5 psychological reasons why “desperate men” demand sex before marriage

Premarital sex is no longer a rare thing in modern society. There are too many boys and girls who have their first taste of sex during their student days. However, it is usually the men who initiate sex. Of course, one reason is that men's physical desires are stronger than women's, but what are the psychological reasons why men want premarital sex? Let's take a look at the 5 key points summarized.

1. Can identify virgins

In modern society, although virgin is not a compliment, almost every man hopes to marry a virgin, and there are still many men who have a virgin complex. Based on this complex, in order to ensure that they can find a virgin to take home, some men will rack their brains and ask to "test the virginity with their own body" regardless of the woman's repeated opposition and rejection.

If the other party is a virgin, everyone will be happy and all their worries before getting married will be dispelled; if she is not a virgin, they can make other plans and even avoid a breakup. In short, they will not allow themselves to take any risk by marrying a non-virgin. The more open the society is and the fewer virgins there are, the more they want to take this "peace of mind pill".

Our view on this is: perhaps men’s obsession with virginity is understandable and even worthy of pity. However, it is extremely sad and shameless to disregard the woman's feelings, to use one's own narrow-mindedness to harm others for personal gain, or even to engage in despicable conspiracy.

2. Unable to bear physical desires

I have always believed that men who have never experienced sex are generally not mature. Because they cannot feel from some details and exchanges how a woman should be caressed by a man, how this caressing can be both doable and undoable, can be both unrestrained and patient, can be both gentle and barbaric.

As for a woman who has not married you and has not yet made up her mind or is unwilling to give her body to you, perhaps all you can do is caress, understand and be patient.

In our opinion, if this is achieved, it is more of a kind of love. It is this kind of love that makes them rational, able to suppress their immediate interest, eager but able to wait, and able to balance desire and responsibility. The maturity that comes after this is far more reliable, long-lasting and powerful than the maturity gained through sexual behavior alone.

3. Think this is a sign that a woman truly loves him

To be honest, I still can't understand this perverse logic that is popular on the Internet - if you love him, give it to him. So I can't help but ask: Does a woman have to give her body to a man when she falls in love with him, and this must be before marriage, before marriage when he cannot give her any protection at all? I think this statement is neither logical nor reasonable, right? There is no love without reason in the world, and there is no giving without reason.

Any effort you make is only reliable if you are willing to do it, and it is real only if it happens naturally. Otherwise, anything imposed or forced is immoral and ridiculous.

Here, I want to say to all the men who hold this idea: If you really love her and want to get her, then treat her well, treat her with your heart, solve all her worries, dispel any concerns in her heart, make her willing, and give herself to you without hesitation.

4. Check the sexual harmony after marriage

In real life, although there seem to be many reasons for the failure of a marriage, more than half of them are related to the lack of harmony in sex life. So, from this perspective, I am not really against men asking for premarital sex. It is a pity that in real life, there are not many men who can have such thoughts completely and purely. Perhaps they value their own pleasure during sexual intercourse more. As for whether women can get happiness, they often do not bother to consider it. Their so-called test of sexual harmony after marriage is mostly based on personal feelings.

Of course, it must be pointed out that the harmony of the sexual life of a man and a woman cannot be simply verified from a short-term cohabitation before marriage, because everyone has different physiological cycles, and living environment and work pressure are constantly changing. At the same time, the most important thing is that sexual techniques can mostly make up for the disharmony. Therefore, although this reason is not without reason, it is mostly just an excuse.

5. Simply venting physical desires

As for the last reason, I don’t want to talk about it in detail, because it doesn’t even have the most basic technical content. To put it bluntly, it is just playing with women and using marriage as bait to trick you into going to bed with him. As for the love that frequently comes out of the mouths of these men, it is simply laughable. It not only contaminates the environment, but also defiles the Holy Spirit. If a woman believes these lies, she can only blame herself.

Of course, men's premarital sexual behavior also includes other factors or several of these factors. I wonder what the psychology of the majority of male compatriots is?