5 tips to improve your chances of picking up girls

Recently, there have been reports online of "a man pretending to be low-key, tall, handsome and rich, chatting up 8 girlfriends on WeChat and defrauding millions of dollars" which has attracted great attention and heated discussion among the public. Picking up a conversation, which Beijingers call "调瓷", has become a popular way of actively getting to know the opposite sex in various places in recent years. If you are lucky enough to meet your soulmate (the goddess of your heart), how should you approach her?

One afternoon, Miss Kobayashi was strolling alone on the pedestrian street. Suddenly a man came up and asked politely, "Miss, what time is it now?" Xiaolin said apologetically, "I'm sorry, I don't have a watch or a cell phone with me, so I don't know the time."

1. The method of surprise

Applicable types: Suitable for both men and women

One afternoon, Miss Kobayashi was strolling alone on the pedestrian street. Suddenly a man came up and asked politely, "Miss, what time is it now?" Xiaolin said apologetically, "I'm sorry, I don't have a watch or a cell phone with me, so I don't know the time."

At this time, the man stretched out his hand, showing his watch, and said, "I know it is 3:50 pm Beijing time now. There is a movie starting at 4 o'clock in the cinema over there. Can I invite you to watch it?"

Probability of success: ★★★

Friendly reminder: This method is applicable to both men and women and is only suitable for people with a sense of humor.

2. Direct attack

Applicable types: Suitable for both men and women

Zhao Zhao came out of the cafe with a few friends, and the man who had been paying attention to her in the cafe followed them. Zhao Zhao laughed secretly, wondering what the point of such childish tracking was. The man quickened his pace to catch up, walked a few steps in front of her, spread his hands to stop her, looked directly at Zhao Zhao, and said very seriously: "Hello! My name is **, I am a third-year student majoring in ** at C University. I really hope to meet you and be friends with you." The friends laughed in good faith, and Zhao Zhao also laughed and said to him: "It's okay to be ordinary friends. Hello, my name is Zhao Zhao."

Probability of Success: ★★★★

Friendly reminder: Sincerity is the biggest secret to a successful pick-up. In front of the other person who is at a loss, you can gain their trust by introducing yourself frankly first.

3. Utilize your free time

Applicable types: Suitable for both men and women

Xiao Wang went to Beijing on a business trip. He was stranded at the airport due to a flight delay. Just as he was feeling bored, someone patted him on the shoulder. He turned around and saw that the person taking the photo of him was actually a beautiful woman. She asked, "Are you also taking flight **? Is it really delayed?" It turned out that the beautiful woman was also traveling alone. Xiao Wang suggested that they go to the airport cafe for a drink, and the beautiful woman readily agreed.

Probability of Success: ★★★★

Friendly reminder: Use the free time while waiting for the plane to date. The environment and atmosphere are good, and there is a hint of loneliness in traveling that makes you feel like we haven't met before, so the chances of successfully chatting up someone are higher. Similarly, this method is applicable on trains and ships.

4. Leave words on the vest

Applicable type: Male

Xiao Si often saw a girl on the bus he took. One day, the girl finally found an opportunity to talk to him. She sat behind him, and Xiao Si vaguely felt that something was going to happen. Sure enough, she suddenly felt a tingling sensation on her vest. He didn't look back, but he knew what she was doing. When they arrived at the station, Xiao Si got off the bus as usual.

On the white T-shirt he wore was written: I see you every day, can we be friends? My phone number: 139...

Probability of success: ★★

Friendly reminder: Not every man has the good manners to let you write on his vest. He may jump up and shout, "Oh my god! My CK!" As for women who love clothes, this method should never be used!

5. Leave a message on the palm of your hand

Applicable type: Men, generous women

For the specific situation, please refer to Sanmao's "The Rainy Season Will Never Come Again". She found the boy she had secretly loved for a long time on the playground. Without saying a word, she took his hand and wrote her name and home phone number on the palm of his hand. A silent romance that is more powerful than words spread in the hearts of the two young men.

Probability of success: ★★

Friendly reminder: When you rush up to grab his (her) hand, you may need to give a simple explanation, such as: I am not a bad person! Etc., otherwise you may be misunderstood as a robbery. After all, not everyone can appreciate the state where silence is better than sound.

