Revealing the age group when women are most likely to cheat

A survey conducted by the Singapore Family and Juvenile Justice Centre showed that marital relationships are most likely to have problems when the average age of the husband is 40 and the average age of the wife is 37, and the divorce rate is also quite high. After more than ten years of living together, the adjustment period has long passed, so why can't they escape the marriage crisis?

Life's trivia accumulates into resentment

It is very common for men to be 40 and women to be 37 years old to find that couples are physically together but spiritually apart.

A survey shows that 20% of couples eventually divorce because of poor communication over trivial matters. The daily necessities accumulated over many years of marriage have become the most hurtful weapon.

The first three years of marriage are the adjustment period, the seventh year is the dangerous period, and after ten years is the burnout period.

The average marriage age for a 40-year-old man or a 37-year-old woman is around 10 years. In the first two or three years, everyone is in the adjustment period and is still tolerant; after six or seven years, they all know it is very dangerous, so they are cautious; after 10 years, everyone feels that the other person is like their right-hand man, and thinks that family affection has replaced love, so small things that were not a problem before will be brought up for quarrels, and small quarrels can become very hurtful.

In addition, after 10 years of marriage, the couple has become very different from when they got married, both in appearance and in their behavior. The differences in personality, outlook on life, views on money, attitudes towards educating children, ways of dealing with stress, etc. will all be exposed without reservation during this period. Any one of these problems is enough to paralyze the marriage.

Professor Zhu said: "The longer the marriage lasts, the more accustomed people become to each other, and the easier it is to ignore the importance of mutual understanding, and the relationship gradually fades."

In this regard, Professor Zhu believes that no matter what the problem is, both husband and wife should communicate honestly, and avoiding the problem is not a solution.

External temptation leads to derailment

After 10 years of ups and downs in a marriage, the passion gradually fades. If the mentality of both parties in the marriage is not adjusted in time, it may create opportunities for an affair to occur.

Professor Zhu pointed out that men in their 40s have overcome the naivety and fanaticism of young people, possess the talent and experience of middle-aged people, and are not lacking in the wisdom to judge the situation. On the one hand, these mature behaviors allow them to continue to stand out in their careers and attract the admiration of young people of the opposite sex; on the other hand, they will become increasingly dissatisfied with their original stable marriage status and hope to seek new changes.

If the wife does not adjust her state in time, the middle-aged man will be attracted to the young women around him and have an affair. Many of them even file for divorce from their wives.

After the passion fades, there are two types of behaviors among women in their thirties and forties. One type of people, like men, are not satisfied with the status quo. Most of them will seek comfort from their colleagues and friends, and some will even develop to the point of divorce. The other type will consider many factors and either try hard to save the marriage or silently endure a miserable life without love.

Uncoordinated sex life separated the two

Differences in sexual ability are also the reason why marriages between men and women in their 40s are experiencing problems today.

Professor Zhu said that on the one hand, women have the strongest sexual ability and desire when they are in their thirties and forties, while their middle-aged husbands are facing a decline in sexual ability. Some even refuse treatment despite suffering from erectile dysfunction.

This will lead to discord between the two, and in serious cases the woman may take the initiative to file for divorce.

On the other hand, some middle-aged women in this age group may go to the other extreme of severe sexual degeneration due to factors such as taking care of children and health deterioration.

If the husband's sexual desire is still strong, this will become an excuse for him to cheat.

Professor Zhu finally said that marriage is like this, full of unknowns. Couples who hope to be married for 10 years should, on the one hand, be prepared for emotional accidents, and on the other hand, work hard to ensure the stability of their marriage.

Abnormality 1: Careful makeup and frequent bathing

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Abnormality 2: Frequent overtime and many social activities

Often delaying going home on the pretext of working overtime, or often saying that you are playing at colleagues' or friends' homes, are very dangerous signals. Especially the sudden increase in social engagements and dates is definitely an illusion of taking advantage of the situation during the incubation period.

Abnormality 3: Long phone calls, no messages

The inbox is often emptied, they answer the phone in a low voice or with an unusual expression, or talk on the phone for too long behind the back, or simply hang up in front of others. Can you say there is nothing wrong with this wife?

Abnormality 4: Busy with housework, angry for no reason

Trying to cover up the inner anxiety by doing things, so often busy with housework, and try to avoid talking about topics related to the person involved. During this process, due to the extreme inner contradictions, it is very easy to get angry for no reason.

Abnormality 5: Sexual indifference and bad temper

Cheating women often just go through the motions during sex at home, without any passion at all. They think that if the man does not work hard or take the initiative, he is dispensable. In their hearts, they often compare their lovers with their husbands, and always feel that their husbands have no temperament and no grace, while their lovers are superior. This is reflected in daily life, where women complain, blame, criticize, and throw tantrums more often.