Ancient widows actually relied on it for their sex life

There is always a lot of gossip about a widow, and in ancient times many people would talk about "widows". In fact, the lives of widows in ancient times were also rich and colorful. Although they would pay attention to their own moral integrity, they would not give up the pursuit of emotional life. Today, I will reveal the secrets of romantic women in history. Let’s take a look!

The life of a widow in ancient times

There is no need to discuss whether the emergence of the concept of female chastity is a social progress. However, from the perspective of human nature, the concept of chastity is indeed one of the main culprits for the tragic fate of widows in ancient times.

Due to the emergence of the concept of chastity, widows in ancient times could only stay alone in their empty rooms, suffering from unbearable loneliness and emotional hunger. The painful and lonely life tormented them all the time, leading to the formation of a special group of people with abnormal personalities in Chinese history.

So how did the widows in ancient times live alone and relieve their loneliness?

The first move: Desire transfer

That is, transform the desire for bed into the desire for entrepreneurship, thereby gaining personal satisfaction. According to historical records, there was a famous widow named Qing in the pre-Qin period. Her husband died young, so she took charge of the family business alone.

Ordinarily, in that era, it was socially acceptable for a widow to remarry, but Widow Qing did not remarry. Instead, she tried her best to suppress herself and successfully transferred her desires. She worked hard to run her husband's family's mining business, amassed countless wealth, became the richest person in the area, and even had "a thousand servants." Even the first emperor of China, Qin Shi Huang, valued her very much. He erected a monument and wrote a biography for her, honoring her as a "chaste woman."

Coincidentally, during the Qianlong period of the Qing Dynasty, there was also a widow who used the method of desire transfer to make it onto the rich list.

According to the "Gaomi County Annals", during the reign of Emperor Qianlong, a widow named Fu Shan from Gaomi County remained chaste for 31 years and "managed the household successfully", resulting in her "family fortune being five times the original amount", making her a well-known wealthy and powerful woman.

Second move: Fight poison with poison

That is, to obtain pain through self-mutilation to fill the emptiness of desire and achieve a form of catharsis.

In the unofficial histories of the Ming and Qing dynasties, one can often read texts about widows who cut off their hair or fingers to show their determination to remain chaste, and were praised by the world. For example, the "Guangzhou Prefecture Records" once recorded an incident that occurred during the Jiajing period of the Ming Dynasty. The widow Li Yu had been "staying at home" for many years (note that it was many years), and her family members often suspected that she had an affair with a man from a neighboring village.

At a family meeting, Li Yu finally got angry. She stretched out her hands to show everyone, and everyone was stunned to find that all ten of her fingers were broken.

In fact, these written records were obviously written for the purpose of promoting the concept of chastity and did not understand the suffering of widows from a human perspective. It took Li Yu a long time to cut off all ten of her fingers, and using pain to vent her desires was not her invention.

As early as the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a widow named Qiu Yu in the State of Wei who cut her thigh with a knife and "ate it raw" to vent the loneliness from the depths of her soul.

Tip 3: Use tools

That is, using equipment to achieve satisfaction. Judging from the female masturbation devices unearthed so far, women have a very long history of masturbation, and most of them were the exclusive domain of widows; married women probably did not need it. There are many types of instruments used by widows for masturbation, and the materials used are also eye-opening. There are bronze, white jade, and even stone ones. It is really varied. In this regard, the widows gave full play to their intelligence and talents, doing things on their own and inventing things.

Of course, making homemade tools is not a simple process, but widows will always find a way. For example, some of the most primitive masturbation tools are easily made by widows. Their shapes are very simple, just like a long cylindrical stone picked up at random.

Since masturbation with instruments can be performed secretly and will not lead to criticism of infidelity, it has become the first choice for many widows to vent their sexual desires.

The fourth move: risking one’s life to remarry

Find a legal husband. The reason why the word "risking one's life" is used is because in ancient times, remarriage for widows was considered non-mainstream, especially after the Song Dynasty. In the Ming and Qing Dynasties, remarriage for widows required risking their lives. If the remarriage was unsuccessful, they would face the fate of being drowned in a pig cage or beaten to death.

For example, during the Jingtai period of the Ming Dynasty, there was a widow in Hebei who was "restless at home" and tried to remarry. Her family was ashamed of this, and the clan leader led his people to "beat her to death", which was extremely cruel.

There are also examples of widows successfully remarrying. For example, during the Qianlong period of the Qing Dynasty, a widow named Yang Chen from Shanxi bribed the clan leader's wife with money. Under the influence of her persuasion, the clan leader finally became kind-hearted and agreed to let Yang Chen remarry a widower named Li from the same village.

It was not difficult for a widow to remarry in the open-minded Tang Dynasty, but it was indeed harder than climbing to the sky during the Ming and Qing Dynasties when Neo-Confucianism was prevalent.

As the saying goes, nothing is difficult if you set your mind to it. There are still some smart widows. They work hard to find men they can entrust their lives to, move around in the family, win sympathy and support, and finally achieve the goal of legally remarrying.