6. It is difficult to find a way to know yourself

Applicable types: Suitable for both men and women

During the Mid-Autumn Festival, there was a power outage in the school. Two girls, Momo and Mosquito, wandered around the campus, with nowhere to go and no one to love them. Just when he was feeling depressed, he suddenly saw two boys passing by with guitars on their backs. After silently discussing with Mosquito, he boldly walked up to them and asked, "Can I hear you play a song?" Perhaps the hazy moonlight, the annoying power outage and the girls' pleading made their hearts move, and they readily agreed to go on a date with them.

Probability of Success: ★★★★

Friendly reminder: Everyone likes to show their strengths, especially those with special talents, and this reason sounds beautiful.

7. The rogue way to make a living

Applicable type: Men, kind women

This is the devilish pick-up method taught by Zhenzhen. At lunch time, she came to the casual restaurant she often visited, took a rice spoon, and walked directly to the man she liked very much. She said to him with a confused look on his face: "Your food looks delicious, can I have some?" He blushed and stammered: "Please, please." The laughter of his friends reminded him, and he quickly added: "Why don't I order one portion for you."

Probability of success:★

Friendly reminder: It’s said to be the devil’s pick-up method.

8. Humbly seek advice

Applicable types: Suitable for both men and women

Hedda saw a girl in a red swimsuit who swam well in the breaststroke at the swimming pool. He swam to the girl and asked, "Hello, you swim breaststroke very well, can you give me some pointers?" The girl looked at him suspiciously, and he immediately said, "I can swim butterfly stroke, why don't we exchange lessons?" The girl smiled.

Probability of Success: ★★★★

Friendly reminder: Be truly humble and hide your ulterior motives. There is a possibility of being rejected, but at least it won't be embarrassing.

9. Praise with all your heart

Applicable types: Suitable for both men and women, especially women

Dong Su caught up with the girl coming out of the mall and asked, "Excuse me, how do I get to Renmin South Road?" After the girl showed him the way, he took a deep breath and said, "Oh my God, can you tell me what perfume you use?" She immediately looked at him warily, and he explained, "I've been looking for this perfume for a long time. Did I buy it in this mall? What brand? How much was it?" A series of questions just about perfume made the girl relax her vigilance. She kindly told him the answer and took the initiative to take him to the counter. Of course he bought the perfume, but he gave it to her as a gift.

Probability of success: ★★★

Friendly reminder: Be careful to only ask what you want to ask, and don’t make the other person feel that you have other ideas in mind. No matter how many holes there are, flattery never wears out. Everyone likes to be recognized for their taste. Moreover, people are kind by nature. When he (she) tells you the answer, he (she) will also have time to get to know you carefully and decide whether it is worth leaving your phone number.

10. The theater method of finding a partner

Applicable type: female

At the theater entrance, Haiyang was holding two of the most popular tickets, but his friend who had made an appointment to come with him suddenly broke the promise. He wanted to watch it but felt it was boring to watch it alone, and he was unwilling to sell it to scalpers. At this time, a pair of girls nearby were asking scalpers about ticket prices. Just as they were discouraged by the price and were about to give up, Haiyang walked over to one of the girls and said, "Can I treat you and your friend to a play?" He gave the tickets to the two girls with only one request, which was that the girl who talked to him would treat him to tea in the future. The selfless act immediately touched the girl, and she took the initiative to arrange a meeting time and place.

Haiyang left happily. He thought it was a good deal to exchange a play that he could watch or not for an unknown love affair.

Probability of Success: ★★★★

Friendly reminder: This kind of selfless spirit is very impressive, but girls tend to hang out in groups, so don't make a bad suggestion to only invite one person to watch, otherwise the probability of success will drop to 0 immediately.

11. Sending love messages via mobile phone

Applicable types: Suitable for both men and women

Dandan met him at the light rail station and fell in love with him at first sight. After getting on the bus, she kept thinking about how to strike up a conversation with him without being misunderstood as a slut. As the bus was about to arrive at the station, she thought quickly and walked up to him and said, "Can I borrow your phone for a moment?"

