The "secret" behind men's lust

Want to understand men? What secrets do they have when it comes to sex? The following few secrets about men's sexual world can help women enter men's inner world.

1. Men vent their emotions through sex

In modern society, men are under increasing pressure in social life, especially in highly competitive jobs. Promotions, salary increases, customer development, etc. all put men in a state of tension all the time. So many men use sex to ease their emotions. In addition, when there is an emotional crisis between a couple, men often hope to reduce the conflict through physical intimacy, but this approach is often not understood by their wives. Instead, they think that they are being used as a tool for the man to vent his emotions, and thus develop a disgusted mentality. In fact, men are very fragile in most cases. Their low emotions need to be released and they desire to be understood.

Therefore, when you know this psychological state of a man, when he is at a low ebb, take the initiative to approach him, encourage him, listen to his confession, and then give him a woman's gentle comfort and hug, which will deepen the relationship between husband and wife.

2. Praise his sexual ability

In the life of a couple, no matter whether the men are thin or strong, they often have a kind of worry. They will doubt their sexual ability for no reason. They don't know whether they can be regarded as Mr. Mighty, and they are worried that their wives will underestimate their performance. At this point, if there is a lack of communication between the couple, the man will be even less likely to get the affirmation he expects, and will become even more confused and helpless. On the contrary, if a woman can give a man positive encouragement and praise him with words like "You are really great", "You make me very happy", etc., then the man will become very confident and will work harder to show his masculine charm, thereby making the woman happier.

3. Refusing to be a child

A woman's motherhood is often seen as a kind of beauty by men. He may need you to care about his well-being and take care of his daily life like a mother. However, if you treat him as a child in your married life, it will be difficult for him to treat you in a sexual way, and the maternal characteristics at this time will weaken your sexual attractiveness as a woman. So, remember: you are his wife, not his mother.

4. Women need to take the initiative to "attack"

Although men are willing to be the protagonists in married life, they also hope to have the active cooperation of women. Almost 90 percent of men said: "If she could act a little wild sometimes, I would be more excited, and I think both of us would feel better that way." Therefore, women are free to actively express their sexual desires without worrying about being seen as promiscuous by men and acting too shy.

5. The contrast between men before and after sex

The "coldness" shown by men after having sex is a more concentrated "opinion" of women towards men. Indeed, most men are much more gentle before and during sex than after sex, and he may become silent in an instant while being full of passion just now. Therefore, women naturally think that men only pursue sex and do not understand love. In fact, this contrast of men has nothing to do with emotions. In addition to their physical fatigue, this is also a time for them to readjust and control their emotions. When a man makes love, he reveals his true self, and when everything is over, he will immediately feel that he should return to his daily state and restore his majestic image as a man.

6. Face up to men’s masturbation behavior

Once there was a wife who saw her husband masturbating by chance. She felt very disgusted and even thought her husband was a pervert and a hooligan. In fact, both men and women may masturbate, and it does not necessarily disappear after marriage. Usually men have stronger sexual desire than women. If they cannot get satisfaction from their wives, they will occasionally resort to masturbation to solve the problem. As long as it is not too frequent, this behavior should not be blamed. As a wife, you should face this fact and take the initiative to strengthen communication and cooperation with your husband in order to achieve a more harmonious state.

7. “A Lecher” is a Real Man

Are men really lustful? Answer: Yes. In life, you will often find "signs" of their lust. For example, when they are shopping, they will look around at the beauties within their field of vision; they can't put down some adult magazines and DVDs; and adult websites make them linger. In life, many women express contempt for this kind of "face" in men, believing it to be a sign of lack of culture and pornography. In fact, lust is a man's true nature, but precisely because it is almost instinctive, it cannot be concluded as moral corruption. Women should be more tolerant of this and believe that men are just satisfying a visual feeling. This does not mean that they will be fickle in their emotions.