7 embarrassing situations for men after divorce and marrying a mistress

Cheating has become a phenomenon nowadays. Many people even divorce in order to marry their mistresses. Men can't wait to marry their female secretaries and regard finding such a young and beautiful wife as an achievement. But less than a year into the marriage, the man began to feel unhappy. It's a bit like "a dumb person dreams about his mother, unable to express his pain"... Let's take a look at the 7 embarrassments that a man will encounter when he gets divorced and marries a mistress.

1. Aren’t our children your own?

Not long after Vice President Yang married his mistress, they had a child. But after all, the child born to his ex-wife was also his own flesh and blood, so he had to call her every now and then to say hello, visit her on holidays, and sometimes take her to the park to play. At first, my current wife didn’t pay much attention to it.

After a while, the woman began to make demands, saying: Although your son was born to your ex-wife, he was born to your ex-wife after all, and you are divorced, so is it necessary to make such a fuss? Besides, isn't our own child your own?

Why can't I spend more time with him when I have time? So, when I call again to care about my son born to my ex-wife, I have to see the mood of my current wife. Otherwise, he will never sleep with you at night, which is like leaving you alone forever. How can a man who has just married a beautiful woman bear such indifference?

2. I have to filter your life and your mind.

Husband and wife are bound by love for a hundred days after they meet, let alone childhood sweethearts. Even if a couple is not together, there is still love between them. Although they are divorced now, the shadow of my ex-wife is often still in my life. For example, in my photo album, I still keep photos of my ex-wife and her relatives. In certain emotional moments, I can't help but have some deep nostalgia for my previous life.

All of these are normal. However, although the current wife has easily occupied the high ground of marriage, it was her territory before. When she saw the man’s expression, she knew that the man’s inner revolution was not thorough and she was afraid of his restoration. Therefore, the current wife had to clean up and filter the man’s life and get rid of everything that should not be there. Are you at a disadvantage by finding a young and beautiful wife like me? Am I not as good as your ex?

Therefore, you should never look back after taking a step forward. If you don't want to, I will never agree. I will be angry for a week until you give in.

3. All gaps and loopholes must be blocked.

After all, she took advantage of men's weaknesses and the problems in middle-aged men's marriages, and succeeded in her advancement from a "mistress". But once she successfully becomes his regular wife, it means that she will face the same situation and the same danger that the man’s ex-wife faced before. If a woman understands how she succeeded, she should prevent what happened to her men from being easily replicated by other women.

Therefore, any gaps and loopholes in a man’s life and work must be plugged up. For example, if a man says he has a social engagement outside, the woman must accompany him in person every time. Men are no longer allowed to look for women to be their secretaries. They should look for reliable men instead. Men should also check their phones from time to time to see if there are any suspicious calls or text messages.

On that occasion, the man was in a meeting at work and said he would be back late, so the woman went to the company in person and sat outside the meeting room to listen in, confirming that he was indeed discussing serious business before returning home. Men no longer have any freedom, and even joking around with other beautiful women has to be supervised by their wives. Although the woman succeeded in being a mistress, she herself had a history of being unfaithful to the man, so it was not unreasonable for her to keep strict control over the man. However, for a man, the days of being strictly controlled like this were somewhat dark and gloomy.

4. To prevent you from changing your mind, the house and savings must be used in my account.

The man said, since we are married, we are a family, the house and savings are owned by both of us, and it doesn’t matter whose name is used. But the woman didn't buy it, saying who can you men say for sure! Aren't your ex-wife and you childhood sweethearts? If you are different, just kick her out if you want. You say you love me, so you have to do what I say. I will be in charge of your finances, and the house and savings must be in my name.

Otherwise, you have to give me a change of heart insurance premium first. In case you change your mind, the money will belong to me as a prior agreement. At this time, the man is in a dilemma, because even if he can guarantee that he will not change his mind, how can he guarantee that the woman will be loyal to him for the rest of her life? But the woman is young and beautiful, and without the balance of house and money, the marriage may immediately become unstable. If a man attacks a woman when he shouldn't, he will have to compromise when he shouldn't.

5. I’d better avoid it when your family comes.

Because of the title of "mistress", even if she becomes the regular wife, the history of being a mistress cannot be erased. Especially when the husband's family is very dissatisfied with their son's abandonment of his wife and children in middle age, and they can do nothing about it, it is natural for them to express some dissatisfaction with his current wife. As a result, the woman began to look down on her husband's family, but it was not convenient for her to scold her mother-in-law in public, so she came up with a method of turning a blind eye: when your relatives come, I will avoid them.

This avoidance is not a big deal, but it will cause the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to lose the opportunity for communication and ease. The man wanted to do something, but the woman said: I married you, not your family, and I don’t want to cause trouble. For a man who marries such a mistress, it becomes almost an "impossible task" for the whole family to go home together for the New Year.

6. I have my own circle of friends, so you’d better stay out of it.

If a man and a woman want to communicate with each other by going to bed, it is easy to eliminate the interference of other factors. But after the deal was done, when it came to getting along harmoniously in all aspects, we found that it was far from as simple as going to bed. A certain incompatibility caused by the age gap and different social circles became apparent. Since the two of us can't play together, often can't talk about the same thing, and are afraid that the other party will destroy our social atmosphere, then you play yours and I play mine, we will act according to the contract and never overstep our boundaries.

They go to bed because of physiological needs and separate because they enjoy life. Such couples are very realistic, but they each get what they need. When a man only sees the advantages of a mistress over his wife, he never thinks about the irreconcilable differences between himself and the mistress.

But what can we do? When a woman starts to want more autonomy in marriage, does it mean that she has lost interest in him?

7. Why do you always say you want a divorce when you are angry?

Perhaps, when a "mistress" looks at married men outside of marriage, she can apply economic laws more clearly and flexibly. However, once she actually enters into the marriage of her dreams and replaces someone else's wife, a woman's understanding of marriage begins to use extramarital references. Therefore, the defects of marriage can easily give way to temptations from outside of marriage. Otherwise, when a woman is angry with a man or is dissatisfied with him, she will always threaten him with divorce. Although middle-aged men have an economic foundation, you are not the only one. Besides, even though you say you are rich, there may be many people who are richer than you. When she is a mistress, she only has eyes for you, but after getting married, her eyes may be focused on people outside the marriage. It's not that I don't value this marriage, but I may think that I once liked you because my standards were not high enough. Now that I can see further, I will not be bound by the marriage in front of me. You can only compromise with me, not me with you. For a couple who talk about divorce every day, their marriage is like a dilapidated house, which makes people feel uncomfortable living in it.