Why do women like bad men so much?

Women, in fact most women, like bad men, the kind that are a little bit bad, of course not the kind of criminals who kill and burn people. Women are willing to fall into the trap of men who are a little fickle and know how to speak sweet words, even though they know that he approaches her to deceive her, and wait until they are abandoned, and then complain that there are no good men in the world.

At this time, the editor would like to say that it is not that there are no good men in the world, but that there are many good men. It’s just that you don’t like good men and you look down on them. The editor also knows your psychology. As a good man, he is dull, does not understand your thoughts, does not understand romance, does not use sweet words to deceive you, and is too honest, so you cannot arouse sexual interest, and he cannot get you.

Let's look at a case:

Vella, who was in good conditions, wrote in letters: "I always fall in love with bad men", "I don't know why I am so obsessed with them", "I don't know why, I am usually very calm, but every time I get poisoned by love", "Please save me, I can't get rid of this entanglement with him", "Every time I want to break up, I think of his good points, and I go back because of soft heart."

There are many girls like Vella who always fall in love with bad boys and repeat the pattern of falling in love with bad boys over and over again. Why is this? Their problems lie in two aspects: 1. They don’t understand what they need; 2. They don’t understand what they are struggling with. So, they keep falling in love with bad men.

Why don't they understand what they need in a relationship? Answer: The reason why they don't seem to understand what they need is usually because what they need is difficult to express.

For example: some girls like to be treated roughly by men, such as kissing her by force, being domineering and savage to her, and restricting her from having any contact with other men; for example, some girls like the ups and downs of a man's romantic attitude, but there are ups and downs, and behind the touch there must be pain. She doesn't like a man to be gentle and careful to her every day. She likes a man to slap her in the face and then kneel down to beg her. This way gives her great psychological stimulation and pleasure. For example, they also want a perfect man, so the scammers have an opportunity to take advantage of them. How do scammers usually act? They will use sweet words and do everything they can to win her over with romance, treat her well, flatter her, and give her the illusion of love. Once they succeed, they will reveal their true colors. But by this time they were already addicted and couldn't get rid of it.

When they find out they've been cheated, they start to worry about their sunk costs. It’s not that they can’t let go of the man, but that they can’t let go of their own efforts. They are unwilling to admit that they have lost sight and fallen in love with the wrong person, so they continue to invest more, hoping that a miracle will happen one day.

On the other hand, deep down in their hearts, they always think that they are right and always try to find a reasonable explanation for their behavior. So she tries her best to beautify the man who is not worth her efforts, and beautify her unwillingness after being deceived into love. Their logic is: He treats me so badly, why would I be reluctant to leave him? Two possibilities: 1. I am a stupid woman; 2. He deserves my love. And I am definitely not a stupid woman, so it must be because he is worthy of my love.

What they don’t know is: no matter when, a man who is domineering and brutal to girls, is very jealous, beats women, and throws tantrums and cries and rolls around, is definitely not a mature and stable partner or lover, but is definitely a bad man. The best way to deal with him is to get rid of him as soon as possible. Their outward personality is like a melon with a rotten skin; there must be a bigger rotten part inside. In other words, the men mentioned above are bound to suffer from paranoid personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, and various bad habits. But girls in this kind of relationship are particularly vulnerable to harm, and are easily controlled and brainwashed. So I don’t understand what I really want.

Although they say they want to find a good man, what they actually need is an out-and-out bad man. They say one thing and mean another. Even if they are lucky enough to meet a good man, they generally don't like him. Firstly, once you have seen the world, you will never be impressed by other puddles. Once you have taken Demerol, painkillers will no longer work for you. Secondly, good men generally do not have enough emotional experience and cannot understand girls' psychology well - of course, no one except emotional veterans and professional liars can have this learned skill. Perhaps due to age pressure they accept good men, but they still can't help but find fault with them, thinking this one is not tall enough, that one is too poor. Even if she meets a perfect husband candidate, she cannot fall in love with him. As a result, in life, she will involuntarily be cold and picky towards him, and often almost break up with him. Once reminded by others, she feels bad and acts nice to him out of guilt for a while. The good times didn't last long, and the same mistakes happened again after a while. Their reason and emotions are at war, and then they will hesitate, be entangled, confused, and contradictory. In the end, most good men will leave.

In economics, there is a similar and unique phenomenon. For example, the price of an authentic bag is 6,000, while the cost of a replica ranges from 100 to 500. Put everything online for free competition. What do you think will happen in the end? The answer is shocking: many people buy low-priced counterfeits, but very few buy genuine products. High-quality counterfeits priced between 4,000 and 5,000 sell best. What does this phenomenon tell us? - A truly good man who is romantic, passionate and good in every way is like a brand-name bag, very expensive and rare, and only a few people can afford it. Most people can only buy a replica because the pattern looks good. If you clearly cannot afford the price of the genuine product but still want the genuine product, people will of course try to trick you with a fake product that they hype up to the sky. In fact, if love comes too quickly, is too passionate, too romantic and psychedelic, it most likely contains an element of deception, unless you are as wealthy as Paris Hilton, more beautiful than Fan Bingbing, more elegant than Lin Chiling, and younger than them. Otherwise, he is most likely a liar.