How to resolve the 8 dangers in married life

Husband and wife quarrel at the head of the bed and make up at the foot of the bed. No matter how angry you are, you can turn it into dust after a few moments of lovemaking in bed. The quality of a couple's relationship is often reflected in the bedroom. If you find that you are perfunctory about sex, you should be alert! There are definitely problems in your marriage. Discover and resolve them as early as possible. Don't wait until divorce to regret it.

Danger 1

After we were intimate, he suddenly said, "Your belly is getting bigger and bigger. You should lose some weight." Then he started to criticize your underwear for being outdated or dull in color, and also complained about your figure and appearance.

Risk elimination strategy: This shows that there are some "stirrings" deep down in his heart. You have to enter his social circle and see clearly the "butterflies" around him. Only by knowing yourself and your enemy can you win every battle.

Danger 2

He said he had a cold and was afraid of infecting you, so he wanted to sleep in the study. In the past, he had not been so "considerate" when he had the flu. Later, when he recovers from his illness, he suddenly complains that the bed is too small or that it is too crowded for two people to sleep in one quilt... In short, he just doesn't want to sleep with you.

Risk elimination strategy: Maybe he just had a new idea after reading an article in a magazine advocating a new type of relationship between couples. But you can say "I'm used to sleeping with you", but don't make the mistake of taking the first step of agreeing to let him sleep alone.

Danger 3

He used to like wearing loose underwear, but now he suddenly secretly buys comfortable Lycra cotton tight briefs.

Risk elimination strategy: When a man suddenly becomes particular, especially about the quality of underwear, the wife should be more cautious. You should reflect on whether you have neglected him recently because of work or other reasons. Don't make a big fuss about it, as this will only escalate the conflict.

Danger 4

As soon as he gets into bed, he looks exhausted. Whether talking to you or making love with you, he is just perfunctory and he is too lazy to even give you a hug.

Risk elimination strategy: He may be too tired recently, under great physical and mental pressure, and a little tired of sex. What you need to do at this time is to tell him: "I know you are too tired and have given too much for this family." "Close your eyes, I will do eye exercises for you." No matter what is in his heart, caring is a shortcut to making the relationship between husband and wife closer.

Danger 5

He smokes after sex or gets out of bed immediately without even looking at you and goes straight to the bathroom to take a shower.

Risk elimination strategy: When a man does this, he doesn’t think there is anything wrong with it, but a woman will feel that he is particularly disrespectful to her, as if she is a condiment for him, gentle and considerate when needed, and turning away when not needed. In this regard, you can do this - pour him a cup of coffee or juice to reward him for his hard work.

Danger 6

He suddenly asks you to change to a new posture to welcome him, but you feel embarrassed to do so.

Risk avoidance strategy: Men like to try new things. He may have gotten some inspiration from somewhere and hopes to enjoy it with you. So, if your husband wants to explore a new way with you, you can ask him to discuss it with you first and make the specific method clear in advance so that you can be mentally prepared enough.

Danger 7

When you wake up in the morning, you want to give him a kiss, but he turns away.

Risk elimination strategy: Put yourself in his shoes. If he wakes up in the morning with eye mucus in the corners and a foul smell coming out of his mouth, and he tries to please you with this indecent image, will you turn around and avoid him? No matter whether you are a man or a woman, you all desire a fresh and sweet sex life every day. Perhaps paying attention to your image is the first step to maintaining passionate sex.

Danger 8

When you want to have fun with him, he acts like a wooden man, unromantic, causing you to waste your enthusiasm.

Risk avoidance strategy: When you want to make love with him, body language is the best way to express it. There is a tacit understanding between husband and wife. One of your actions or one look is enough to convey your expectations of him.