Love first, then sex, or sex first, then love?

In an era where extramarital affairs are commonplace, winning a man's heart is a compulsory course for women. In order to keep men by their side, female friends try their best and study countless love secrets everywhere, just like a real Sherlock Holmes detective.

First to bed vs. first to fall in love

Some women, in order to keep a man, recharge themselves everywhere to enrich their inner selves and make themselves more elegant; some women, in order to keep a man, learn cooking skills, hoping to keep a man's stomach first and become a great chef; some women, for the sake of men, quit their well-paid jobs and become full-time wives, becoming yellow-faced women, taking care of their husbands and children at home; some women, in order to keep a man, are willing to give up everything they have, even their most precious virginity; and many women, in order to prevent men from looking at other women, end their relationships early and start living together, hoping that he will be alone every day...

For the sake of men, women can be said to put in a lot of effort, giving their love and even their sex. So is it sex first and then love or love first and then sex that will make a man remember your kindness and stay with you? Let's take a look today.

Love first, sex later

In Chinese tradition, people tend to love before sex. If you think that the person you are hugging is a stranger who you don't know and have no feelings for, would you feel a little bit of excitement?

In ancient times, men and women were not allowed to touch each other, and only after marriage could men touch women's bodies. At that time, people believed that women who had sex before marriage were immoral and shameless. This tradition has been passed down, and people follow it and do not offend authority.

This kind of love-first-sex-later relationship makes a man full of countless longings and expectations for you. He thinks you are a good girl who will not give yourself up easily, so he will cherish you more and be more excited when he gets you.

However, there is a prerequisite for love before sex, which is what kind of man your boyfriend is. If he does not value a woman's virginity at all, then he will not think that the virginity you have reserved for him is so precious. He may think that women look exactly the same when they take off their clothes. If he is such a person, no matter how much you give to him, he will not stay for you.

Sex first, love later

As the times progress, people's thinking is also progressing, especially when it comes to women's virginity. Many men believe that as long as two people are together, they can have a relationship, and even two people who don’t know each other can have a one-night stand. For them, sex can be without any emotions, they only pursue physical needs and satisfaction.

Precisely because people have gradually become indifferent to the importance of sex, many men have had improper relationships with other members of the opposite sex outside of love or marriage. Some have mistresses, some have lovers, and some just go directly to prostitutes.

Men believe that the main purpose of marriage is to continue the family line. If the sex life of two people is not harmonious, then a sexless marriage is equivalent to nothingness. Therefore, before confirming a romantic relationship, men will first experiment to see if they can have a harmonious married life with a woman.

However, the only ones who are hurt in this way are women. Maybe the man is not satisfied after sex, so he may abandon the woman. Maybe he decides to start a relationship after sex, but due to incompatibility of personalities, the woman can only swallow the bitterness silently.

Where is a man's heart? The key is the man

Whether a man's heart is with you actually does not depend on you, but on the man. If he really doesn't want to stay, then no matter how much you cry, make a fuss, or threaten yourself, he will still choose to break up without saying a word; if he really cares about you, then no matter how you drive him away or how dislikeable his human nature is, he will still stay with you and you can't drive him away.

Sex today is not as important as it used to be, and people don’t take it too seriously. A man can easily find a strange woman to have sex with, so if you give your body easily, not only will you not win his heart or keep him, but he will also think you are not noble enough and are a frivolous woman, which will make him walk away.

But true love is hard to find nowadays. As long as you are sincere to him, you will find that after the test of time, he will stay by your side and never leave you.

To capture a man's heart, the key is not the woman, but the man. If he is the type of person who cannot see your efforts, is not grateful, and does not cherish them, then your efforts will be in vain in his eyes. Therefore, it is easier to be happy by finding someone who cherishes you than by finding someone you love.