Men's mentality of sexually harassing women

Regarding sexual harassment, women are more likely to be harassed by men, but it cannot be said that there is no sexual harassment from women to men. It’s just that men seldom take it seriously, because many times once they do take it seriously, there are often factors that are very disadvantageous to them.

However, the silence of some men does not mean that all men do not care. Some time ago, a man complained about being sexually harassed by a young female boss.

Netizens envy such things. What's more, there are men who actually call the police when faced with the harassment of beautiful women: a beautiful boss confessed her love to an employee and was rejected, and the police were cruelly called. Of course, this article is not about the topic of men being sexually harassed, but focuses more on the situation of women being harassed.

In particular, some young women have been sexually harassed by their male superiors, and young and beautiful female college students have been sexually harassed by their male teachers.

According to the survey, more than 50% of female college students have experienced sexual harassment. The survey also found that 23% of female college students believe that the current sexual harassment situation is "very serious" and 60.4% of female college students believe that the "situation is serious." Sexual harassment or sexual assault causes lifelong pain to the victims and has an impact on their personal life and development.

Next, let's take a look at the general psychological state of men who sexually harass women and what causes men to sexually harass women.

So how should we reject and deal with sexual harassment?

Let's first look at some common ways men harass women:

(1) Verbal sexual harassment: obscene language, describing personal sexual experiences or pornographic literature.

(2) Behavioral harassment: intentionally bumping into or touching sensitive parts of the opposite sex; inducing or forcing the opposite sex to watch pornographic videos, publications, or photos, etc.

(3) Environmental harassment: designing obscene pictures, advertisements, etc. in the work environment.

Sexual harassment is very complex and has no absolute age or occupational boundaries. It can be roughly divided into the following six categories:

(1) Compensatory sexual harassment

Most sexual harassers belong to this type of men. Due to long-term sexual deprivation or sexual hunger, the momentary impulse caused by it will inevitably lead him to make indecent and offensive behaviors towards women. The harassment behavior of this type of person is mostly motivated by varying degrees of loss psychology, and the purpose of the harassment is more to take advantage of the woman than to possess her.

(2) Gaming-based sexual harassment

Most of them are men who have had sexual experience, understand women's weaknesses, regard women as playthings, and are indecent and disrespectful to women out of a deliberate playful mentality. This type of man is usually a "master hunter" or a playboy. The purpose of harassment is partly for curiosity and partly to prove one's own male "potential" and "ability".

(3) Power-Based Sexual Harassment

It often happens between bosses and employees or superiors and subordinates, especially female secretaries. Most harassers are well-educated. Although they harass others out of a gaming mentality, their behavior is more “advanced” and “polite” than that of ordinary gamers.

This kind of harasser usually regards women as “consumer goods”, and because of the obvious interest relationship, he even thinks that women like this kind of harassment and regards it as his “patent”.

(4) Aggressive sexual harassment

Most of these men have had unpleasant relationships with women in their early years. They have a strong dislike and hatred for women and regard women as inferior animals or enemies. His harassment is intentionally harmful or aggressive, and the harasser sometimes does not want to possess the woman, but only wants to satisfy and balance his contempt and hatred for women.

(5) Pathological sexual harassment

This is sexual harassment with obvious pathological manifestations, such as so-called voyeurism and exhibitionism. Most of these male harassers are truly sexually dysfunctional. The harassment itself can bring him strong sexual impulses and sexual fantasies, but it cannot "cure" him. Instead, it will aggravate his condition.

(6) Impulsive sexual harassment

Mostly refers to young people in puberty. Due to their youth, curiosity, or low cultural quality, they do not know how to respect women and do not have the necessary self-control. Their harassment of women mostly starts with sexual impulses, mostly occurs between acquaintances, and often begins with games and jokes. This type of harasser usually has no intention to harm, but mostly wants to show off his "ability" and "manliness" as a man.

It is sometimes difficult to fit sexual harassers into just one category; their psychological profiles can be overlapping.

So how should women deal with sexual harassment from men?

The first move: romantic but not coquettish

Be beautiful but don’t be coquettish. Don’t always say bad things about your husband but brag about how much he loves you. Being dignified and proper will not let perverts think that you are a casual woman.

The second trick: Make others' hands short

Perverts always use some tricks to "fish" you by giving you gifts or roses. Or they may just take it and throw it in the office or say jokingly: "Thank you, I have N handsome guys to give it to you, keep it for yourself!"

Tip 3: Say No When You’re Awkward

Your retreat and evasion will allow the pervert to become more aggressive. At this point you can half-jokingly say, "If you do this again I'll be mad at you!"

The fourth trick: If you feel disgusted, just shout

If a pervert is trying to touch you, you can try shouting twice. If you are in a hurry, you can lift up your skirt and let the pervert take off his pants, and then you can run away!

Tip 5: Reject ambiguous space

Don't give perverts any chance to take advantage of you. For example, avoid sitting with pervert's boss at a dinner party at night. Don't go back to the office alone with a pervert after drinking. Don't let the bastard go upstairs when you are sent home.

Tip 6: "Appointment Tonight"

Remember, if a pervert invites you, it's like a weasel coming to pay New Year's greetings. You can trick him away by saying that there's a class reunion tonight, or your child's parent-teacher meeting, or your second aunt's 60th birthday.

Tip 7: Bring a female companion to a date

Don't be alone with a pervert, such as going on a date alone, and don't drink the drinks given by a pervert casually. If you really have no other choice, bring a female companion with you.

The eighth move: Among the thirty-six strategies, running away is the best

If your lecherous boss gets into a fight with you, either both of you will die or I will leave. If I can't find a supporter here, I'll find one elsewhere.

Finally, the editor would like to give you a piece of advice: Be a civilized person. No matter you are a man or a woman, don't engage in such disgusting sexual harassment on others. It will not only hurt others, but also yourself. Once something goes wrong, all your friends around you will know that you are such a person. How can you keep your face? Right?