Grasp the 8 key points to turn leftover women into "winners"

First, know your needs

No matter what we do, we must know where our needs are. Only by determining our needs can we find the correct coordinates and know where we are. This is the key to success. When it comes to relationships, although we shouldn't be too utilitarian and often lose our minds and don't know what we want, if the boss introduces someone to you today, you meet someone from the boss tomorrow, and you meet someone online the day after tomorrow, and you keep running around like a headless fly all day long, this is obviously not the right thing for leftover women to do in order to successfully get married.

Before looking for a partner, you may not know his height, weight or body shape, but you must know whether his smile is warm; you may not need to understand his career and hobbies, but you must understand his life values; you may not even care about his wealth and status at all, but you must estimate his abilities and know the bottom line that you can accept. Of course, it doesn’t mean that you have to grasp it precisely, but at least you should have thought about it, pursued it, and struggled with your choice. Maybe you don't have to know exactly what you really need, but you must know which ones or what kind of things you can't accept completely, absolutely, or at all. In fact, this is also an understanding of one's own emotional needs in marriage.

Second, learn the necessary changes

The reason why quite a number of leftover women are left over is not because they are left over by others, but because they are left over by themselves. To put it in a positive way, they are persistent and infatuated; to put it in a negative way, they are obstinate and sentimental. They don't know how to seek change and always want others to completely agree with them, but they don't know or can't accept other people's requests for change. In this way, even the smallest problem becomes a big problem. It is really rare for one person to change while the other does not. If it does happen, it is just love, but definitely not marriage.

Maybe you think that it is better to be alone than to be in the wrong relationship, but “better to be alone than to be in the wrong relationship” does not mean that you should be inflexible, nor does it mean that you should be alone without others. Instead, it means that you should learn to understand your needs and know what suits you, so that you can wait in a targeted manner based on your needs. There is a state called changing for love. It is a victory after persistence, and it is a willingness to change for love. But in real life, many leftover women just don’t understand this truth.

Third, treat feelings neither servile nor overbearing

Feelings are not commodities. If they are cheap, they must be sold at a low price. There is no distinction between high and low in feelings. Even if there is a price tag, its high or low does not lie in the appearance, age or status of the subject, but in his or her heart and spiritual world. See whether he/she is calm and composed, whether he/she is neither arrogant nor impetuous, whether he/she is neither humble nor overbearing... The same goes for leftover women. The emotions of leftover women are in their own hearts. It does not mean that you can just find anyone to marry when you are older, and it does not mean that you can be arrogant and ignore many people just because you are beautiful and have status. Both situations can only lead to the same result, that is, leftover women will continue to be left alone.

Men have to beg women with their hot faces, and women have to find a man to marry, and they have to make concessions on marriage based on their age. These are the harmful effects of marriage. The truth should be: leftover women should be self-reliant, leftover women should wake up, and be neither humble nor arrogant. They should not only have the courage to be single and prefer to be alone rather than marry the wrong person, but also have the calmness to humbly adapt to the environment. Getting married or not is only a change in life status, not a change in life value.

Fourth, forget the past and treat the present well

Let’s talk about another state of leftover women. In real life, how many women are left behind because they are obsessed with the past and cannot extricate themselves? Women are "love-loving" animals. Love-loving often makes them tied to old love and indulge in memories and illusions of the past. This is a very negative and dangerous signal in life. If you can't forget the past, you can't treat the present well, and you can't grasp the future.

Of course, this is not to ask you to be ungrateful and heartless, or to forget the past, but to hope that you can let go of the past, live a happier life every day, and show your youthful, beautiful, confident and happy side to the people around you. Only in this way can you have good appeal and popularity with the opposite sex in your present and future love and marriage.

Fifth, don’t be superstitious about love, but pay attention to character

There must be love in this world, it’s just too rare. It is precisely because of its rarity that it proves how precious love is... Love cannot withstand the test of two things: one is time, the other is purity. So, you can believe in love, but please don't count on love. Love is never unreliable. If there is one thing about men that women can rely on, it is only his character.

A man's character determines his loyalty, the value of his money and status in front of you, and the base of your marital happiness. It is like the 1 at the top of your happiness index, and everything else is just 0.

Sixth, don’t blindly pursue romance, focus on reality

Don't blindly pursue romance. It doesn't mean you should give up romance. Playing with romance is actually playing with reality. Lying dormant for a whole winter just for a fleeting moment of spring night. Romance is just a flower that grows in the soil of reality. It needs fertile soil and warm sunshine, and its flowering period will not be too long. So, if you insist on treating romance as a home-cooked dish, it is definitely your fault.