"Gender equality" doesn't work here.

Nowadays, it is an era that emphasizes the pursuit of "gender equality". People say that women's sexual physiological responses are the same as men's, and there are roughly four stages: excitement, climax, orgasm and ending. Orgasm is a systemic reaction and activity caused by extreme excitement of the central nervous system, including tenseness of whole body muscles, rhythmic contraction of vaginal muscles, and even involuntary tightening of pelvic muscles; heart rate can reach 180 beats per minute; systolic and diastolic blood pressure increase by 20 to 50 mmHg respectively; sweating all over the body, etc. At the moment of achieving high pleasure, you will feel ecstasy as if you are thrown into a room or flying in the clouds, which is truly wonderful. Since sexual physiological reactions are the same for men and women, some people believe that it is not right for women to always be "passive" throughout the entire process of sexual life. In order to achieve harmonious and perfect sex life, "equality between men and women" should be promoted.

This view is actually a biased formalism and does not conform to the characteristics of male and female reproductive organs. Therefore, the one-sided pursuit of "equality between men and women" in sex life may not necessarily achieve satisfactory results. The reasons are as follows:

Male-dominated sexual methods are more likely to arouse the sexual interest of two people

It is well known that men's muscles are tough and strong, and their reproductive organs are characterized by their firmness and aggressiveness. If men lose this characteristic, the sexual process cannot be completed. In contrast, women's muscles are soft and their reproductive organs are loose and easily accommodated. Psychologically speaking, men tend to be rough, competitive, and aggressive, whereas women tend to be delicate, tolerant, and able to accept whatever comes their way. Based on these characteristics, men should be on the offensive and women on the defensive. In the sexual life of couples, the man attacks and the woman defends is a commonly used sexual method. In addition to being influenced by traditional culture, its physiological and psychological factors cannot be ignored.

Sexual satisfaction depends on how the husband plays his role

Since men play a dominant role in sexual intercourse, the husband's actions, on the premise that the wife can happily receive the other party and cooperate well, are related to the very practical issue of whether both of them can reach orgasm. At this time, the husband's sexual knowledge and level of cultivation will affect the entire process of sexual life. For example, if the wife has not yet reached the stage of sexual excitement, the husband should be patient and understand that sex is not just "intercourse" but the fusion of "spirit and flesh". At the beginning, the husband can use hugging, kissing, caressing, touching and gentle words to stimulate the woman's sexual desire and passion rather than violent actions to drive the woman to a higher level of sexual excitement.

It is well known that men's sexual behavior is more active, proactive and aggressive than women's. The sex life of many young and middle-aged people is often as fierce as a hungry tiger pouncing on its prey. But once you reach orgasm, you will feel like a "deflated ball", tired and sleepy and want to sleep. But women's sexual excitement comes slowly and goes slowly. After two people reach orgasm at the same time, the wife needs a slower time for the sexual excitement to subside, and still needs her husband's caress. If the husband falls asleep without even a word of tenderness when his wife is still excited, or even snores loudly, the wife will feel dissatisfied. Not only will she feel physically uncomfortable, but she will also be prone to psychological dissatisfaction. Over time, it will easily lead to sexual frigidity and sexual confrontation in the wife. Therefore, when two people reach sexual satisfaction at the same time, they should not fall asleep immediately, but hug each other and say sweet words. This will not only promote mutual care and consideration between husband and wife, promote mutual trust and happiness, but also contribute to physical and mental health, and adjust physiological and psychological functions to the best state.

Women's active participation can better arouse men's sexual excitement

Harmonious sex life between husband and wife is not only a means for human reproduction, but also an important part of promoting marital affection and creating a harmonious and happy life. It is of great benefit to both husband and wife. However, in order to achieve tacit understanding and harmony in sex life, it requires both the initiative of the husband and the cooperation of the wife, because sex life is something that can only be accomplished through cooperation between husband and wife. Both men and women have the responsibility and obligation to be the protagonists of "sex affairs". They have the right to enjoy sexual pleasure and the obligation to make the other party get sexual pleasure. Therefore, women should change the traditional passive mentality of "simply accepting" and should not obey their husbands in everything. Just imagine, how can a wife who is in a completely passive position experience sexual pleasure? Therefore, the best attitude is: when men take the initiative to "attack", women should actively cooperate and participate.

Once you have sexual desire, you should take the initiative to send sexual signals to the man. Expressing it directly with direct language is certainly straightforward, but in real life, many wives are happy to send sexual signals in an indirect way, such as intentionally wearing a thin, translucent pajamas; or half-lying on the bed shyly and affectionately; or decorating the room very warmly, with soft lighting and a fragrant smell, no less than the scene of the wedding night... The highest level of sexual life is the combination of "spirit and flesh", so the wife's positive and happy mood and active actions, combined with the guidance of the wife, can enable the man to master the best "skills" and rhythm, and can enrich the content and style of sexual life.

On the other hand, from the perspective of women, although they are "passive" in form, the functions they play are not divided into primary and secondary. First, when a man is proactive but in poor spirits (sexual weakness or even impotence), a woman's timely initiative will induce and mobilize the man's sexual desire. From her love and consideration for her husband, the husband will feel the charm of his wife, thereby deepening the relationship between the couple and easily leading them to orgasm at the same time. Secondly, when a woman encounters something unpleasant or is in low spirits due to physical discomfort, she can naturally tell her husband the reason why she cannot have sex in order to gain his understanding and inspire his love. Doing so will play a certain positive role in making the sex life between couples more harmonious and happy in the future.

The physiological structures of men and women are different, which leads to different physiological reactions. Sex is about harmony and enjoyment for both parties. If we talk about "equality between men and women", it would be redundant. As long as both men and women can enjoy sex, that is what we call equality!