Women most likely to have premarital sex

1. Pursuing a so-called "new" way of dating

In the 1990s, Chinese society has entered a high-level, fast-paced, and colorful period. Lifestyles are changing, and the way of falling in love is also changing. Some young people mistakenly believe that the way to fall in love in the 1990s was to have sex at every opportunity. Some young women said: "Conventional love is incomplete. Real love should be broad-minded. Since I love him, I can give him everything." "Love should give freedom to the loved one, why wait until marriage?" "It's the 1990s, being affectionate is meaningless, I want to be ahead of history", etc. Driven by the desire to pursue new trends, they quickly move from first love to passionate love, and from marginal sexual behavior to core sexual behavior. The intoxicated hugs, kisses and caresses arouse the strong impulse of sexual physiological instincts, which makes it difficult for reason to resist. A survey found that 44.67% of women had multiple sexual relations within six months, of which 50.33% were willing and 80.33% believed it was a personal matter.

According to my country's sexual ethics standards, the most intimate forms of sexual behavior between men and women during a relationship can only be kissing, cuddling, and caressing. Sexual intercourse can only occur under the condition that the marriage relationship is protected by law. Doing whatever "trendy" things you want is a sign of a lack of responsibility.

2. Advocate for various sexual freedom concepts

In recent years, with the influx of Western cultural thoughts and the occasional spread of sexual culture in our country, the traditional sexual morality with deep cultural heritage has been impacted. Some young people blindly worship various Western concepts of sexual freedom, and have a strong desire to break through the so-called traditional sexual morality. Some young women said: "We are facing great waves from all directions, and even rational women will feel confused -" The music box of morality has soothed the contradictory and painful souls and bodies of some young people today. Their sexual concepts have been equated with primitive instinctive needs. Therefore, some young women believe that “since I am mature, satisfying my desires is a physiological need.” Some say, “As long as I am happy in love, it’s fine.” Others say, “Why worry about pregnancy? Sex is not a sin,” and “A woman is not a complete woman if she has not had an abortion.” In the survey, 32.67% of women believed that “chastity is not very important,” and 19.7% did not care at all after having sex and said, “That’s just how it is,” and so on. Once the concept changes, the behavior changes accordingly. When their love is still at the stage where they don't know how to steer the boat of life rationally, they are burned by desire and engage in sexual behavior that should not have happened too early. Some have sex with their boyfriends periodically, and some, although they have a premonition that the two will not eventually get married, still maintain that special relationship as before. Distorted sexual concepts lead to distorted sexual behaviors that are out of control, resulting in "irresponsible consequences."

3. Satisfy curiosity and exploration of sex

In today's cultural environment, sex has gradually torn off the veil of concealment. For some young women, talking about sex is no longer a taboo or something they are ashamed to talk about. Instead, talking about sexual desire is as easy and normal as talking about appetite. However, since many books and periodicals focus on the introduction of sexual organs and sexual life, and there is a lack of education on sexual psychology and sexual morality, coupled with the increase in sexual aesthetic shots in film and television, as well as the frequent sight of people hugging and kissing on the streets and in the streets, this cultural atmosphere has deepened and realistically defined the vague awareness and curiosity about sex in teenage girls. Girls have evolved from being relatively ignorant of male sexual physiology, why two sexes feel sweet when they are alone together, and what it means to get pregnant through sexual intercourse, to no longer being satisfied with what is introduced in books and periodicals and what is witnessed on screens, on streets, in the entertainment industry, and under the moonlight. Instead, they want to try and explore it themselves. As a result, during a relationship, they sometimes actively and curiously propose or do not reject sexual requests from men. The survey shows that 64.3% of women have sex out of curiosity and impulse, and only regret it when they become pregnant and have to have an abortion.

4. Be grateful for your boyfriend’s admiration and love for you

Although they also understand that women's chastity is very important and should never be sacrificed easily, they cannot hold their ground under the constant stimulation of their boyfriends' admiration and love. Some of them are because their boyfriends are very attentive to them and provide them with great help in study and life, or because their boyfriends have made great sacrifices to solve many difficulties for their relatives. I often feel uneasy and a feeling of gratitude arises spontaneously. When a boyfriend makes a sexual request, the girls worry that refusing him will hurt his feelings, so they regard satisfying his sexual demands as a way of expressing their gratitude for his kindness. This situation accounts for 18.3% of the survey respondents.

5. Eliminate your boyfriend's worries about you.

Some women feel that their boyfriends meet their own criteria for a mate and are their ideal "handsome man". They fall in love at first sight and have a feeling that "once you miss this opportunity, you will never get it again", so they take the initiative in the relationship. However, for some men, the more proactive the woman is, the more he thinks highly of himself, and even starts to worry about the woman, becoming overly cautious and having an ambiguous attitude. In order to show their sincerity, some women hurriedly pledged themselves to men, while others, in order to avoid being abandoned by men, adopted such immature, unwise and clumsy actions as they were said to "tie a man's heart" and "lock love with sex".

6. Upgrade your love relationship

Many young women regard "sex" as a measure of love, believing that only sex can maintain and develop love. Some people believe that having sex before marriage is a procedural requirement of love and a necessary step. If it happens early, the relationship can be established sooner, which can upgrade and deepen love and strengthen the cohesion of both parties. Under the influence of this sexual concept, they gave their all too quickly.

7. Maintaining a Marriage Engagement

A survey in Beijing showed that among young men and women who had premarital sex, 90.7% were in a clear engagement relationship, but were unable to get married for various reasons, such as lack of housing, financial difficulties, working in different places, or not reaching the legal minimum marriage age. In order to maintain this marriage relationship, the two parties often have sexual intercourse.

8. Understand your boyfriend’s sexual function

Research shows that this type of motivation is more common among older unmarried people. They realize how difficult it is to choose a spouse and hope to live a happy life after marriage, so they are cautious about getting married. They are willing to have sexual intercourse with lovers they are satisfied with before marriage in order to understand each other's sexual functions.

9. Resist environmental resistance

This is the reverse effect in the psychological development of love. Young men and women in love, after getting to know each other and confirming their relationship, always hope to get support and approval from the people around them, especially their parents and relatives.

However, if they encounter unexpected and rude interference, interruption from others, strong opposition from parents, and obstruction from relatives and friends, instead of ending the relationship, they become more passionate and closer, using the fait accompli of "the rice is cooked" to resist these obstacles and make the relationship successful.

10. In exchange for vanity

In today's society, with the continuous impact of the commodity economy, some young women have extremely strong vanity, and have developed a serious comparison mentality and pursuit of high consumption. Their "love" standards tend to be "rich men and beautiful women". Some people are willing to spend money like water in order to pursue sexual pleasure and to get beautiful women. Therefore, some women, in order to satisfy their vanity, do not hesitate to exchange their bodies for money and soon give up their "first time". Others, under the temptation of money, their "love" keeps shifting, leading to pregnancies of "unclear origin".

The above are 10 misunderstandings about the psychological motivations of women's premarital sexual behavior. It reflects that young women have great differences and one-sidedness in sexual cognition, sexual awareness, sexual concepts, and views on love, which should be taken seriously by relevant education and social parties.