my wife reminded me with concern: Remember to eat dinner when you are working. However, as I work overtime more and more, my wife will become suspicious. The man will immediately look aggrieved: I work so hard and work overtime, isn't it for you and the children to live a better life? Otherwise, I will stay at home with you every day, and you will earn money to support me!

Most wives will feel guilty when they hear men say this, thinking that they have misunderstood their husbands.

Seeing that his wife had given up her suspicion of him, the man went home to spend time with his wife a few times, making her very happy, and then continued to "work overtime" outside.

Cheating phenomenon 3: Too many social engagements

Nowadays, men with a little bit of ability like to socialize outside. Socializing is both respectable and glorious for men, as if not having socializing is not enough to prove a man's ability or his career success.

Women, too, mostly like men who are good at socializing.

Such a man can usually earn money and provide sufficient material security for her and her children's lives.

Therefore, smart men will develop extramarital affairs openly under the guise of socializing. When his wife began to feel disgusted with his constant socializing outside every night, the man's reasons for defense were more convincing than anyone else: Do you think I want to be like this? Then he used the example of his elder brother-in-law, his wife's biological brother, who came home after get off work every day, had less than 1,000 yuan a month, always went to cheap stalls to buy daily necessities, lived frugally when eating, but still couldn't save enough for his children to go to college. His wife called him a loser every day. Do you want me to be that kind of man? If you do, I will stay at home honestly after get off work starting tomorrow and cook for you, wash dishes and do laundry.

When the wife heard this, she was immediately disappointed. Before hanging up the phone, she gently reminded the man: Eat more vegetables and drink less alcohol.

The man hung up the phone, he was so happy, he won his wife's heart with a little wisdom.

Cheating phenomenon 4: Absent-mindedness

When he returns home, he is restless no matter what he does, and is especially sensitive to the ringing of the phone. He refuses to answer the phone in front of his wife. If his wife asks him what's the matter, he will deny it in a arrogant manner - What can happen to me? Are you doubting me? If this happens, I can tell you with certainty that he is outside and has "something going on".

As the old saying goes, the world is wide for a selfless heart. A man who has no secrets outside will face all phone calls calmly at home, will not be absent-minded, and will not be rude to his wife's inquiries.

Cheating phenomenon 5: Being lazy about sex

Men also have a refractory period physiologically, which is normal, but it only lasts a few days. Excluding these few days, if he is a normal man, if he is always absent-minded in bed and indifferent to all your hints, for example, before every sex, you had "foreplay", but suddenly cancelled it, and he has no reaction at all to your charming body language and affectionate and charming eyes. Even when having sex, it was just a routine, done in a perfunctory manner, completely to get by, with no passion at all. At this time, you should be on high alert, because a man's infidelity often starts with his boredom with his wife's body.

The seven-year itch in marriage is mostly a sexual itch. When sex becomes boring, it is also the beginning of marriage fatigue. At this time, the man will deliberately or unintentionally look for a woman outside who can bring him passion.

Cheating phenomenon 6: Friends come forward to prove his innocence

When a man comes home late or is often not home for a long time and his wife suspects him, his friends will often come forward to clarify the facts for him: He was with us that day, sister-in-law, you can rest assured, my brother is not that kind of person, I can testify. And we solemnly guarantee that even if the eldest brother wants to cheat, we brothers will not let him off. If he is not satisfied with marrying such a virtuous sister-in-law like you and dares to have evil thoughts about other women, we will show you how we will deal with him.

The fact is, all of his buddies are the same bad friends as him. As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together, and this is absolutely true. When a man is unfaithful outside, and is afraid of a fire in the backyard, the most common trick he uses is to use these bad friends as a shield to make his wife believe that although he comes home late every night, he is absolutely chaste for his wife!

Although the above situations cannot prove 100% that your husband is having an affair, if he has all the above 6 phenomena, it means that your marriage is in a sub-healthy state. As a wife, you must pay special attention to how to eliminate the sub-healthy state in your marriage, how to regain your husband's gradually indifferent emotions and heart, and how to let the marriage enter a second honeymoon period are things you must do.

Never think that a man’s cheating has nothing to do with you.

There are three situations in which men cheat: the first is mental cheating. The second is physical infidelity. The last type is a double infidelity, both mental and physical. If it is the first or second case, it can be forgiven. This man is also within the range of salvation, and after a period of cold war, the marriage will return to its original loving state. The last type can no longer be considered cheating, but rather a complete betrayal. Once a man cheats to the last level, even ten cows can’t pull him back. Sooner or later, this family will break up.