Maybe she looked really anxious (of course not for making a phone call), so he immediately handed her the phone. After Dandan pressed a few numbers on it, her cell phone rang. Looking at him who was confused, she smiled and said, "My number is on your phone. Can we keep in touch later?"

Probability of Success: ★★★★

Friendly reminder: Although cell phone robberies happen frequently, there are mostly kind-hearted people. As long as you don’t look “criminal”, you can usually borrow someone’s cell phone. This method is both subtle and effective, and is worth a try.

5 tips to help you successfully chat up the opposite sex

Tip 1: Make yourself a "fate-friendly person"

Whether you take the initiative or be passive, making yourself appear to be someone who is approachable and willing to make friends is the first key to a successful pickup line. Social psychology research has found that people who smile, make eye contact, and blend in with their surroundings through body language exude the invincible charm of "society-friendly people." Therefore, you should take the initiative to make eye contact with others and nod slightly when your eyes meet to convey respect and friendliness. If you are at a party and everyone has a glass of wine, your hands must not be empty. If there is music, your body should dance to it. In this way, those who are interested in you and those you have a crush on will be happy to be close to you.

Tip 2: Find clues from the environment and speak elegantly

If you just go up to someone and say, "I like you very much. Can I get to know you?" If you're lucky, you'll hit the jackpot, but more often than not, you'll scare people and make yourself look bad, haha! The smartest way is to look for clues from the environment so that your opening can be generous and not abrupt. For example, in a supermarket, you can ask: "Do you know this brand of product?" In a library, you can say: "I also like the book you borrowed." In a coffee shop, you can say: "This is my first time here, is it your first time here?" If you can politely add a sentence before you speak: "I'm sorry to bother you, may I ask...", it will be even more pleasing!

Tip 3: Praise a woman’s temperament and affirm a man’s ability

Some men will start by saying to a woman: "You are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen..." This kind of direct compliment sometimes makes people feel wary. If you want to compliment the other person, a better way is to focus on her temperament: "I admire girls who are quiet (generous) and elegant like you..." And if a woman takes the initiative to make friends with a man, it is often easy to get a positive response from the perspective of asking for help: "My phone is broken (or my laptop has a problem), could you please help me take a look?" Give men the opportunity to demonstrate their abilities, they usually enjoy doing so. If a woman wants to compliment a man, she can also use a more roundabout way. When a man does something thoughtful for you (such as getting you a drink), the best compliment is not: "Wow, you're so thoughtful!" A better response is: "You know what? I really appreciate thoughtful men!" This way, the other person knows what you're doing without being too explicit. Next, both advance and retreat will be appropriate. If the gentleman has no intention, you won't feel embarrassed.

Tip 4: Make a feint to the east and attack in the west, attack quietly

If you see someone of the opposite sex you like but it is not appropriate to speak directly, you can first find someone of the same sex as you and start chatting, speaking louder (hey, you have to make sure he/she can hear you!): "Hi, how are you! I'm so-and-so, are you here alone?" Start a conversation between the two of you, and after a few words, you can casually turn to the person of the opposite sex you have targeted and invite him/her to join your conversation: "Hey, what about you? How did you know so-and-so?" When we don't feel like we are being approached deliberately but are invited to join an ongoing conversation, we are usually happy to participate. So, go to a party and find a same-sex friend to accompany you and you can make use of this method. But remember, when the conversation is getting good, this partner should find a reason to disappear so that you can create an opportunity for a deep chat alone.

Tip 5: Create an opportunity to meet again

Don't forget to turn today's initial connection into a long-term interaction. A more natural way is to say something like this when you talk about a common hobby. "That's great. I have a group of friends who are movie fans. Let's invite you to the movies next time!" You can use this casual way to say, "Please leave your contact information. I will definitely find you next time!" Or simply say, "I am very happy to chat with you today. Let's exchange experiences next time when we are free!"

The above is a detailed introduction to 5 tips to help you successfully strike up a conversation with the opposite sex. I hope it will help you further understand the psychology of both sexes. In daily life, if you fall in love at first sight, you might as well try the above methods to chat with him (her) and enjoy your world of two happily.