A guide for first-time sex for a girl with no sexual experience

Ms. Li, a lawyer who is nearly 30 years old, is charming and beautiful, exuding infinite charm. She and her husband, Mr. Dai, were college classmates and got married after graduation. Although she was no longer a virgin at that time, her sexual experience was very limited. “I know I should enjoy sex, but it just isn’t fun for me.

I read books and followed the instructions, but to be honest, I had to fake an orgasm every time - because I didn't want to disappoint my husband. ”

Climax Confusion

According to research, women aged 20 to 30 are most likely to put themselves under psychological pressure to reach orgasm. Many women cannot reach orgasm at this age. The reason is generally simple and easy to correct. That is because they don’t know much about sex, and the couple (or one of them) does not have enough understanding of the function and location of the female clitoris. The clitoris is the only organ in the female body that is solely responsible for producing sexual pleasure, while the male body does not have a similar organ.

Studies have found that women are more likely to reach orgasm during masturbation because the clitoris can be fully stimulated at this time. Ms. Wang, 26, has a deep understanding of this: "I have received traditional education since I was a child and have never heard of the word 'masturbation'. It was not until I entered university that I learned about the clitoris. Later, I read a passage in a book that described a heroine who brought herself to orgasm by masturbating in a bathtub. I thought it was wonderful... After I knew how to bring myself to orgasm, I could give him more accurate hints. For example, I could use moans or body swaying, or give him many positive responses when he touched the right place."

Indeed, women between the ages of 20 and 30 are least likely to masturbate. Without this personal experience of orgasm, they can only become imposters pretending to have an orgasm.

Lack of security

Ms. An, a 26-year-old writer, recalled a sexual experience she had when she was 20: "He wanted to try something new, but I was reluctant. I was a little scared, but after trying it, I began to feel relieved because I saw that he had a lot of fun and I had the most wonderful experience of my life. I almost fainted with excitement. I still remember that after the incident, I sat on the bed and laughed unconsciously, as if I suddenly realized, oh, so this is what they are talking about!"

For many women in their 20s, insecurity is the biggest enemy to sexual pleasure. While they are deceiving their partners into believing they are experiencing ecstasy, they are actually worrying about their own performance. Unfortunately, the relationships women enter in their 20s are typically short-lived and fail to foster the intimacy and mutual trust that are essential to a fulfilling sex life.

On the other hand, the more a woman enjoys sex when she is young, the more satisfied she will be later in life. Therefore, it becomes particularly important to refuse to accept a bland sex life. Take the time to explore your own sexual interests and let your partner know the best ways to please you.

Sexual frequency between 20 and 30 years old

According to data, about 13% of people of this age have sex every day, one-third have sex more than once a week, and more than half have sex once a week. If you belong to the "asexual" group, please don't worry, there are 17% of sisters like you.

30 to 40 years old: Enjoy the pleasure of sex

Women between 30 and 40 have very strong sexual needs. Although at this time, the challenges they face in love and career will reach their peak, and they usually have to face the pressure of pregnancy and breastfeeding. However, surprisingly, women of this age enjoy sex and orgasm more than women of other ages. According to the latest report, nearly 89% of respondents said they can enjoy orgasm regularly.

Climax

Women are able to thrive in this phase largely because they have learned the lessons of the previous decade. Ms. Li, a 37-year-old shopping mall manager, said: "Young men orgasm too quickly, leaving us no time to enjoy it properly. More mature men can not only last longer, but are also more considerate of their partners' needs and are happy to satisfy their partners."

Sexologists also agree with this view: women reach the peak of their sexual desire between the ages of 30 and 40, while their male partners' sexual desire begins to decline at this time, and the two are balanced. Physical changes aside, for most women in their 30s and 40s, sex goes beyond thrill-seeking to become more satisfying. Most women have established a monogamous relationship with their partners at this time (those who are not married are probably working towards this goal), and sex becomes an integral part of this relationship. A couple can create pleasure at any time. Explore each other. Enjoy yourself in an unrestrained environment, which is why women can enjoy a happy sex life between the ages of 30 and 40.

Indeed, many times, a trusted partner can help a woman reach orgasm during sexual intercourse and increase her ability to enjoy it.

Sexual frequency between 30 and 40 years old

According to data, you are the person who enjoys the most orgasms during this period. More than half of women in their 30s can orgasm during sex.

40 to 50 years old: The older you get, the better

The following conclusion may surprise you: Women between 40 and 50 enjoy more sexual pleasure than other women. Because women at this age are very familiar with their bodies and know their secrets well, this opens the door to a sexual paradise for them. Although some studies have shown that women's orgasms at this stage are not as frequent as those in their youth and some women may experience vaginal atrophy, many women believe that this is the golden age of sex for them.

Mrs. Miller, who just celebrated her 49th birthday, paints an uplifting picture of sex at her age—one her peers agree is very apt: “Sex is at its best between 40 and 50. It’s the age when you finally mentally let go and subconsciously know what you want and how to get it.”

As women get older, their self-esteem and embarrassment issues will be resolved. "An older woman has a better understanding of what she wants and doesn't want...she has access to her own body and knows how to feel pleasure."

Multiple orgasms

Because they are aware of their needs, women of this age are more likely to have multiple orgasms during one intercourse, while men of this age can usually only have one orgasm at a time.

"My sex life since I turned 40 has been the best of my life," said Ms. Lu, 46. “I feel free and subconsciously aware of my body. It inspires me to be innovative and do things I never thought of before. I’ve been married and divorced, raised three kids on my own, and now in my 40s I feel free again.”

From a sexy and sensual point of view, the fifth decade of life is indeed the most abundant one. And for many women, the pleasure only increases, not decreases.

Sexual frequency between 40 and 50 years old

According to data, less than one-third of women in their 40s have sex at least once a week. Women of this age are also often keen on using sex aids such as vibrators.

Indeed, whether you are 20, 30, or 40 years old now, the flowers will surely be more fragrant and the scenery will surely be more beautiful on the road ahead!