Romantic women in history

Xia Dynasty: Meixi

Legend has it that she was the concubine of the last emperor of the Xia Dynasty. After marrying Jie, she indulged in sensual pleasures. Wine and women, and naked fun. Jie also built a "tilt platform" for the two of them to play with. It is said that Mei Xi loved to hear the sound of "ripping silk", so Jie immediately ordered all places to pay tribute of 100 pieces of silk every day, and have people take turns to tear them for Mei Xi to hear. Such a waste of people's money is simply unforgivable in the Xia Dynasty, when the national population was not as large as that of Haidian District in Beijing. It is said that many ordinary people at that time were forced to lose their families and were left with nowhere to go. They pointed at the sun and cursed, "When will the sun die? We will perish together!" Because Jie favored Mei Xi and ignored state affairs, his Xia Dynasty was soon destroyed by the Shang, a small tribe "with a radius of a hundred miles."

Shang Dynasty: Daji

The famous concubine of King Zhou of Shang. Although everyone knows this person, most of the legends about him are not credible, especially the "Fengshen Yanyi", which even turned him into a "nine-tailed fox", making it sound supernatural. It is estimated that Daji was similar to Mei Xi, both of them were super beauties. After entering the palace, they indulged in sensual pleasures, causing the kings to ignore state affairs and suffer from severe kidney deficiency. At the same time, various contradictions in the country happened to be very acute at the time, which eventually led to the demise of the country. It is said that King Zhou was originally very capable. It is said that he had great strength and was very enterprising when he first became king. He conquered many countries and was very good at fighting. Unfortunately, once you go astray, you will lose your reputation and your country and family will be destroyed.

Zhou Dynasty: Bao Si

That is the beautiful woman who never smiles in the story of “Playing with Princes by Lighting Beacons”. "Records of the Warring States Period" makes her life story sound very magical, but in fact she was probably just a beautiful girl from the "Bao" tribe who was presented to King You of Zhou for political reasons. Personally, I think Bao Si should be better than Mei Xi and Daji. History does not emphasize her "indulgence in sensual pleasures". The so-called "playing tricks on the princes by lighting beacons" was entirely because King You of Zhou, this old lecher, was so mean that he had to make others laugh when he saw that they were not laughing, and finally he did not hesitate to use the state machinery to play a huge joke to make others laugh. Although the evidence is insufficient, I still think that this was definitely not a "conspiracy" by Bao Si to destroy the Zhou Dynasty. She probably didn't smile because of her naturally amiable personality and the dangerous situation she was in. The demise of the Zhou Dynasty was due to the turmoil caused by King Li of Zhou not long before, when the country had not yet recovered, and the rebellion of traitors around King You. Whose fault is it? It’s the fault of this stinky man. So, the lesson we learned is: Don’t always be mean to girls, otherwise you will die a miserable death.

Spring and Autumn Period: Xi Shi

From a certain perspective, Xi Shi is a "hero" and belongs to the "underground party". But from another perspective, that is, from the perspective of the State of Wu, Xi Shi was a deliberate "beauty who brought disaster". Fuchai's demise was somewhat related to her. Of course, Fuchai made even more unforgivable mistakes in strategic decision-making and war command, but Xi Shi's pillow talk played a huge role in Fuchai's failure to finally destroy the Kingdom of Yue. Also, the Wu people at that time were closer to the "Huaxia" people in terms of ethnicity. The Yue State belonged to the Malay Yue ethnic group - the "History of Vietnam" published by the Commercial Press (written by the Vietnamese themselves) regarded Gou Jian as the ancestor of their country. Therefore, this Xi Shi is also suspected of "interfering in China's internal affairs"...

Western Han Dynasty: Lü Zhi

She is Liu Bang’s wife, Empress Lü. In fact, Empress Lü did not directly or indirectly cause the demise of the country like the previous four queens, but when she was alive, she suppressed the Liu family and supported the Lü family, which set a very bad precedent. The ancients attached great importance to "family rule" and were very disgusted with the "usurpation of the throne" by the daughter-in-law's family, so Empress Lü is of course a very representative "beauty who brings disaster". In addition, Empress Lu's methods were too vicious, as can be seen from the way she treated Liu Bang's concubine, Concubine Qi. It is said that as soon as Liu Bang died, Empress Lü chopped off Concubine Qi's hands and feet, gouged out her eyes, pierced her ears, cut off her tongue, and threw her into the toilet to become a "human pig". It's so cruel and hard to accept.

Three Kingdoms: Diao Chan

The nature is similar to Xi Shi. Although Dong Zhuo was eliminated with her help, she was of course also a troublemaker who deliberately destroyed other people's family harmony and political stability. Of course, if the history of Fengyi Pavilion in "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" really existed, Diao Chan was mainly used by others: the disaster was still caused by men.

Conclusion: Through the above article, do you know what special emotional history the romantic women have? In fact, from ancient times to the present, people have regarded emotions as an indispensable part of life. This is a kind of human nature, and it is also a desire for love. If you know how to restrain your desires, you will gain more happiness!