Why do you keep the man who loves you out?

A woman who loves freedom too much

The reason behind this: She is busy with work, fitness, exhibitions, concerts, meeting friends, and vacations. But she didn't have a single minute to herself. Where is the time for a man in her schedule? In fact, she makes her life so full just to leave no room for a man to have a place in her life. Where does this extreme desire for self-control and fear of losing control come from? Most likely, her parents like to give orders, always judge her actions, always criticize, and always look at her with scrutiny. If she couldn't say "no" to this kind of scrutiny when she was a little girl, she wouldn't be able to face men when she grew up. So she chose to close herself off and leave no gaps.

We don’t know whether freedom or love is more important, but what we do know is that when you choose love, you are destined to sacrifice part of your freedom for love. You must know that extreme freedom is contradictory to love. If you yearn for freedom, you must pay attention to the premise of not conflicting with love.

How to overcome this fear? Face past failures and acknowledge your own responsibility for them.

Always asking too much of men

The reason behind this: The bad thing is, what she said is true. What's worse is that she believes that the other party will only love her if she is useful. She is often attracted to men with scars and will try to heal their wounds. But this is a relationship between the sexes built on pain. While she loves the other person, she also feels that the other person loves her. But the man was a vampire: when she had given everything, he left and abandoned her. And she will say to herself painfully: "I have done so much for him, but he..." She usually holds such a view of love due to the influence of her parents. Her mother must have often said, "I don't understand why you are still single! You can make a man happy!" And this has nothing to do with love.

Every woman hopes that her man always puts her in the first place and constantly challenges the limit of a man's tolerance. You must know that there is never equality in love. If you ask the other party to keep giving to you, if you think you can get as much as you give, then you are wrong.

I always feel like I can't find the right person

The reason behind this: She is right. She didn't meet the right person. Because she was unwilling to take risks, she told herself that she would definitely lose before she went to the battlefield. She refused to face the possible dangers of love. Her rejection of feelings is a cover-up for her lack of confidence. Moreover, if someone advises her to start a relationship, she will quickly admit: "No matter what, I'm a waste!" What kind of mother does such a self-depreciating woman have? Does her mother say more frequently: You can only find a man if you lose weight, stop cutting your hair, be more feminine, and go to more social occasions? Or does two-thirds of her sentences begin with "My poor daughter"? In order to get out of the pain of self-deprecation, a woman who resigns herself to fate may shift from "I am a waste" to "all men are waste." Oh, this is exactly what my mother always says!

Those women who always talk about fate usually end up with a tragedy. Don’t say that opportunities are reserved for those who are prepared. If you pray every day for a good man to fall from the sky for you? Then in the end, you may end up with a big "tragedy"!

The reason why overly powerful women often scare men is: of course men are afraid of her because she is strong and confident. No one saw that there was a hurt, crying child in her heart. What childhood trauma is she trying to repair as she grows up? What is she rebelling against? Her father, grandfather, brother, boss or ex-boyfriend? Has she seen her mother repeatedly humiliated and secretly resolved not to repeat the same mistake? Because she rejects the hope and need for an emotional life, she has to make herself more independent. She wants to be in control of her own life, and she doesn't think anyone can live up to her expectations. Some might say she overestimates herself. But in fact, she has been hovering between inferiority and self-conceit.

A strong woman with a strong heart

Many men are often discouraged by her strong aura, which makes men feel depressed. No matter how successful a woman is in her career, if she is too strong in love, she will not get any good results.

What we need to understand is that before we can conquer a man, we must first become masters of ourselves. Face up to your past.

Yearning for Plato's pursuit of asexual love

The reason behind this: She likes her job, has many friends around her, and in short, she knows how to manage interpersonal relationships, as long as sex is not involved. What she fears is not love but sex. Many women don't realize this. Before, she had been able to face this fear in the arms of her partner, anyway. Nowadays, celibacy has become accepted by everyone, so she simply adopts this form to avoid sex. As time goes by, her fear of sex will gradually deepen. At least she cannot feel at ease in today's sexualized society. Additionally, she worried that she couldn’t enjoy sex, which kept her stuck in an “abnormal” state.

I don't know when it started, but women feel that men are with them mostly for sex. However, sex and love are inseparable. Love without sex is incomplete and imperfect. If you are overly obsessed with pursuing a platonic love, it will probably end in a miserable way.

How to overcome this fear? Increase your body's sensitivity through dance, movement and body therapy.

After being hurt, I refuse to accept others

The reason behind this: she had lost a man, she left him or he abandoned her, and she was addicted to the pain brought by love and couldn't extricate herself. She couldn't get out of an unreal relationship. Or maybe she always has a dream lover: a father, a brother or a friend. In short, she didn't know how to overcome it. As a victim of past relationships, she is unable to take control of her own life or start a new relationship. She is trapped in an imaginary relationship, so she rejects new relationships in order to continue living in her own imaginary world. She is single, but she is not lonely, she just can't start a new relationship.

It can be said that everyone, whether male or female, is very likely to fall in love. If a woman blocks her heart and refuses to accept what others say because she has been hurt, it is very unfair to her and the man who likes her!