Women, do you know why men are cuckold-phobic?

An interesting phenomenon is that men don’t feel anything when they are on business trips or staying away from home for some reason. Once a woman goes out, she often has "ulterior motives". Although she does not call one after another like women do to men, she is still restless. People who like to joke would say: The love between the couple is so obvious that the wife is reluctant to leave for a night.

Men are afraid of green hats

In fact, from a psychological point of view, this is the "sense of insecurity" hidden in the heart of a man. We can call it "cuckold phobia" in a popular way. This kind of "insecurity" is the fear that something will happen to his wife behind his back.

Studies have shown that women trust their husbands much more than men trust their wives. This is consistent with real life - men can stay out all night drinking and playing mahjong with a clear conscience, and can send women off with just a few words of coaxing, but this is often not the case with women.

I once saw a case where a couple announced the dissolution of their marriage after three years of marriage.

The reason for the divorce is that the husband extremely distrusts his wife. As long as his wife goes out, the husband will check her underwear. If he finds a lot of secretions, he will get to the bottom of it and pursue her relentlessly. After living in an atmosphere of suspicion and tension for a long time, the strings of marriage finally broke before the nerves of the person themselves.

Sexual behavior is exclusive

Sexual intercourse will inevitably leave a large amount of secretions on the underwear. The husband's "chastity test method" can be described as straightforward, but he forgot that the increase in female lower body secretions is due to many aspects, in addition to sexual activities (including sexual imagination), there are also gynecological diseases, strenuous physical exercise, etc. "Secretion" became a "stand-in" for his distrustful mentality, forming a psychological circle of "secretion" = "cheating".

Another typical behavior of "suspicious wife" is to show strong aversion to the men around his wife, including colleagues, classmates, friends and even relatives. As long as they are male and they get along frequently, especially those mentioned by his wife frequently, he will be put on the "blacklist". Carrying this "blacklist", he will develop "cuckold phobia". He will spend a lot of time studying and arranging the frequency, venues and time of his wife's contact with these "suspicious objects". He will be in a state of high alert and vigilance for a long time, always feeling that "something is going on", but can never find any evidence.

Extension of the virgin complex

There are many reasons for this lack of trust, but they can be summarized into a few types:

One is the "virgin complex", when the wife is "suspected to be non-virgin" or it is very clear that he is not her first lover

The second group is remarried couples, both of whom have a history of marriage and have different degrees of "re-love experience"

The third is inferiority complex. This situation is usually caused by the woman's extroverted personality, who is much more successful in her career than the man.

Fourth, they hear things from others and are troubled by special examples around them. When they hear that a certain woman has had such an experience, they also become wary of their own people.

As the saying goes, "heart disease needs heart medicine", "the bell can only be untied by the person who tied it", trust comes from the purity of the feelings of both parties, and also depends on the "calmness" of one's heart. There is an "illusion-like" inference that can be used as a reference - if you say it exists, it exists, and if you say it doesn't exist, it doesn't exist, so why not infer that it doesn't exist?

Zoo trainers can reach a tacit understanding with wild animals, so why can't they have more trust with their legal spouses?

Yes, the relationship between husband and wife is maintained by two people, and trust is the foundation of the relationship between two people. The more trust there is between each other, the more lasting the love will be.